Do you believe that parents have favoritism among their kids?

Yup i believe in such bcoz my mom does it to me but even if she's like that i cn still feel her love 4 me there r certain time that she doesn't want to see me.

yes parents r the first and the best friends to u.......

I used to think that parents have favoritism among their kids. But now I know that they love their children equally. Everyone is different and they just try to give what each kids' needs.

Wow, the responses sure are divided evenly! As parent of three and from a family of two kids, I can honestly say that I don't think parents favor one over the other, but sometimes it sure seems like it to the kids. I remember feeling that my brother was favored when we were growing up, but in retrospect, it was just my parents doing their best to meet our individual needs and circumstances. Now, my girls will all tell me that we obviously like their sisters better than them. Interestingly, all three feel that way! We do treat them differently, but that's because they are different people with different needs. We love them all equally, and want the best for each of them.

Well, I'd say that when we are all young, we tend to think that parents play favourites. I used to think that my I am my father's favourite while my younger brother is my mother's favourite. However, I think just because we can relate more and get on well with either our father or mother doesn't mean that there is favouritism. I guess we realise everything once we become parents ourselves.

i'm sure not all parents just like u and i think some parents do have favoritism among their kids....

yes i certainly do..it may not be that in all cases but its out there..i know from experience..my sister was always number one in my moms eyes..she always got everything she wanted and always treated her like gold.i never felt good enough..and to this day shes like that and now shes doing it with our kids..my sisters daughter is spoiled rotten by her..and stay there whenever she wants..my son is 5 and yet has been able to go to grammas house to visit a few hours alone or even spend the night.,its aweful..but i have learned to accept it..my dad on the opther hand has never ever favored me or my sister..im just closer to him..

im glad you think that way. when i was growing up it was not that way. i come from a family of six and i am the baby and i was treated the worst. and i was even told by my mom that i was a mistake. so in some cases there is favortism.

I dont think like that, bcoz i never faced a problem like this and my parents are never treated me like that

well I have only one kid so I can't post about my experiences as you can :) But growing up I always felt that my Mom severely favoured my brother! I think everyone in the house thought that and still thinks it. Of course my Mom vehemently denies it but its plain to see, always has been. Its kinda funny but its also been a negative influence in his life. He is so lazy that he doesn't do much for himself, has no intention of moving out of the house and finds it hard to have motivation to do anything. All the while supported by Mom! So that kind of favourtism has a detrimental effect. But apart from that, I think that most parents do havae favourites, its just not as pronounced in better parents.

I don't believe parent's - as a rule - have favorites. WE recognize that each child is different and we might act differently with each one but not better with one than other. It happens sometimes, though, that we can relate more to a child than other, but still that doesn't mean that we favor that child, just that we have an easier rapport.

It's sad but true that there are parents who practice favoritism among their kids. I know so, because my own sister-in-law does this. She obviously favors her eldest child and youngest one because they excel more in school compared to her middle child who only makes average grades. She makes her middle child do all the household chores and never let her eldest and the youngest lift a finger and help their sister. My sister-in-laws explanation for this very unbalanced division of labor?She simply told us that her middle child can do all the household chores because she doesn't have to put more time on her school chores because she can't do more already. Unlike her siblings who really excels so that's why she just let them study. It's like a Cinderella thing, the way I see it. You're right that every child has their own unique personality. They also have their own strengths and weaknesses. So a parent should not favor a child over another. For one thing, it lowers their self-esteem and worse, it creates hostility between siblings. My niece(the middle child)have started asking why does she have to do all the chores? Why are her siblings not helping her?She now starts to doubt her own capabilities. That's the worse thing that can happen to a child.She now starts to think that she's not good enough for her mom. And that is just so heartbreaking.

i think sometimes in some families favoritism exists. It did in my family. my younger brother, "the baby", always got to do things that my parents would never in a million years allow me to do. They would always tell me oh no you can't do that, but when it was his turn to ask it was always sure go ahead. Now that I have my own kids they are all treated equally. I know what it felt like playing second fiddle so I would never ever let my kids feel that way. they are all number one in my eyes.

i'll give my opinion as a child. yes there's favoritism in my family. i always feel that my parents, specially my mother. likes my brother more than me. they always stand by his side when we were argued. my parents literally throwing away their money for his needs. as for me, well, yes they give me money if i ask for it, but it happen after a long argument, and they handing the money with grunted. and many other little things like gifts they gave at his birthday compare to mine. above all that, they often listen more to his opinion and to what he said. this thing makes me frustrated. often, i fell my parents didn't love me and i was at the point where i hate my brother because of this. it happened for a long time. but then me and my brother grew up, and my brother turns out to be a good brother afterall. and somehow i can let go of this problem from my head. i do realize from the beginning that my parents, whoever their favourite child, still love the other child. i think i finally reached a decision to focused on their love for me instead of their fovoritism. now, i don't care anymore about this favoritism thing, as long as i know that my parents still have some love for me.

I agree with you completely . I have five children and don't favour any of them over the other but have a different parenting approach with each one of them as they are their own person and have their own unique personalitly . Each and every one of them is special in their own way and I can't imagine my life without any of them as they all have something about them that makes them who they are and is what makes them so special to me . Each of them is so completely different then the other so their is something different to offer each one of them making our parenting abilities different but just as important although making the way we raise each one of them different but not having any favoritism for any of them over the other . I have always told my oldest that she will always mean something to me as she was my first . My second is my only son and this will always make him special my third was a long awaited child as we were told we would never have any other children and she came when my two other children were so much older . My forth is my baby as she is my youngest making her special and my fifth , who is actually the oldest of all of them is special because she is not our biological child but one we took in when she was older . They are all different in their own way but they all have a special place in my heart that the other couldn't fill so I need each of them to complete me as a mother and couldn't imagine not having all of them in my life as they are my life .

growing up, I used to think yes there was favoritism among my siblings, why? I thought mom and dad favored my eldest sister more than us,she had the best of my parents because they waited for her for 10 long years so you can imagine how happy my parents were when they had her..she never get scolded by my parents and never got any disciplinary acts,was never spanked or anything for that matter.. On the other hand, my second sister used to think that I was the favorite one,me being the youngest was of course the cute little darling of the family..:) Now, I realized that they both loved us equally..maybe in so many different ways because we are unique individuals but I'm so much assured of thier unconditional love.

I don't think that there is favoritism in most families. But in some families I can tell that dad or mom does tend to favor one child over another for various reasons. In my home, I have my daughter and my husband has two daughters from a previous marriage and they live with their mother. But when they are here, I love them equally. Children are all different and have their own unique personalities. It is necessary to treat each child individually. There is no blanket treatment for all children because each child requires different guidance.

Yes I do even though they dont want to admit it which you cant blame them because how can you admit you love one child more then the other. But I know my mom seems to like my sister more she is always nice to her never punishes her unlike me where if I leave a mess she will yell at me for that unlike my sister. But maybe mothers like daughters better and fathers like there sons better or they like whomever they spend the most time with.

For me no. Though I only have one kid today but i can say that when it comes to the parents of course no favoritism for them because all of their kids are came from their own blood and flesh, but children have their own way to deal with their parents and so as parents to their children. some are easy to approach and others are not that the parents need to have their own style to approach the other child. I've grown up in a big family and i dont think that our parents have their favorite among us.

I think parents love their children all the same, but in my family I've noticed a difference as my brothers & sisters got older. Actually, my dad has almost nothing to do with us and prefers being with my stepmothers children because they cater to their needs. We don't. My mom talks to me more than she does anyone else. I guess its hard to tell if thats really favoritism or just compatibility.