You invite 3 friends and you end up with 6 people.

@Mirita (2668)
United States
August 21, 2007 5:35pm CST
I invited my friend, her husband and their son to visit us during the weekend ,and they came with 3 other people. In other words, I ended up with 6 people in my house instead of 3. I enjoy having people over ,but I think that it was wrong not to let us know ahead of time that they were bringing friends with them. The funny thing is that we didn't even know these people. Has anyone had a similar experience?
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@ladybug565 (2217)
• United States
27 Aug 07
That is incredible rude! I have never had that happen before and I dont know what I would do. I am very leary of strangers and having them stay in my house.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
27 Aug 07
I was so upset and I made such an effort to control myself. That is really what you call rude behavior.
• United States
28 Aug 07
yes, it is defenatly very rude!
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@wiccania (3360)
• United States
26 Aug 07
I've never had that happen, but I have to say I'd consider it really rude for people to show up with extra people without asking permission first. Especially if they're people you don't know. They should have asked first instead of just expecting that you would happily accommodate extra people.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
27 Aug 07
Yes, I agree with you that it was a rude thing to do ,and they were lucky that we still treated their friends in a nice way.
@jcj_111776 (3220)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
Wow Mirita. That was pretty insensitive of your friend. I had that same experience at my wedding reception. My husband and I made a clear list of who were invited. But as we were going to pay the bill, we were surprised that we had to pay for 20 more persons. It was a good thing that we had extra money for that. I too enjoy having friends come over to my house BUT it's because I knew that they were coming. And you're right about it's wrong not letting you know ahead of time. Because one, what you have prepared are just enough for your supposedly 3 guests. And secondly, it somehow ruins one's happy mood to see 3 stangers at your door. It's a sign of respect that your friend should ask your permission first if he/she can bring 3 more friends. Because it's your house.It doesn't mean that because you're friends that he/she can make the decision for you.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
24 Aug 07
Yes, they think because we are friends that is okay to bring people over and we are going to be okay with that. I don't understand why some people have no common sense at all.
@purple99 (165)
• China
22 Aug 07
yes,I have the similar experience.In this summer holiday,my friend take a travel,past the city where I located.She tell me she will live in my house.Although my house is very small,but I agreed.I don't expect she bring her friends whom she had misbehaved.My parents don't like I associating with such people.I am very upset,her deed shocked me out of making friend with him.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
23 Aug 07
Well, if is not just a weekend, you need to tell them to leave your place at once. This will prevent you from any problems with your parents.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
22 Aug 07
I have had this happen to. There are people up where I live that invite say 10 people to a party. The party ends up with over 100 people !! They all invite other people, etc. I was invited to a party once this way and I refused to go because I didn't even know the people throwing the party in the first place. I think it's extremely rude not to at least ask if you can bring a friend or two to a party or other get together.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
22 Aug 07
Yes, that is exactly how I felt. If they would had ask permission to bring their friends it would had been okay. At least, we would had been ready.
@pismeof (855)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Seems like your friends need to learn a little about proper etiquette.I think it's darn rude of them not to inform you of their plans to bring additional friends along.How did they expect you to provide room and board for another three people? Maybe you should have told them to go and get a Hotel because you just don't have the space.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
22 Aug 07
Well, their friends had to sleep on two sofas that I have in the family room ,and one had to sleep with a comforter on the floor. I explained to them that I only had accomodations for 3 people and this was a surprise to me since I had no idea that they were bringing friends. I even had to go out and buy extra food. Is a good thing that I don't have a bad temper.
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Wow how incredibly rude. I swear I just don't understand what people are thinking sometimes. How dare your friends invite other people to stay in your house and eat your food without them asking permission or saying a word to you. What nerve they have. If that was me I would never invite those "friends" over ever again. They obviously have no respect for you if they would do such as thing.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
21 Aug 07
I was so upset that I had to control myself. They are not bad ,but they lack common sense.