Smaller men with taller women? Does it look stupid

@babykay (2133)
Ireland
August 23, 2007 7:13pm CST
With heels on I am taller than my husband. I rarely wear heels but its given me an insight into what it would be like to be very tall with a smaller man. Do you think that its weird or stupid looking for a man to be smaller than his wife/girlfriend? I don't...
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@urbandekay (18314)
25 Aug 07
I'm 5'10" and have dated 5 women taller than me, didn't worry me at all. all the best urban
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@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
27 Aug 07
we are all products of our conditioning I guess.
@urbandekay (18314)
27 Aug 07
If we allow ourselves to be, yes all the best urban
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
24 Aug 07
It doesn't look stupid and if someone thought that they should be kicked in the knees! My neice gave up a really great guy because she couldn't get over being taller then him.....he found someone else now and she is alone. How stupid is that?
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@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
24 Aug 07
wow imagine splitting with someone for no other reason other than height, is you niece very tall?
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
24 Aug 07
She is about 5'10" and they did look cute together.....is said it was just something she could never get over......bummer!
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
24 Aug 07
I don't think it looks stupid at all. But of course you're gonna get people who do thanks to ingrained stereotypes of society (oh the man must always be taller than the woman, that's how asinine we are, huyuck huyuck). Heres a thought for everyone, you ever see a real tall guy with a very short woman. I have. In fact two of the couples I talk to from time to time, their heights are like this: Couple 1, the guy is 6'5, the girl is 5'3. Couple 2, the guy is 6'6, the girl is 5'. Its more than a foot difference, but it doesn't matter to me. However, they both have been harassed on occasion due to the girl looking youthful and people think the guy is cradlerobbing. Oh before I forget, couple 2 gets that kind of crap more, obviously, but "cradlerobbing"?! In that relationship SHE is the older one... Yea I love the shock reactions they describe to me whenever this topic comes up. Sigh... its like no one can win for anything. Well, wait I take that back. You can still win because you just need to focus on your relationship and not let things like height or people's backwards reactions trouble you. Too many dumb stereotypes, wants and expectations; too many dumb people following them. When you learn to keep your heads while everyone else loses theirs, then you will be adults my sovereign(kind of tweaked but hopefully you get it).
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@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
3 Sep 07
I too am a victim of stereotyping I admit...just not in this way
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
24 Aug 07
Hi there. Personally, I dont look at couples and think how stupid they look, wether one is tall, short, Big or skinny... The main thing is, as long as the couple love each other, they would never care or worry about what outsiders or anyone for that matter is thinking or saying...
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@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
24 Aug 07
well, I think people can love one another and still be affected by what they think people believe about them...or indeed are saying at them. But you are right that it doesn't actualy matter.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
well age doesnt matter and so does height as long as you love each other. funny to see people that looks good together but fights all the time. ive seen a lot of that. it doesnt matter if you are what they call odd couple as long as you are in love. wink wink
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@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
24 Aug 07
you are right that it doesn't matter, I am surprised that no body here seems to think it does though. I thought there was more discrimination based on height about.
• United States
29 Aug 07
I use to have that problem when I was dating. I was taller than most of the boys I dated. My husband is taller than I am even with heels on which hurt my feet so I do not wear them. I do not think couples look funny when the man is shorter than the women, they are couple. I feel it it works for them then go for it.
• United States
24 Aug 07
This discussion takes me back to high school. My boyfriend at the time was an inch shorter than me, but we never made any bones about it. I was just taller. It actually didn't come up until my Junior prom. When I bought my shoes to match my dress, I got a two inch, thick heel (Its the only kind of shoe I buy due to my weak ankles) since flats really didn't go with the dress. When we got to the prom, I noticed I was towering over him lol. But I still didn't make a fuss, and neither did he. The only one who actually said something was the photographer. She had been using the same pose all night for every couple that wanted pics, (Male behind female embracing.) But that really didn't work for us because of the heels and my "updo" hairstyle. Had we done that he wouldn't have been in the picture at all. The photographer was stumped as how to pose us (The photographer was a one trick pony). So I decided we would pose face to face, with me leaning slightly on his shoulder. It was a great picture! Everyone was jealous because we were the only couple in the whole school with a unique picture.