Glasses lost at the beach

beach, waves - the beach that has claimed my daughter's expensive glasses
@vicki2876 (5636)
Canada
August 25, 2007 7:41am CST
The one thing that did go wrong while on vacation last week was that my daughter lost her glasses at the beach. It was a very nice beach with huge waves that at times went over my head and I am 5'10". I told my daughter twice that she should take her glasses off because the force of the waves were so strong that she may lose them. Well needless to say I was right. There was a huge wave and off went her glasses. We looked but couldn't find them at all. She does have an old pair at home but these were the better and more expensive pair. I was upset that she didn't listen to me and I told her that if she wants to get a new pair she will have to pay for it. I think that with teach her to take better care over something that is so expensive. I know if it was my mom she would have beat me for not listening to her. If it was my dad he would have ripped the glasses off my face beforehand which I wish I did. What would you do in that situation?
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9 responses
• India
25 Aug 07
hmmm. so the glasses were lost, i would say big deal, you could add that to the vacation expence i guess. and to tell you my hearts words i dont think you should ask your daughter to pay for it after her enjoying the vacation so much and having fun. and gosh, you sweet 5' 10" i would be husrt seeing your mom beating you and more seeing your dad being so hmmmmmm what can i say, with you. though its none of my bussiness i know. as long as you had a good vacation, forget about the glasses and look forward to more cooler ways to make your kids enjoy their child hood. smiles ever, apple.
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
25 Aug 07
Thanks for your opinion apple!
• India
25 Aug 07
you are mooooooooost welcome. smiles and tenderness, apple.
• United States
27 Aug 07
It all depends. I guess I would make her wear the less expensive pair, since it was her fault that she lost them. If she is working, I would make her pay for her own glasses; if she doesn't work, but gets an allowance, I would dock it until the glasses were paid for. If she doesn't get that either, I would make her do chores to pay off the debt she created by losing the glasses. But something needs to happen to show her that she needs to listen.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
27 Aug 07
Thanks a lot for your response and I agree.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
25 Aug 07
Wonder how old your daughter is vicki876, but I know these young fellows can be very naughty-I meet a lot of such naughtiness in my own house-I tell my boys this, when am off, they do the exact opposite-perhaps the situation of your daughter could be forgiven because she was in the excitement of the beach and that could have distructed her from your instructions-I request you to give her a second chance, buy her another pair of glasses and give her one last warning which in football, you could call a yellow card!LOL
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
25 Aug 07
LOL She is almost 12 and the reason I am making her pay is because we have an old pair at home she can see fine in but she doesn't like the style so I figure if she wants to get a new one after not listening to me then it should come out of her pocket. Actually she is fine with it and thinks that it is fair and not upset with me. I think it will teach her to be more careful. We didn't let it ruin the trip at all either. She had a great time. Thanks for the post!
• United States
25 Aug 07
buy her another pair of glasses i learned a good lesson pick your battles with your children is that really such a big deal there could be many more things worse than that buy her the glasses give her a hug tell her u love her and find something better to battle about that is such a pitty thing accidents happen but to punish her for something this stupid is quite a hoot
@xiuluoelly (1224)
• China
25 Aug 07
This kind of thing is inevitable, people can not be at all times be vigilant and occasionally throw things normal, as I have the most important phone lost. For me to throw a can buy new, but if the good feelings are gone, people will be very depressed.
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• United States
25 Aug 07
I would have kept the expensive pair at home and let her wear the cheaper pair for the beach. And if she lost it, you would have to be careful looking for it, because you might step on it and break it, so if it happens again... :) I suggest to drag your feet along the ocean floor because you would have a lower chance of breaking it.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Aug 07
if i were on that situation? well i guess i will reprimand my daughter abt stubborness and all...and i will make he save her allowance to buy a new one for a month..
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
26 Aug 07
Actually her dad (my ex) is very well off and my daughter has more money than I do. LOL She has enough in her bank to buy many pairs of glasses. I think it does make her realize that she needs to take responsibility for the choices she makes. She thinks what I said was fair and understood her mistake. Sometimes the best lessons in life are making mistakes. She will become more careful about the things that are important to her. Thankd very much for sharing!
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• United States
1 Sep 07
Poor girl I bet she feels horrible. I think you are right she needs to pay for them. Is she working or are you going to give her extra chores to work off new glasses? I think you are right not spanking her, and not ripping them off her face. It is so hard being a mother and knowing what to do but I think you are doing the right thing.
• United States
25 Aug 07
u must of had some really goofy parents that sounds to abusive to me and its not worth the argument good luck and just buy her the glasses