Sometimes I just HATE my husband!

United States
August 19, 2007 6:46pm CST
I just hate it when he lies to me when the truth is right in front of my face. He must think I'm stupid or something. He will do little minor things, and when I ask him about them, he will lie! Why does he see the need in lying to me? Does he think that him lying will make me feel better? Tell me, does your spouse lie to you? Tell all!
6 responses
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
19 Aug 07
why do you put up with it? do you call him to task over it??? my hubby and i are christians, so we dont lie to each other...its just something we dont do...
• United States
20 Aug 07
I'm NOT putting up with it. I'm going to let him lie to me, and I'll be a furious bit*ch until he admits to me the truth. If he don't, I'm GONE! I just hate lies. Thanks for the response.
@ranitam22 (1146)
• United States
19 Aug 07
My ex boyfriend was like that, I was with him on and off for 7 years. I think that one of the reason he would lie about stupid stuff, even though he knew I already knew the truth was because he didn't like confrontation. He really wasn't much for arguing. He just wanted the discussion to be over as quickly as possible. He was a real charmer. Is your husband like that or am I way off.
• United States
20 Aug 07
You are truly right, he DON'T want to have any confrontation. He is all out to lie. I just hate it. I just wish he would be more honest with me. I mean, I still love him and all, I just hate him for lying to me about menial things. Thanks for the comment.
@youdontsay (3497)
• United States
20 Aug 07
One of the primary characteristics of adult children of dysfunctional families is that they lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth. So it may be something he learned growing up. I is frustrating to be lied to, especially about things that don't seem to matter. But if he isn't really working on changing that behavior, the best thing for you is to acknowlege that he is going to do it and expect it of him. Because we each will be whomever we are. Expecting others to be different is crazy-making. There sounds like a lot to deal with in your life. I hope you are as strong as you seem to be and make it through it all.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
20 Aug 07
I suppose it's something you should clear out with him, and let him know that even if its just small things, if he persists on that attitude, your trust towards him will resent also for major things. He should understand it.
• United States
20 Aug 07
I had an ex-girlfriend that lied all the time. Seems the reason people lie is because they have something to cover up. It IS because they are doing something they shouldn't be. My ex- was cheating on me. That is why she lied all the time. Not for the fact she didn't want to talk about it. Because she knew if we talked about it. WE wouldn't exist anymore. It is a stupid cycle that shouldn't exist. My advice rather it be good advise or not. Give it sometime. Try to talk to him about it. Let him know that you know he is lying. If he doesn't change, his ways after that. He NEVER will, and you need someone who will treat you good. Good luck.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
21 Aug 07
My husband does not tell lies. He will do something which i may not like and tell me its fine with him. At times, it is very frustrating and yes, i think we all hate our husbands at times. Maybe your husband feels that by telling lies all the time, you will get so fed up asking him, you wont bother and then he will have his own way out.