Do you allow your children to have....

@Modestah (11192)
United States
August 21, 2007 10:47pm CST
Televisions in their rooms? why or why not? we do not even have television reception in our main room, but, I when I first heard of children having their own televisions my thought was that it was just another means of segregating the family. my 5 year old just won a 13" hd television - and I am undecided as to whether I let her have it in her room or not. I suppose it would be good for her to watch her children videos and dvds that no one else has an interest in. maybe as quiet time in her room.
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@sandwedge (1341)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 07
NO. no television in children's room. no matter what age they maybe. if they want television in their own room, they will need to move out of the house and get a place of their own. this is not because i worry that they will stay up all night or neglect their schoolwork...but its just that the television belongs in the family room. the room is called a "family room" is because that were the family congregates. i will not have every member of the family in their own rooms doing their own thing. there must be some family time.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
23 Aug 07
My sons did not have television in their rooms until they were adults and could afford their own television. Children, that is, under eighteen, should watch television in the living room or in the family room. They do not have the understanding and knowledge to differentiate with what is good and what is bad. So what if you do not like those videos and dvds that she likes? I did not like watching the Flintstones either, but I did because that is what my boys watched when they were small. You have to make sacrifices as a parent.
@vinzen (1022)
• India
22 Aug 07
Hi, personally i dont belive that kids should have a seprate tv in their rooms. Reasons are many, firstly it sperates them from the other family memebers, they loose out on studies and spend much time seeing tv, thirdly they would be seeing unedited scene which may not be good for kids, they may switch it on when they arent supposed to do so too. In short, i feel that if the kids have to see tv, it should be very limited for a short duration of time maybe an hour or two the maximum, not more, as there are so mnay activites they can do beside seeing tv too. And seeing too much of television is never too good either. If at all they want to see it for a longer time, keep that time for weekends. And movies or dvds or cartoon etc, whatever they want to see, can be shared by other family members too. Our kids see limited tv and for a fixed time period as well, and i feel they are better off this way,and are used to it too.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
22 Aug 07
Careful with those TVs in the kids room. Kids have been known to get up during the night and stay up to watch TV. A 13" TV is portable. Maybe keep it in a closet and bring it out to watch specific things. I am an EMT and know of a 13 yo who would watch Jack@ss after his parents went to bed. One night the child had to be taken to the hospital after trying to imitate something see on there. He ended up having surgery. Mom and Dad were sleeping anf though their son was too.
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
I don't think having their own tv is a good thing. I think it's ok when they're still young but the habit could turn your young kids farther away from you and closer to themselves and the television. Yes, we could control them now that they're young but when they're older, they would want to be in their rooms all the time. So how do we have time to talk to them then? Though we don't have our own televisions in our rooms, we do have our own personal computers in each of our rooms with internet connection. It really separates time with the family. Because we have tendency to just go online and chat. We forget that we need to spend time with out family. And it's really funny when the power is out or the internet is broken, because just then do we meet each other in the halls or the family room to chitchat and play some songs or instruments. But when the power is up, then we go back to our own little worlds. We are quite 'disciplined' though because if we are requested by our parents to meet them for dinner or something, we do it. My question would be, what if your kids or our kids are not as obedient as we are? Well, sooner or later you'll see yourself wanting more time with them and you can't have it because you have trained them to have a habit of watching television, instead of being with you doing things. Good luck to all the parents out there.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
22 Aug 07
that was the impression I had when first introduced to the idea of children having their own television sets (so many years ago) I was shocked by it and feared that it would further alienate family members from each other. I would think the problem is much worse with internet connection - the computer is more addictive and absorbing than television is.
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
Yeah, but kids won't be so much interested in the net if they don't really know how to use it. But the tv is simple, you just plug it and turn it on. It's with the parents' prerogative if they'd teach their kids how to surf. We have always had a computer ever since we were young (though no internet then) there were games there but we'd always prefer the playstations (nintendo before) than to play with the computer. Plus, parents could actually uninstall games and have the prerogative on which ones to buy. But with the tv. it's all there. *LOL* They'd even see the websites where to find these cartoons. *LOL* =)
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@creematee (2810)
• United States
22 Aug 07
I suppose it's personal preference, but I won't allow my kids a tv or computers in their room. I know trust is an issue, but sometimes, trust isn't enough. Just an example. DH and I rented a movie this weekend, thinking it would be a "family cartoon." it was on the cartoon network, afterall. We put it in and the first few words of the opening song were enough to make ME blush! I'm not a prude, but this wasn't a kid movie! If the TV were in the kid's rooms, and they were watching cartoon network, would I think twice about it? Before this video, I probably wouldn't have. CN is kids stuff, right? My other reasoning for not letting them have the TV/computer in their rooms are, I can control how much screen time they have. My son would spend 24 hours/day playing video games instead of doing constructive things--like reading and homework! My suggestion with your son's new TV... it's small enough that it could be transported. Take it in/out as a reward for good behaviour. I probably wouldn't just leave it in his room. That's my opinion, modestah. Please take it at that. :)
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
22 Aug 07
thank you, you and the other poster make a good suggestion regarding the portability of the tv set. :)
@alfecris (181)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
to be a good parent doesn't mean you'll give everything on what your child demands, you can give but think if it is right for him or her to have that certain thing... if i will be a parent i wouldn't allow my children to have televisions in their room just to prevent temptation. it is best put those equipments for videos visible to people or shall i say on the living room. i know time would come that we all would make sin but at least through me, I'm not tolerating temptations to them.
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
22 Aug 07
bravo!
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• United States
23 Aug 07
No and they never will. Honestly we have a hard time getting them to sleep and found that they less there was in their room the faster they went to sleep. Knowing our boys they would fake being asleep and get up to watch tv. The only things they have in their rooms are beds books and a few pictures on the wall. When we had more than that it took hours and hours to get them to bed. When they are old enough to have a computer they won't have that in their room either. Just the way we do it here. We found that this way the best way to do things in our family.
@jbb316 (1779)
• United States
23 Aug 07
My 3 yr old son has a tv in his room. He got it for Christmas and it is the best thing ever. I can send him to his room and let him watch a movie and it gives me a little time to get things done without him being under my feet. Also at night it is much easier putting him to bed. I can put him in his bed and turn his TV on and he will watch his movie and finally drift off to sleep. It really helps give me a few minutes here and there. It is the best thing I ever did for myself and my son.
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@sid556 (31003)
• United States
23 Aug 07
When my girls were all at home we had televisions in various rooms because of huge age differences. We are not a big tv family and so I saw no harm in it. If the only tv were in the living room, I would never get to listen to my music but I would have listened to many arguments amongst the girls on what to watch...lion king or operah? It really never became an issue here. None of us really watch alot of tv and nothing changed by them having a tv in their room. It is now just me and my 13 yr old and she does have a tv in her room but i often question why we even bother with cable. Today it was cold and she had a friend over and it was the first time her tv has been on in at least a month. me? the living room tv was on last week for an hour while my granddaughter watched sesame street. Occassionally we rent movies. I would let her have a tv in her room if i were you and just monitor how much time she spends on it. Once the newness wears off, Im guessing it won't be that much.
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@DanaMark (807)
• United States
22 Aug 07
Our son didn't have a TV in his room until he was in High School. Then it was simply because we replaced ours and had a spare. The reception wasn't very good, but he didn't mind.
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
Mine have TV's in there room when they were young just no cable they could watch videos or play video games as they got older gave them cable and they now mostly hang out in the rec room or family room and watch it even thou they now have cable on them.
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
22 Aug 07
We have 3 tv's in my house. One in the living room, one in my room and one in my boys room. The living room is where we watch family videos, family shows and movies. The boys watch different programs, so if one is watching Discovery, the other goes into the living room and watches Animal Planet. My TV is my room i where I watch certain shows I like at night while I get ready for work or hubby and I watch DVD's that are not "child appropriate" with violence, etc in there. My room is open all the time too and we all usually hang out in my room anyway. I think it's up to you how much time that she spends watching her TV. I know my boys have limits on TV, computer and other things.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
22 Aug 07
My 8 year old and 12 year old have ones in their rooms. I don't even have one in mine. What I find though is that the 12 year old will watch some tv before bed cause she is older and allowed to stay up longer then my two boys. It give her a chance to feel older but still giving me time without childern in the evening. But the 8 year old never watches the tv in his room. The odd time maybe when he is sick in bed off from school but really he rather be in the tv room with me. I don't really see the harm in having them in the room unless they are there too much.
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@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
22 Aug 07
i never have television by my own in my bedroom when i am still a child... my parents just won't let me have it as they say that it is not good for me and they can't control me as what time i will be asleep if i have my own tv in my room... my parents have one in their own bedroom and we have a bigger one in the living room to watch together...
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• China
22 Aug 07
well,I do not think it is a good idea to let the child have TV in his or her bed room. since they do not know what is right or not. It is better for us to watch TV with children,teling them which kind of programs is good for them.
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@wdiong (1818)
• Singapore
22 Aug 07
No, I do not allow my children to have television in their room. Anyway, there is no television reception in their room. We have only one television in our house and that is in the living room. I find that my kids tend to watch too much television. Having one in their room would make matters worse.
• United States
23 Aug 07
I heard that children having an access of electronics in their bedrooms interferes with their sleep patterns. I mean, who wants to go to sleep when there's a TV in the corner saying 'watch me, waaatch meeee!' Would it not be such a terrible temptation?
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
25 Aug 07
I believe it would be a horrible temptation, yes. I have enough troubles getting my daughters to go to sleep! one likes to stay up crocheting or drawing all night long..... and somehow notices when I go to bed every night so that she can raid the refrigerator. augh.
• Malaysia
22 Aug 07
Today television can be bought with so cheap prices. In my country we can buy as many television as we want and no licence are required of them. Personally I think there is no harm to let your daughter keep her television in her room so that she can watch her favorite show. However you have to keep in mind that letting her have a t.v. will expose her to opportunities in watching adult programs. You have to monitor your daughter's progress and observe what she does with her television. Maybe you can watch with her sometimes in her room and initiate a small talk on what she watches. I hope this helps you make your decision. Have a nice day.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
22 Aug 07
I understand that concern, but, we live way in the boonies in the woods on a mountain, there is no television reception at all if we do not hook up the antennae to her set. So, it would only be useful for DVD and VHS tapes - that would be a lot easier for us to control the content than if she were able to receive television signals, for sure.
• United States
27 Aug 07
Our oldest in only 5 and he already asks for a tv in his room. I do want to allow it. And I hope I never give in. He's infront of a screen too much the way it is. My fault I know. I also want to know what they are watching. I want their room to be for sleeping and that's about it. Right now they really don't even play in their rooms. I want to be a family as we grow older. Not 4 people who happen to live in the same house and I have to clean up after them, know what I mean?!