Do you feel that you get respect from family, friends, and peers?

@worldwise1 (14887)
United States
August 19, 2007 8:08pm CST
I was thinking about respect, and what it means to have it. That led me to question myself about whether I get the respect I desire from my family members, friends, and peers. I decided that on a scale from 0 to 10 I average about an 8. That's not too bad. How would you rate on this scale?
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17 responses
• Malaysia
20 Aug 07
Thanks for starting this discussion. I've never thought about it until now. Well, to be honest I think the respect I receive from my family members always change according to our mood, lol. Sometimes they respect me but sometimes they neglect it. I hope it could be consistent so that no feelings would be hurt. In overall I would give a seven as a point. But from friends I think I receive more respect, probably an eight.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Thank you for your honesty, ladysurvivor. It would be nice if we could all have 100% respect all of the time from friends and family, but we are not perfect and we don't live in a perfect world.
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@Laurla98 (786)
• United States
20 Aug 07
What a great question!! I would say with my husband it would be about an 8. But I am the youngest of 7 children & I would say they respect me on a level of between a 2 thru 6 depending on the sibling. I think they can't get passed the age difference & they think I don't know anything because of it. Its very annoying. But I figure I would rather have my husband and childrens respect more than anyone else's at this point. Their opinions don't really matter because they don't live with me & don't really know my life that well.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Great response, Laurla! I admire people who can be honest about everyday things. Being the youngest in my family, I got a totally different reaction from my siblings. They have always highly valued and respected my opinions(although, not my decisions). I agree that the respect of the people you spend the most of your time with matter most when it comes to respect.
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
20 Aug 07
well i would say a 10 for all respect towards family and friends.i was brought up that those who respect you,will get respect back.i respect everyones opinions on life no matter who they are because we all have a freedom of speech.im a very repectful person,and hopefully it wont ever change.take care,god bless.
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
20 Aug 07
This is an interesting thought... Hmmm.. I'd definitely say that I have respect from my family and friends. That would be a 10 I'd have to say, because I was brought up to value respect and I know that's the level I have for all of them, I'd like to think it's mutual. As far as peers, knowing that respect doesn't necessarily mean agreeing with someone or even liking them, I'd say I have an 8 or 9 average in this area. Respecting others and acting respectively definitely earns it. Great topic =]
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Thank you Malyck, for your insight into this subject. You must really be a great person. Gee, I do think I would have come out better in this poll had I been a little less opinionated and argumentative.:D
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
20 Aug 07
Haha, don't get me wrong, I'm definitely the debating type, but I guess I've learnt when I'm wrong, or when to "agree to disagree". I'd like to think that's where my respect comes from - people understanding that I have opinions that I'll share even if no-one's on my side. Apparently that takes a lot of guts? =P
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
Respect is something gained. At home we respect everybody. And this made us respectable individuals too because we know how to respect someone. My friends respects in what I believe in. Because they know that even if I tell them straight of what I think, they know I can respect the ideas they have and what have you. Here in mylot, I gave my respect to everyone. No matter how Christian I am, I see to it that I consider others religious and non-religious as God's creation. I think respect happens out of love. God is of love. God bless!
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
I forget to mention the scale. I think it does not matter. But to give a figure I can say its 9. God bless!
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Thanks for the nice response, beauty. Everything you said is so true. We do have to earn respect. And I agree that we have to respect others.
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• India
20 Aug 07
you are right maam. respect is so very important, sometimes more than love itself. i am on 2 i would say right now and that is all because of money, i wouldnt say this to any one but you. because i feel good talking to you. but thas not the point. respect is so needed. i always try to respect people who come my way, it helps in many ways but sometimes the outcome of it is strange, the other thinks that this guy is stupid. anyways. love and sencerity, apple.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I don't think you have to have money to gain respect, apple. If that was the case I'd probably be rating about a 2 myself. If you are not receiving respect from your friends and peers maybe you should get a better class of friends. Money shouldn't enter into it. People who really love you respect you for who you are.
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• India
20 Aug 07
you are right. i should get a better class of friends. these words will be with me for long till i some real good friends come my way na di will never forget you for this wonderful eyeopener. really you are wise. i appericiate it. this apple.
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@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
world peace - mutual respect is the first step towards world peace
I'm a firm believer in the importance of respect. I believe that mutual respect is the solution to most conflicts, be it interpersonal or between countries. It should be the universal rule. If only we learn to respect each other there would be much less fights, less wars, and less divorce. This world would be a much better place to live in. I receive a pretty good amount of respect from my friends. I mostly earned that by being an honor student. As for my family, it's very difficult to get respect when you're the youngest. They tend to think that you're always a baby who knows nothing and is capable of nothing. But slowly and surely I'm earning my family's respect by being a responsible adult. But the most important way to earn respect is by giving it. You can only expect to be respected if you respect others as well.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Everything you said is so true, wisedragon. We would all agree that respect must be earned. When I began this discussion, I was curious as to why some people think they receive total respect across the board. I think that is unrealistic, at best. No one is universally liked and respected. It's like the character that gets murdered in a movie-everyone says that they had no enemies. We all have enemies. We just might not be aware of it.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
20 Aug 07
It depends. Most of my family I'd say between a 7-8. Theres a few that I'd say are more a 5 simply b/c we don't get along. AT PEACE WITHIN
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
That sounds like a very honest answer, twoey, because, let's face it, some people are going to dislike and disrespect you no matter what.
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@weemam (13377)
20 Aug 07
Thanks pal , Good discussion , I am very fortunate in that respect , I would rate mine a 9 or 10 , I see a lot of people though every day in the towns near me that have no respect for anyone or anything , I think a lot of it is the way they are brought up ,xx
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
You're right, weemam, it does seem that we are living in an age where some people don't know the meaning of the word. They neither respect themselves or others. It's disgraceful.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Great discussion! I think we all love to get the respect from our family and friends. Now I know I get respect from my friends, and I think on a scale of 1 to 10 I think I'd get an eight also...My only two family members I have now are my kitties and I would hope they rate me a ten! LOL If I were to tell you the rating score my mother probably felt toward me when she was alive it probably would only have been a two from her.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
That's very realistic, pyewacket. Thanks for the honesty. We would all like to say that we rate a 10, but that's not too realistic. To receive total respect we would most likely have to be saints(or friends and family would).
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@socorban (651)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I would say a 10 for me. The person i was is not the person i am now and i know I've earned a great deal of respect from my family for it. Also, it seems everyone i come in close contact with always comes to me for advice on anything small or large, I am well trusted by all i personally know. I seem to be the "leader" in any groups I'm involved with and people follow me without question and head what i say. If that's not respect for someone i don't know what the word is.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
It's great to have such a positive outlook, socorban. It isn't everyone that can say they get total respect! You must have a great family and loyal friends.
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@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Very interesting question. I never thought about it. After I think about it some more maybe I will come back and answer it.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
That's a good idea, naty. It is a question we should all ask ourselves at some point in our lives.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
22 Aug 07
I will scale it 10 out 10 so maybe I am just a lucky Person As we all do respect each other now if it would have been my Ex Husband I would rate 0 out of 10 as that is how it was
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@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
21 Aug 07
I feel I am respected by those around me. They ask me questions when they need advice, and they listen to me if I have a problem. They think I'm reasonably smart and nice. I guess I'd be an 8 too. Maybe a 9.
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@men82in (1270)
• India
21 Aug 07
Respected by friends I love lot and got all every sort of respects from my friends. From my family I never expected because nowadays it is our duty to run and coincide. Not only from my family from my relatives also I never expected respects.
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@sandwedge (1341)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 07
10. i rate a 10. how you rate yourself is what you think of yourself and not what others think of you. its called self esteem.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
I get a good amount of respect everywhere. I think it's because of how I live and who we are as a family. We respect each other at home and we respect people outside too. My friends respect me so much because I really go straight at them if they fail to do so. At one point in time, while preparing for a friend's wedding, we met constantly and the bride and groom is always late. My other friends were already angry because they keep on wasting our time. I really thought at that time that they were not respecting us as individuals. I walked up to her and talked to her in private. Told her that our lives are not dependent on them and we could call it quits anytime if they don't change, told them that we have our own lives to live and we don't need someone ordering us around or letting us wait because we don't deserve the treatment. After that, she learned her lesson and would really call me up a few hours before the set date just to tell me that she would be late. I think that is what respect is. Respect should be demanded and earned. It's not just a simple habit, because there are people who aren't brought up like you were. You need to tell them what respect is for you (specially if they fail to respect you as you want them to ~ This usually happens because they would think it's ok even if it's not for you). For my family, I'm well respected. I'd give a 10. For my friends, now it's also a 10. For my co-workers, I say it's also 10. Maybe it's because I don't really fool around. Well, there are times when I just do things for fun but not at the expense of another. =)