White Wife & Black Husband

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United States
August 22, 2007 2:34pm CST
We have been married for almost 4 years, this is a military town so there is a lot of mixed couples. We went on vacation last year to my home town. And I was embaressed because some of my friends/family shuned me. My husband is a very loving man and he doesn't discriminate against anyone, I mean anyone his arms are open to everyone and the hurt & disappointment on his face. He would have never gone, turned out to be a bad vacation for both of us. Because when we visit his family there are welcoming arms for me.
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16 responses
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
22 Aug 07
First of all,mossjanicelynn, I enjoyed your smiley open arms, that was cute.. As for your family and friends shunning you, I don't think you should put up with that. I would tell them that as long as they treat you that way, you would rather not visit them and until they do accept your husband, that is the way it will be. (Is there not one family member that accepts your marriage?) Anyway, next year I suggest a pleasant vacation away from family and friends for a vacation is to refresh you, not to stress you out..
22 Aug 07
Those people who shunned you are not fit to call themselves friends or family. You chose your husband because you love him - what color his skin is has no bearing whatsoever on this. Your REAL friends and family will see how happy you are and be glad for you, forget the losers, and be proud you have found someone so loving and considerate. Hold your head up high
@jofielc (205)
• United States
22 Aug 07
Wow, thats a hard situation, and embarassed situation too. I can imagine how he feel when those racist people trated him. But i ee that you love him, and thats the important part of the story.
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@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
23 Aug 07
It is sad that some people are still living in the dark ages of discrimination and segregation. People who shunned you were not true friends in my opinion. People are people no matter the color of their skin.
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@CaitBaby (447)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I think discriminating against mixed couples like that is so wrong. You can't help it if you fall in love with someone. Your husband sounds like a great man and you two have nothing to be embarrassed about. :)
@Darkwing (21588)
23 Aug 07
I hate discrimination of any kind, be it religious, cultural, colour or whatever. Ok, colour was an issue a hundred years ago, but I thought we'd moved on and improved from those dark, cruel days. Hold your head high, sweetheart, and ignore these so-called "friends and family". You love and accept this man for what he is, and he, you. That is worth the forfeit of scorning friends any old time. How can they know the man when they won't even entertain his skin colour? He can't help where he was born, and I'm sure he's a very special person on the inside. Those who can't accept him or even get to know him are shallow. You hold on steady in there. You deserve, and have found the best... the others know nothing! Brightest Blessings to you both, in love and in light. Walk tall!
@pinnibabu (135)
23 Aug 07
marriages are all about compromising in each others life. I understand what your hubby must have undergone. I have also undergone the similar problem. But my hubby has been my source of strength. If not him, I would have been very depressed. As long as you and your hubby are together and deeply in love, nothing else should bother you guys. Differences are always bound to happen.
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• United States
23 Aug 07
With the times changing you'd think people would be more readily accept what comes, but they don't. Some people are stuck in the older days. I'm sorry that you and DH had to deal with this. I hope in time they come to accept him as family.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I am very sad to hear that your family/friends do not like your husband. There is no reason not to like anyone that is caring and giving as your husband. They should be happy for you if they are really, truly friends. Your family should be ashamed that they would even think of treating your husband this way. They should accept him because he loves you and treats you well..I know it hurts and you have every right to be upset..Just remember you love him for who he is and he loves you the same and if other people can't accept that then they are the ones missing out.
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@TDonald (1423)
• United States
23 Aug 07
Sounds like they are the ones with issues. You are doing nothing wrong. Either they will get over it or you may have to decide to get over them.
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@sandie61 (2359)
• United States
23 Aug 07
that is sad and i`m sorry this has happened to you and your husband. if they were your real friends they would stick by you and not shun you and your spouse. what matters is the love you two have for each other and not the color of a persons skin.
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• United States
23 Aug 07
It is sad that we still have to deal with racism and prejudice in todays world. I have 3 bi-racial neices and nephews and when we all go do something together, it hurts me to hear the things people mutter and the looks they give the kids and me. I am sorry that it had to be your own family and friends that treated you and your husband this way. I would have to discuss this behavior with them, and tell them if they can't accept your spouse for the man he is, then you don't need them in your life. I know that sounds bad, but if you love him and he loves you, isn't that all that matters? Good luck!!
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• South Korea
23 Aug 07
This is unblievable, racism in this modern age? it's a pitty, those losers are not part of you, they made it clear and they will not be unless they change. Thank you for loving that black man, I am also a black married an asian you know there's much racism in this part of the world, to say I can take it if some one discriminate aganist me because of my colour for the fact they don't have black national though this is not a reason but considering a civilized nation it's shameful.
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
I just have this question, why is it that they consider black people as a lower in compared to white people? Here in the Philippines many people wanted their skin to become white even if the nature of our skin is tan. Because they believe that white is beautiful and clean. I think it is time for us people to open our eyes that the color of the person does not resemble his real self. Therefore we have no right to discriminate someone just because his color differs from ours.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
23 Aug 07
the people that shun you are NOT your friends. I will never stop being shocked at the discrimination some people still harbor. I don't see much of it where I live but I read stories like yours and It just makes me sick. I really would have thought all this ended long ago in the 60's. My sister and law married a black man and she faced no such problems. Maybe you will recieve a response from someone who can explain this....it would be interesting to try to understand such thinking.
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
22 Aug 07
That's absolutely atrocious behaviour on the behalf of your friends and family. No matter what race, religion or creed, they should still have the common decency to give your husband - your loved partner the time of day and not judge him until they have atleast given him a chance, and if there is judgement to be passed, let it be on personality and certainly not on appearance or cultural heritage!