Your First Love

@worldwise1 (14887)
United States
August 20, 2007 2:20pm CST
We have all had a first love, maybe in high school, or college. I married my first love-twice. But it was not meant to be. Though he has been dead for many years, I find that I still think of him sometimes. Do you ever think of your first love? Was your experience with them a good one or did it end badly?
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@Aurone (4758)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I think of my first love often. We were not able to be together. I am married now to someone else and he is getting married in the Fall.
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@pismeof (855)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I meet my first true love at about the age of eleven or twelve.I was a gymnast and stayed after school for a extra hour to practice gymnastics for the team a couple times a week,Well this made it necessary for me to take a different bus home on those occasions and there she was..love at first site..lived just down the street and never knew it because this was a different way home than my normal route. I never did a thing about it until we got to High School a few years later,but I had never forgotten that first impression.We both turned out to be musicians ,Me on the drums and she on the Oboe so that put me in a position to see her at band practice quite often. Eventually I'd gotten up the nerve to ask for a dance when we attended the same Sock Hop one saturday night.We began to date for a while and then broke up and started dating other people.I don't think we ever really got over each other though. In the meantime she had befriended my baby sister even though the two of us were no longer together. Now,after college which is five or six years later,my little sis is about to get married and just guess who gets invited to the wedding...My first true love. Even though she is now started her career and lives about two hours away,We start dating again and ended up getting Married!!!But after the good old seven year itch kick in we ended in Divorce. So,to make a long story short it ended Badly,But I don't think you ever get over that first love.After more than 25 years I meet her for the first time by accident about two weeks ago and I still get the chills when I see her.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
21 Aug 07
That is a true love story, pismeof! I agree that you never quite get over your first love. My first love was killed acidentally shortly after we divorced. We had a daughter together who looks remarkably like him.
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@weemam (13377)
20 Aug 07
my hubby was my first love . we met when I was 16 and he was 19. we were married 46 years ago both virgins and proud of it , I don't think there are as Many happy marriages now as there used to be xxxxx
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
21 Aug 07
I'd say you've got that right, weemam. Congratulations on your long and happy marriage. I tried it three times and it just didn't work for me. I've lived long enough to see how much people have changed over the years, and it's not always for the better.
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@jennifer611 (2502)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I still think of my first love sometimes. sometimes I still bump into him, we both have different relationships now & both have children. but I think deep down we will always have love for each other even though we will never be together again. it didn't end to good, but then again, everyone makes mistakes sometimes. it wasn't meant to be but I dont hold any grudges against him.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Sometimes it's just nice to look back and think of how much better off you are, jennifer. After all, nobody needs a relationship that emotionally drains them. I've had both kinds-the good and the bad-and the good is much more exciting.
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• United States
20 Aug 07
Well I'm still with my first true love, so far it is going rather well, and I hope that it continues to go as such. Keeping my fingers, toes and everything else that can be crossed..lol
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Aug 07
That's so nice, jeweled. I love an honest-to-goodness love story that can stand the test of time. May you be with your true love forever.
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@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
21 Aug 07
My first love was senior year in high school. We dated for 3 months and had been friends most of the school year. We broke up a few weeks before graduation. I have moved on from it. I am married now and happy with my husband.
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@mummymo (23707)
21 Aug 07
I was with my first love for over a year when I was sixteen and I still regret treating him badly! He was a lovely boy with a fantastic family and I am afraid that I put him through a lot of heartache - even though I know he forgave me at the time I still feel I should have taken more care of his feelings. He is now a surgeon who is very succesful and very happily married - I am pleased that he has a happy life and I do think of him with a lot of tenderness! xxx
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@tildy12 (760)
• United States
23 Aug 07
My first love and I met when I was 15 and he was 17.We now share a Beautiful Daughter together.At the moment our relationship is a little rocky .I'm now trying to move on with my life and has but a part of me still loves him enough to be with him again.
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
22 Aug 07
I don't know if I am married to my first real love, if my first love was the guy before my husband, or if I never truly really had a real love at all! Love, to me, is a really tough concept to grasp. I know I love my husband. But I don't know if I was ever IN LOVE with him. I was so so young. The guy I "thought" I really loved ended up leaving me to go back to hos fiancee. He left her for me then went back to her. I hear he married and divorced her. I rarely wonder about him now. My husnand of 23 years, I am devoted to and love but I was very young when we met and got married and I didn't feel IN LOVE at the time. I felt like I should marry him because my parents hated that I moved out and in with him. However, I do NOT regret it! I guess I am with my first real love. After all the ups and downs we had and the two sons we had, I must be "in love" with him as well as love him. I guess I just missed that giddy, heart thumping, sweaty palms part of the "in love" that so many people talk about. But I had the devotion, caring, nurturing, kind part and I like that much better.:)
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Yes, I do still think about my first love sometime. It did end badly but I have a child from it and I am thankful for that. We had talked occasionally since and we are so different from that time in our lives and I think we are both happy and that is what matters.
@fab315 (1242)
• Philippines
21 Aug 07
HellO! I met my first love when I was 18, he was a yr younger than me. Our story was very interesting to say, it was a "you and me against the world" relationship. My family didn't like him for the reason that his family have a bad reputation in our city especially when it comes to women. We fought and defended our relationship and we lasted for almost 4 yrs. I thought he was the one for me, but we ended up in a very bad way. He cheated on me and everything about me & him fell apart. I was hurt and sad, but honestly in a way I was glad we broke up. Maybe because I felt like I don't know him anymore and that our relationship doesn't have any future. I still do remember him, and from time to time he asked my cousin how am I doing. He's married now and have a kid. I just hope he's happy and that will become mature and responsible. Thanks. Take care ciao! tchel
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Speaking of a first love we have managed to reconnect on a site called bebo.com. He was my first love but I don't think I was his. I am glad to have reconnected and he will always be dear to me. He had enlisted in the army before we hooked up and after 3-4 months he was relocated to another city. The distance was hard for the both of us and so it just sort of faded in the end. We lost contact, and have only recently connected. He is happily married and has two children. We did have fun times though and I will always treasure them. I am with my second love now and life couldn't be better.
@CaitBaby (447)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Hi worldwise1! I'm sorry, I just started a discussion just like this before I saw you had started this one. But anyway, I have only been in love once and it was very recently. We just broke up a few months ago. I still love him, and there will probably always be a part of me that always will. Unfortunately, the relationship ended on very bitter grounds. I hope that maybe one day we might be able to work things out, or at least be friends. I still think about him quite often even though I'm with someone else now. I like this new guy a lot, but I don't know if I could ever care about another guy as much as I cared about my ex. Anyway, I'm sorry he's no longer with you. I know that must have been very hard for you.
@jeanena (1858)
• Bucklin, Kansas
21 Aug 07
I still once in awhile think of my first love. Things didnt go to well as he was married @ 17 to someone else. I saw him again a few 20 yrs later, he said he still felt the same after all these years. I was with my current husband and still am . I told him that if the situation was different who knows.After al he is the one that left.(long story behind that)