love yourself first before loving others...

Philippines
August 25, 2007 11:23pm CST
that's one i have been realized, that you need to love yourself first before loving other because sometimes, you will be hurt because your loving other people without thinking of your self first..i was been hurt before, my bf leaved me when i'm still 3mos pregnant and until now he hasn't communicate with me..that's why i realized that in loving a person you should need to balance your feelings because in the end you will be hurt..please share your idea on this..thanks friends and have a great day..
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
26 Aug 07
You and your child are much better off with out a guy like that anyway. What a low life. I'm sorry that happened to you though. I have to say I agree with your statement because to love yourself is also to respect yourself. If a person loves themself, they won't put up with the crap that others put out but will stand up to it and say no and/or get out of the situation altogether. Not everybody is strong like that but to love yourself which is respecting yourself too, you'd have to be strong.
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• Philippines
28 Aug 07
thanks for the wonderful response friend..yes, we need to respect our self like loving our self also..have a great day..
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
26 Aug 07
WEll yes you have to love yourself to know that when you love someone else it has to feel right and it does protict you in the end sometimes. and your BF is an a$$ and he should get in touch and I hope you are going to get chikd suporrt from him too , They seem to think If the go away before baby is born they wont have to take care of that baby. But Loving yourself goes for more than just in partnerships. works in al parts of your life! hugs
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• Philippines
1 Sep 07
i don't have any communication from him..it's alright with me,but if he wanted to give support, why not..i will still accept it..thanks for sharing your thoughts friend and have a great weekend..
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
1 Sep 07
the accepting part is up to you and what you want I wish you good luck me friend hugs
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@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
1 Sep 07
you are right, if you want to love others,then you must learn how to love yourself. a friend of mine told me such words,several years ago. at that time, i couldn't understand it. now i feel he is very right. if you don't love yourself, then you can't know how to love others. even you can do anything for others, but you will lose yourself, then they will leave you too. it is simple, but most of people cant understand it.
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• Philippines
2 Sep 07
thanks for sharing your thoughts friend..have a great weekend..
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• Philippines
31 Aug 07
Yes, you have to love yourself first before loving someone. It means you are ready to face love again. Yourself first above else.
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
thanks for the comment friend..have a nice weekend..
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• Philippines
30 Aug 07
it is definitely true! in order to love somebody without limitations, we need to love ourselves first. we should also know our own weaknesses so that when we love somebody else, we will know our weaknesses and where we will fall so that we will be able to know where and what to do during those times. cherriemae, i an so sad about you. i hope you are doin fine. hope that you will have safe and normal delivery and that you will raise your child with love and proper care. and also, love does not keep record of wrongs. so cherriemae, train your child to be a better person in the future. do not dwell on your past, okey?....
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
thanks for the wonderful response friend..i will fight for my child's future..have a great weekend..
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@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
26 Aug 07
Hi Cherriemae, welcome back! In love, it might be difficult to love thyself first before loving others. Love is blind. LOL. However, I do feel that if one is not able to love oneself, it is unlikely one can love another. The only problem is that one tend to love other more than oneself, and forget about oneself. Yes, balance is important, I agree with you :)
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• Philippines
1 Sep 07
thanks for sharing your thoughts friend..yah, love is blind that's why others may hurt..
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@psyche49f (2511)
• Philippines
26 Aug 07
Loving others is possible only if we love ourselves...loving ourselves is not synonymous to being egoistic or narcissistic--it is just taking care of ourselves, believing in our worth, in our abilities, in what we have or can contribute to society. It is that self worth we have for ourselves...as soon as we have learned to forgive and accept ourselves, then that's the time that we can relate well to other people, including family members, friends and other significant people in our lives...
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
yes, i do agree that we need to love ourselves first so that we can love others..thanks for the response friend..have a nice day..
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
26 Aug 07
Hi sweetie your are so right about loving yourself first. Alot of people dont realize this.Im so sorry to hear you were hurt so bad. I hope your feeling better these days. Hugs to you
• Philippines
31 Aug 07
thanks for the wonderful response terry..yah, i need to love my self first before giving much love to others..thanks..
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@williamjisir (22903)
• China
26 Aug 07
If a person doesn't love himeself, it is hard to say that he will love the others. Thereofore you will have to start to learn to love yourself before you love the others. In another word, you will never expect love from him if he doesn't even love himself. This is my personal view.
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• Philippines
31 Aug 07
yes, i agree..maybe he doesn't really love himself because he don't love me that much..thanks for the view friend..have a nice day..
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• Philippines
26 Aug 07
i agree that you need to love yourself before loving other because how will you know the true meaning of love when you dont even know how to love yourself.Whenyou show someone that you love them more than yourself they tend to take you for granted and the time will come that they will abuse the love you have for them.And at the end the only loser is you
• Philippines
31 Aug 07
yes, i agree friend..the losser in the end would be me if i will not love my self as i love others..thanks for the response..
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• United States
1 Sep 07
First of all, you're good! I notice that you comment back when people comment on your discussions! I am in the process of doing so with dicussions I started a few days ago! I hope that it makes my rating go up or something, not that it matters because it is just polite to comment in the first place! Okay, now, I agree with you completely on this one. It is the reason I am currently single, and am not actively looking for a relationship at this point in my life. Of course I'd like intimacy, but it just aint gonna happen if I force it, or if I go out looking for it. I just let life take it's course, and see what passes from day to day. So yes, you should definitely love yourself, because nobody else in this world will love you better than you! Congrats on being pregnant!
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
thanks for the reply friend..have a great weekend..
• Malaysia
26 Aug 07
hi there. i'm new here. this is the first topic that caught my attention here. really feel sorry to heard for what happened to u. tears of yesterday has build the strength of what are you today. i think that's pic of yer baby, =) to response to the title, yea i agree with it. but once we fall in with someone, sometimes it's just not easy to control the feeling. as a women, we're tend to give more and everything to the man we love, eventho sometimes it hurting ourselves. urhmmm ... *sigh anyway, keep strong and may God bless u and ur baby.
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• Philippines
1 Sep 07
thanks for that response friend..i will keep my self strong for my child and for her future..have a great weekend..
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
26 Aug 07
I am very sorry that your boyfriend left you during a very vulnerable time in your life. That is a shame, but you are right, you must love yourself above all else, to give you the strength to get through this type of pain. Also, it helps to love others even more and give you the strength to get through those hard times.
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• Philippines
1 Sep 07
thanks for sharing your thoughts friend..have a great weekend..
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@a_ce_e (1427)
• Philippines
26 Aug 07
I've been in the same situation before, got pregnant and left alone. I don't have choice but to move on and stand on what i have been done. I feel in love so deep and in the end suffer too much. I've learned to love myself before others, do not give your full trust and think of your future by not relying it to others. It is not bad to love yourself before anyone else, you are just trying to avoid too much depression in the future and tried to easily cope up with the situation when worse things arise. Just let things flow, dance with the rhythm but be smart on what will be the next thing might happen.
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
yes, i agree with your thoughts friend..thanks and have a great day..
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
26 Aug 07
Yes, I agree with you that we need to love ourselves, before loving othrs. I love myself and always carry the positive feelings and vibe for my near and dear ones. Life is full of love and affection, you need to explore it, by various means and tools.
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• Philippines
30 Aug 07
wow..that's great friend..thanks for sharing your thoughts and have a great day..
• United States
26 Aug 07
It is rather true, you should love yourself before you love others, but most people love others before they love themselves.
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• Philippines
30 Aug 07
yes, i agree..they loving others until such time that they become more hurt..thanks for the response friend and have a great day..
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
26 Aug 07
The Bible says, love your neighbor as YOURSELF. Which clearly indicates that you should love yourself first. But, you need to start by forgiving yourself. You are human and we all make mistakes. But we have to look at them as a lesson and let go of the guilt and regret of the past and go on for where you are. Stop waiting for him to contact you. Why would you want to talk to him. See him in court for child support and go on with your life. A man has to go through a whole lot of changing for me to even consider taking him back and I have never been pregnant. What is to say he will never do that again if you get back in contact with him. What if your child is older and starts to build a relationship with the father and he runs off again. That is a coward and you can do bad all by yourself.
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• Philippines
30 Aug 07
yes, i know that it's stated in the bible..but we can love others also, just we need to love ourself too..thanks for sharing friend..
• Vietnam
26 Aug 07
i love myself, yes yes, i do. but before love others, i may have to think again. when i give something away, let's say love, i think carefully beforehand. if i think it's worthy to devote for a person, even if he turns out bad, i won't regret.
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• Philippines
29 Aug 07
thanks for the response friend..i agree with your idea..have a nice day..
@miryam (6507)
• Italy
26 Aug 07
i THINK THAT ONE PERSON FOR LOVE ANOTHER MUDT LOVE HIMSEFL...........OR HE NOT DO IT.I LOVE ME FOR LOVE THE OTHER.MYRY
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• Philippines
29 Aug 07
thanks for that idea miryam..have a great day..
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
26 Aug 07
I think if was more on hormones rather than love the you may be experiencing at that time. Being young, it is easy to mistake it for love. Also, one can't really love others without loving oneself. If one can't even love oneself, then how can one love others? Loving is giving oneself too and it isn't really love if the self that you are giving to ones 'beloved' is an unloved one.
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• Philippines
28 Aug 07
thanks for the response friend..i agree that if you can't love yourself you can't love others too..wonderful message..thanks and have a great day..