Are You In Favor Of Living In With Your Partner?

love - love and commitment.
Philippines
August 22, 2007 7:33pm CST
It might seem exciting and fun but keep in mind that you are not yet married.,Meaning there is no commitment involved in your relationship. its just that both of you are sharing a room and space but the level of commitment is really not a full potential. so even if you end up marrying this person the longer you've stayed in this uncommitted mind-set, the more likely it is to stick.when it comes to financial or money matters just be clear with your partner...and the best option would be is if you both go dutch. it seems like exciting to live in with your partner but think not just twice before you decide on this. how bout you.,are you in favor of living in with your partner before getting married or something? Ü
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14 responses
@jbelle (913)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
Living in is a process where you should be able to know about your partner much better... I am nothing against living in together... It feels good being with your love one in your life... Because in courtship I believe that men put their best foot forward by not being together before marriage you wouldn't be able to know their floss and mistakes... Though you if you really love the person you will accept his strength and weaknesses so when the times comes there is nobody to be blame of right? because right from the very start you already know each other's attitude... But for me only for a short term not too long because it is still the best that in the eyes of God and in the eyes of human being you are married and respect the essence of chastity of sacrament of marriage and have a blessings from the church...
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
hmmm, that would be a nice answer., i agree that nowadays you have to be careful in anything especially when it comes to choosing your lifetime partner and its true that you will only see the imperfection of someone if you got the chance of be with him in the same house. well, i know that nobodys perfect! but sometimes its better to be safe than sorry...right girl? Ü thanks so much for responding..really like your answer...
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@jbelle (913)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
Thanks for the best...
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
23 Aug 07
I believe people should live together for awhile, in fact I would say for a long while, I think you should test drive so to speak someone you want to spend many years with the same as you test drive a car, after all not everyone is compatible, especially now that women are so much more independent, as for for men I don't think they start taking women so much for granted until they have them legally hooked but as you say the financial part you have to be smart.
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
ahuh, but im a bit scared of doing such thing because my parents are kinda conservative so for sure they will not allow me to do that or else they'll gonna kick me out in our house...hehehe lol Ü thanks for responding! have a nice day ahead...
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
23 Aug 07
Yes it is a hard thing to do and to keep the peace sometimes you have to do things their way...I know I have been there..
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@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I did live with my hubby for a few months before we tied the knot. I would hope my children wouldn't do the same but it did all turn out ok in the end. :)
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• Philippines
23 Aug 07
oh yeah, well i guess you really both love each other and it really turn out good coz your already married and have child. thanks so much for responding! Ü
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@Malyck (3430)
• Australia
23 Aug 07
In my opinion, it's better to live with a partner before you marry, or even get engaged - if you plan on doing that at all. I believe that you can be unmarried and still be committed to your partner, I am not religious, and have no intentions of getting married for my own reasons. I currently live with my boyfriend and I think it's wonderful. We spend a lot more time together and can still have our own time and space. It can be hard for people who don't work well, or can't share responsibility, but I'd much rather live with someone that I'm dating after a few months - any serious relationship. All relationships have the possibility of ending - marriages can end in divorce. I support de facto living arrangements.
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
well, it would be nice to hear such ideas that you have and just right now when i read your respond to my discussion i was actually thinking about that hehehe Ü i wanted to try but a bit scared but you have a point girl! Ü
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• United States
23 Aug 07
I live with my boyfriend and honestly I would never get married without living with him. I want my marriage to last. I don't want to find out when I'm already married that the person I married is wrong for me. My boyfriend and I are committed to each other and we are both on the same page. We intend to get married when the time is right. Therefore, living together without marriage may not be for everyone but it is definitely for me.
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
love - love and romance.
yup, your right. we have different views when it comes to marriage., and i definitely respect your views on that. thanks so much for responding to this topic. have a nice day ahead! Ü
@ivyoon (675)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I have a common law marriage with my husband. We have been together for nine years now. We have never thought about getting married, but that was a decision we made for many personal reasons that we agreed on. It's different for everyone. Religious beliefs, among other things, often play a huge role in the decision to marry. It's right for some people and not for others. The best thing to remember in any kind of living situation is to communicate. As long as you communicate well with someone, you should have minimal problems when it comes to financial or any other discussions. The bottom line is, it is a personal decision whether you want to live with someone before you get married, or whether you even want to get married at all. It's up to the individual to decide for him/her self, and the partners have to agree with one another for any arrangement to work.
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
love - love and romance.
great answer. thanks for your nice idea. have a nice day ahead! Ü
@thisgirl (35)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I now live with my boyfriend and I think that it's going to be a great situation.
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
love - love and romance.
i guess your really enjoying it. well, goodluck and thanks for responding. have a nice day ahead! Ü
• United States
23 Aug 07
Well, I think the answer to that question is going to be different for everyone. Personally, I've lived with my boyfriend for the majority of the time since we first got together (about 6 years ago) and I have no regrets about it. I can definitely understand why it's important to put a lot of thought into it though. Living with another person and ultimately being somewhat responsible for each other is a big deal. However I do think that there can be circumstances where, whether you are married or not, being together is just more right. Take my fiance and me for example (yes, we're engaged now). The only link we have missing between us is the fact that our devotion to each other isn't signed and dated on a legal document yet. Don't get me wrong I do want to get married. Very much so actually and I can't wait for it to happen. But I'd stay with him forever without going through the legal aspect of it if I had to. It's just like that for some partners. To them, in their hearts, they are already married, and really if they feel that way then they are as good as married. =) Sorry to just ramble on like that. I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic...especially when it comes to talking about the love of my life. Have a good day. =)
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
love - love and romance.
ahuh, yeah i understand. we all have different views when it comes to our love life. some wanted to live in without marriage and some would prefer to be married before living in. thanks for responding to this topic. have a nice day ahead! Ü
• United States
23 Aug 07
I live with my boyfriend and love it. Yeah, we have our arguments, but things always work out. His mother told us that couples who live together before they are married are something like 75% more likely end the relationship. She then told us that everyone should try somthing out before committing.
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
love - love and relationship.
nice idea Ü maybe i should try that...lol Ü thanks for responding to this topic. have a nice day ahead! Ü
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I guess I should first say that I don't believe that people need a legal contract in order to be committed to one another. I personally know a couple who have been "Living together" for 20 years. My opinion is that they are already "married." Why does a piece of paper mean more of a commitment? As my father says, "a union doesn't have to be sanctioned by the state in order to be blessed by God."
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
yes, i agree on that. but that piece of paper is just for legal purpose.,we all know that anything in this world need something for us to prove them i mean a this is just for a black and white thing..thanks so much for responding to this topic. have a nice day ahead!
@pendragon (3354)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I wouldnt have it any other way, if you're in love with someone you should be able to be together all the time,it's the best way to take care of eachother.
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
yeah, for us to know our partner more., Ü thanks for responding to this topic. have a nice day ahead! Ü
@pinnibabu (135)
23 Aug 07
Living in before committing to your partner is a crime in our society. Our society does not avail to such a system. We consider marriage as a sacred thing. so Live in relationships are a big NO No in our society.
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
ahuh, yeah i also believe in that but we cannot tell everyone to do that..,that's why some really wanted to try it because they wanted to experience how to well their life would be to the one they love. just a short term i guess would do.,Ü anyway thanks for responding to this topic. i appreciate your answer.Ü
• Canada
23 Aug 07
You should live together so that people can learn if they are realy comatible for a long term comintment. Sometimes you find out the person drives you nuts. Also bad habits you may not have known about.
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
yeah, you have a point. actually we're on our way there but my parents are kinda strict but i really love this guy and i wanted to know him better.thanks for responding!Ü
• Canada
23 Aug 07
My fiance believe that living together is the best way for us to get to know eachother, before we make a committment. He has been married before to a woman that he did not live with, and he wants to make sure we know eachother well enough before we "sign that piece of paper."
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
well, that is really a nice idea. i'm planning of doing that in the near future.thanks for responding.Ü