Have you Ever?

Canada
August 20, 2007 1:17pm CST
Have you ever had a friend come by to visit you and bring only her kids food from a take out resteraunt and let her kids eat it infront of your family? How would you reply with the rudeness you feel that is or would you not say anything? I'm the type of person if I'm going to be getting something to eat I offer to get my friends something or just eat at the place then go...
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• United States
20 Aug 07
If I ever plan to have something to eat before going over to a friends house I will ask them if they would like something, if not than I will eat at the place I had previously planned on going to or I will wait until I leave my friend's house before I get something to eat. It is rather rude I think to order out and than eat it in front of the people that your are suppose to be visiting. Some people just don't think.
• Canada
20 Aug 07
I agree either A she shows up with the kids already having their food and no phone call to ask or B she goes out and gets them food and not offer and brings it back...This is the same friend with the 4 boys hun LOL...
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• United States
20 Aug 07
Gee, I should have guessed that..lol! It makes me wonder if this woman forgot the manners her mom and dad taught her. Seems she is really lacking in that department. She really needs to get a clue, and realize that some things you just don't do and/or can be considered rude by others.
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• Canada
21 Aug 07
I know exactly who you are talking about and she does it all the time. I don't think your wrong in feeling that it's rude as I do too! I too am the type of person where if I need to eat I go do it, and then go to the friends house. OR I will call them on my cell, see if they want anything, and then go there!
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• Canada
21 Aug 07
yes I know exactly what you mean hun as we are alot alike in that respect...Also her attitude of thinking it's okay one of these days I'm going to have a talk with her...
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
I would bring it up with her if I were you, so she atleast knows how you feel. The only parent she has really had is her dad and he's ummmm ... how can I put this ... not so great in the manners and politeness department either lol.
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@jennifer611 (2502)
• United States
20 Aug 07
If I were buying my kids food and going to visit a friend, we would eat before we get there. or bring enough for everyone. I would think that would be rude, just imagine how that makes the kids feel. If a friend came over with her/his kids and they were eating in front of my kids, I probably would be really mad but just not say anything. I'm the type of person who doesnt open their mouth when things are bugging them. I hold it all in.. That can be good and bad.. good because atleast I didnt start any arguments with whoever I didnt open my mouth to.. but bad because if I keep holding it all in, I am going to explaod sooner or later and I feel so sorry for whoever has to deal with that! There have been a few times that I have bit my tongue and then later just exploded and went totally off on the person and quit speaking to them for a while.
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• Canada
20 Aug 07
yes I'm that type of person too or I have a tough time finding the right words to say to a person...Another thing I felt like doing is showing her the same respect by bringing take out into her home and let my kids eat infront of hers but I'm not like that and 2 wrongs don't make a right..Thanks for your response.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Aug 07
Well to be honest that is not a Friend and I would have asked her to leave before she gave her Children the Food as I think it is cruel and evil to do that to Children actually I would not even want to know a Person like that I have never done that and I would never do it That is so heartless
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• Canada
21 Aug 07
I totally agree with you Sweets and it's the same friend with her 4 boys...She has given me alot of topics lol..I'm happy that she lives an hour and half from where I do that she only drops by once in a blue moon...I don't call her as much as I used to and really don't care too..She has changed so much she never really used to be this rude.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Aug 07
Well I have to say I would actually break away from her Sweetie I just could not handle People like that
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• Canada
21 Aug 07
I have the only contact I have with her now is when she calls me...I will talk to her about it one day maybe she doesn't realize how rude and insensitive she has been I don't know but for now I'm keeping my distance.
@MsTickle (24983)
• Australia
22 Aug 07
How disgraceful. It amazes me that there are people like this. Where I live, if you go to visit people you always turn up with food. But it's for sharing. That must have been very uncomfortable for you and your family.
• Canada
22 Aug 07
yes it was very uncomfortable sometimes not only with the food issue but other things she says or talks about with my family here like my dad or my mother n law should not be talked about makes me wonder how her dad really raised her...thanks for your response hun.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
22 Aug 07
That is rude, i know if i'm going over to someone's house or even going to work and bringing in breakfast, I always call the person to make sure they are not hungry and don't want anything. That's just common courtesy. I don't feel comfortable eating in front of someone that doesn't have any food, i feel as though they would be staring at me and I would still feel obligated to ask if they wanted a bite. Eating in front of people who don't have food just causes a lot of uncomfortableness in my opinion.
• Canada
22 Aug 07
yes I agree it is rude and I'm like you...I'm going to mention to her about this one day she is a good friend most of the time but there are some things she says and does that need to be addressed...
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
21 Aug 07
That is very rude, however I would probably not say anything but I would tell her next timeshe is planning to come over that if she is planning take out to bring some for my kids as well. i would pay for it and that would maybe send a message that I do not think it is ok. They could have eaten before coming!!!
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• Canada
21 Aug 07
that is very good advice hun and thank you I will try that the next time she calls will bring up lunch or something hugzzzz
@Nanette99 (220)
• Canada
21 Aug 07
That sounds incredibly rude. I would be really upset if someone did this in my house. I doubt I would invite them over again.
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• Canada
21 Aug 07
She calls me when she is in the area and doesn't even let me know if she is bringing her kids with food or anything..I guess it all depends on how some people are raised I'm starting to see that with this perticular friend..
• United States
21 Aug 07
Well I would be upset at them. I would wonder why they did not eat at the restaurant they got the food from and then why if they were comming over they did not bring food for my kids or at least call to see if my kids have eaten dinner yet and if I would like them to bring them something to eat. Thats just rude of them. I would fell sorry for my kids.
• Canada
21 Aug 07
I feel the same as you when my son has to sit there and watch them eat something from a restaurant that he enjoys..I make it up to him later when they leave but still it's the moral of the whole thing really knowing I have a son that is around the same age and a 15 month old daughter you would think she be a little bit more respectful and eat at the restaurant if she can't afford food for everyone.
@mcarmy (14)
• Spain
21 Aug 07
really it would be a discomfort that someone would go to your house and take food for her kids only. i think that this type of person is egoistic and thoughtless being also a friend. i know people like that and i don´t think that i can be a good friend with someone so egoistic and viewing that she/he continue making that. when someone visit you, it´s normal that you offer them something.or when you visit to someone, you take soemting to share between all.
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• Canada
21 Aug 07
yes I agree..I offer if I know they are coming but on a few or more occasions she goes and orders something then drops by for coffee and lets her kids eat here infront of my son that is around the same age..
@someonesmom (5765)
• Canada
21 Aug 07
Hi BlueAngelRS, I have had this happen before, when my daughter was younger. It's hard to explain to kids why there's nothing for them, and very awkward too, when you have to take them aside to do so. This is something I wouldn't do, either in front of kids or adults, for that matter. It's a matter of good manners, but some people just don't seem to think of these things. I'm not surprised to hear that this is the same 'friend,' who's been very nasty in her remarks regarding your loss. I'd find it hard to keep up the friendship, when this type of thing happens again and again. I hope you can let her know how you feel about some of these things, when you feel you're ready. Take Care.
• Canada
21 Aug 07
hi hun I hope to beable to talk to her one day soon as well when she is feeling better over her loss of her brother and me over my baby...I've just been backing off I don't call her near as much as I used to as a result of how I feel thanks for your response hun hugzzzz
@sweetdesign (5151)
• United States
21 Aug 07
I use to own my own daycare and had one parent and her boyfriend who would consistently drop the child off with a happy meal in hand even though I told them repeatedly that this was not allowed or acceptable. When other kids see the happy meal and they don't get one it makes for a very unhappy enviroment. I had all kids from 1-4 years old at the time and this really aggrivated me.
• Canada
21 Aug 07
Oh that would be a unhappy enviroment I can't believe the parents would do that knowing there are other children same as my so called friend...I know there are alot of things I need to talk to her about one day very soon..So hoping that day comes sooner then later.
@Daelin (683)
• Brazil
21 Aug 07
This is really rude. I would never do something like that. That person should finish eating at the restaurant or even call you and ask if you wanted her to bring something.
• Canada
21 Aug 07
I agree totally and I would do the same thing if I was going to go to her home and knowing we would be stopping to eat would offer her something...