Negative people.

@pendragon (3354)
United States
August 25, 2007 12:18pm CST
They are draining. They want more from you than you are willing to give.They cling to you and and try to hurt you where you live, right in the soul, they want to snuff your internal flame because they cannot light their own.They are the black hole of emotional need, and no matter how smart they are, the backwards psychology of cruelty and angst they employ is so obvious wnen it tries to be so secretive that it's nearly laughable. From stalking to bashing, to telling you how down you are so they can be your hero when you're perfectly fine...how have you dealt with or shed these energy vampires?Have you or are you still in peril?Good luck!
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• United States
27 Aug 07
I was in a relationship with a very negative person. He was my children's father, and I was in love so I didn't recognize the drain. He didn't want a job, and whenever he would get one, he would only keep it for a while before he found an excuse to quit. He never liked any of my ventures, and would talk down about them whenever he got a chance. I stayed in the relationship because he was a very smart person and I felt that if I gave him the right motivation, he would see that he could make something of himself, at least more than what he was. Well, he ended up leaving me for another woman, and I was devastated at first, but after passing a year that he has left I can finally see what a negative person he was, and that he never wanted anymore in life than what he had. Its sad really, not wanting to rise above, not wanting to do better than others, but the drain is gone from my life, and I now am happy that he is gone.
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@pendragon (3354)
• United States
1 Sep 07
I'm glad you were able to find that happiness,your situation sounded very familiar to me, I have a similar ex,they kept me angry all the time,with their lax attitude.Thank you for sharing your story.
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@dopey22girl (3327)
• United States
20 Sep 07
I really like your view on negative people, and the quotes you used are great. I agree with you completely. I hate negative people, and if I know someone like that I simply ignore them. Because if they feel like they can't get me down, they'll move on to someone else. They are not worth your time, and the best thing to do is just completely ignore them.
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• United States
20 Sep 07
I hope you're not talking about murder as a possible choice to get rid of them! Lol.
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@pendragon (3354)
• United States
20 Sep 07
LOL!! I was about to say i was only just beginning to realize that ignoring them works best, but I don't think I will after the latter suggestion!!! No, i had not meant to intone murder! Thank you for responding,I find you are enlightened!
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
26 Aug 07
oh, them! i almost forgot those kind of people.Yes, they are around crawling in some poor souls nerves.They can never go away , they are multiplying and they are viral. I just simply shrug them off my shoulders and warn them not to get in my way or else they will just be wasting their time.
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@pendragon (3354)
• United States
27 Aug 07
Wow,multiplying and viral,best description ever.I hope I can get to a place where I can forget them too, thanks for responding!
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• Philippines
27 Aug 07
thank you pendragon.hope to get more of your discussions .do have a wonderful day, my friend.
• United States
1 Sep 07
My mother is my emotional vampire and I had to move her from my home into a nursing home and then I had to stop going over and seeing her. I hate her, I hate what she has become. She expects her daughters to do everything for her and she things we owe her. She also is so negative with every thing, her favorite words are "I can't or you can't" . She took to her bed at the age of 59 and now is 72 and cannot hardly move because of being in bed for so long. I can go on and on for days of the negative things she has done to herself and to me so I will stop it right here.
@pendragon (3354)
• United States
1 Sep 07
Wow...I'm glad that she is at least away from you, I can hear the pain in your words.They are an exacting people who take a terrible toll. Kudos to your every day life, my friend.Thanks for responding.
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@alamode (3073)
• United States
10 Sep 07
There is one negative person in our family. She glories in others' bad luck, causes arguments by intentionally misquoting conversations, pits sister against sister, friend against friend, and has verbally attacked her parents without cause. Any girl over age 10 is competition, and therefore a 'tramp', and she blatantly flirts with any male past puberty. We unfortunately allowed it to go on for much too long. In the misguided attempt to 'keep the family together', we were allowing her to tear it apart! When our father passed away two years ago, I informed my siblings that I would no longer tolerate her or her actions. We had many conversations, mostly dealing with the guilt we would feel in shunning one of our own. But that guilt is self-imposed, and we should not feel that way because she has never felt any guilt, compassion or real love for any of us. There was no fight, no showdown, no opportunity for her to turn our good natures against us. We simply stopped calling, stopped inviting, stopped enabling, stopped accepting the pain. She, interestingly enough, has never tried to find out why! I have heard recently that she has disowned us because we are two-faced and holier-than-thou. I take that as a compliment!
@pendragon (3354)
• United States
20 Sep 07
I too would take that as a compliment, it seems like their last defense when they pull out the holier-than card.Wow, they seem to really work at their negativity!! Bless ya! Thanks for responding!
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@alamode (3073)
• United States
21 Sep 07
Its all good now. The rest of us are getting together again this weekend, something that always was a problem before. Now its fun and silliness and loving each other. And no regrets!