Are you an only child?

@nikkiwith (1074)
Australia
August 24, 2007 8:20pm CST
I have 1 older sister and i would have been terribly lonely growing up without her. I now have a daughter and i do not want anymore children, but i can't help feel guilty that she doesn't have a "play mate". She has an older brother but she has never met him, he is 15 and she is 4. My friend is an only child and she told me she would have liked a brother or sister when she was growing up. How about you? If you are an only child, was it lonely when growing up?
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@vinzen (1020)
• India
25 Aug 07
Hi, no i was not the only child and i consider myself lucky for that, as i always had my younger sister for company, who is just two years younger than me. I have a cousin who is the only child of her parents. We have grown up together as she is my age, but she was always lonely and would want another sibling as a brother or sister, jsut for the sake of company. She was always the cranky kinds and thoroughly spoilt as well, as her parents , in order to keep her quiet, got her everthing that she ever wanted, thus spoiling her. I also strongly believe that a single child looses out on company of another sibling, and all that brother and sisters share and do with each othr as well. I think that we as parents ought to give a thought to that, for the sake of our kids and have a second baby too. We at times feel that there are other kids around, who can provide the company to that single child and we as parents are also there for them etc. But we dont realise that other kids and we ourselevs are there just for a few hours and limited time only, but another sibling is always there for so many hours, always with them. Another thing is that no matter what life shows us, and after us too, at least we are rest assured that the child will have her brother or sister alwasy by her side. There are others who may differ, as each person has their own choices and prefernces too, and may feel that being single is better too as we have all the things to ourselevs and no one to fight etc,but i think its only healthy to fight and share and care with another sibling too. They miss another child most when they are young, and when they are married off, maybe they are alright, though am sure, from within they must be nmissing having a true, real brother or sister.
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
I agree with you; it is a good thing to have brothers and sisters, but i don't agree that that alone is a good enough reason to have more children. There are other things to consider; broken homes, responsibility and money.
@vinzen (1020)
• India
27 Aug 07
I agree with you and the situations and circumstances may vary. What i wrote were my own personal opinions and what i felt, as i have experienced this within my own family. Thanks for the reply.
@Lifeless (2635)
• India
27 Aug 07
I have an elder brother.. We both love each other a lot, and I also respect him for all that he has achieved in his life... We have always been there for each other in the thick of times, and our growing days were full of fun.. We used to play in the sand a lot, and go ice skating.. I still remember those days...
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
29 Aug 07
It is a sad thing that todays kids just don't play like we did 20+ years ago.
• Canada
26 Aug 07
thankfully i am not an only child i have two half brothers but i only really knoe one. i would have been really lonely growing up. my little cousin is a only child and he seems to be a little brat he dont really like to share and really gets his own way i think that is only because there is no one else to bug.
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
My daughter has a half brother that she's never met so i guess you could say that she is an only child. She loves sharing! When her friends come to play she tries to give them all her toys!
@ashar123 (2357)
• India
25 Aug 07
I was not lonely child while I was growing up as I am not the only kid in the house. I go two brothers elder than me and no sisters. One brother is 6 years older and the other is 8 years older than me. When I was growing up I never felt lonely as all of kept each other busy. We used to watch cartoons, WWF together, play computer and card games together.
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
One would think that you can't be very close to a sibling that is 6 or 8 years older than yourself?
• United States
25 Aug 07
Most of the only children that I knew always wanted siblings. I personally have a brother and two sisters, and even though we fought a lot as kids, I do think it was good for me to have them. I learned quite a bit about being an adult and responsibility by helping my mom take care of them, as I was the oldest.
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
I do believe that my daughter is missing out on a lot by not having a sister or brother, but i don't want any more children, i'm not married, not in a relationship and i cannot afford another child.
@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
25 Aug 07
Yes, I am an only child. When I was a kid, I did get lonely sometimes,and I did want a brother or sister. I did have an active imagination, though, and created my own. lol Now, that I'm older, and have people around me, all the time, I miss those times by myself. I love being alone. It doesn't happen very often though.
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
All the people i speak to that were only children when growing up say that they would have liked a brother or sister, and it makes me sad for my daughter :(
• United States
25 Aug 07
Sorry I'm the oldest out of 4 kids..And I wished I was the only child when I was young..But now since us three out of the four are grown up and have our own lives I love have siblings...We are always talk,hanging out,doing things with our kids...I love being the older sister now!
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
I would love for my daughter to have a sibling but it's not a good enough reason to have another child. I am the younger sister, i always wanted to be the older one like you, but now i like being the younger one, because no body wants to get old, lol :)
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
25 Aug 07
Hi nikkiwith! I am the only daughter and I have two younger brothers. I am very close with my brothers but i think it is still would be kinda fun if I have a sister. Sometimes, it gets lonely when I can't play with my brothers when we were young because they don't like dolls. Take care and have a nice day!
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
Yeah, i'm glad that i have a sister instead of a brother.