Are people on forums a different breed than those in the real world?
August 26, 2007 3:41pm CST
I am asking this question because of something I just read in the newspaper. Kevin Rudd is the opposition leader in Australia and he is running for the top job of Prime Minister. He was seen in a New York strip club and a poll was taken in Australia about his behaviour. The result was: The poll showed 85 per cent of voters thought Labor leader Kevin Rudd's visit to a New York strip club demonstrated he was a "normal bloke". According to 34 per cent of voters, Mr Rudd was unlucky to have been caught out while 28 per cent said the episode was poor judgment and 10 per cent believed it showed poor morals. On the other hand... I find that most people on forums like myLot have very high moral values and are bordering on intolerance with anyone stepping out of line. What are your thoughts on this? Do people come on forums to be judge and jury in order to vent their frustations with the real world?
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27 Aug 07
I don't believe this to be the case . You will find people with very high morals anywhere you look but you will find people who just want to discuss different idea's and thoughts and are truely curious of how other's feel on the same issue's . On MyLot as in the outside world you will always run in to some who always believe they are better or their answer is right but for the most part you will also find those that just want to express how they feel but don't want to hurt anyone's feelings either . I have strong view points on how I feel about certain topics but would be very hurt if I thought I had somehow offended someone with my idea's as I don't believe that just because this is how I feel that this makes me right and am always willing to listen to why someone else feels differently and realize that even those who feel just as strongly against something as I would fully support would be because we have led different lifestyles and have reasons for feeling the way we do , making us all right and none of us wrong , just different viewpoints .
27 Aug 07
I haven't found this being true on Mylot, only because i havent really been around for that long, and i do tend to stay out of the loop of some forums. I'm not into drama! I have found though, alot of mummy forums i'm apart of are very judgemental. And if you don't say the right things at the right time,or if you dare disagree, you get shafted out of the forum, by them just not answering your questions. One forum i was in, was very cliquey (if thats the word for it), so i just decided to never go back. There's plently other mothering type forums around. I've found this one to be quite acceptable of different people. Especially the ones that don't speak english well, no one really judges them. (though this is just my opnion as i havent been around long enough to really see).
• United States
26 Aug 07
I don't know, I have seen some awful imoral disscussion here also. I guess you have a different circle of friends and disscussions. Our society changed a lot in the last twenty years. In the 1988 election campaign here the the US two canidates had to drop out of the race because they were discovered in compromising situations. In the 1992 campaign Bill Clinton admitted to being a womenizer and every one just accepeted it and voted him in any way...
• United States
28 Aug 07
I believe forums are great for voicing opinions, getting advice and learning different points of view. Yes, ppl tend to judge...I know I do...and I believe that is human nature. I don't know about very high moral values but I know I do feel strongly about morals and the lack there seems to be in todays world. I also know that there are some things that I find intolerable and I do tend to voice my opinions about those things. Have a great day!! AT PEACE WITHIN
27 Aug 07
From what I have gathered during the 3 months I've been participating at Mylot it appears that there are some who are presenting their views in an open, authentic way...and others who are using it to judge, malign, create conflict, bully and vent their frustrations. I do not see how it could be any other way...I mean there are real people behind them 'thar screens. The diverstiy in human nature is showing up here just as it does in every other area of life. I am not sure what happens on other sites because this is the first discussion forum I've been involved with..and it is more than enough for now.
• United States
27 Aug 07
I belong to a lot of different types of forums, and they all have different types of people and behaviors. Mylot is a great forum, and I've only ever met a couple of people who seemed judgemental and intolerant of others opinions. I think with this forum more people are into the discussion and presenting different views while still being respectful of others opinions. I've met and made a lot of friends here, and they are all respectful even if they don't always agree with what I've written. I belong to an over 45 forum and it is SO different there...the people are far more judgemental and ready to start arguments if you do not feel the same way about something that they do. They flame you and try and belittle you, and what gets lost is that everyone has different points of view. They don't seem to realise that just because another person has one point of view, doesn't mean that it's wrong...it's just different, and it should be respected as so. Personally, I just come here to participate because I enjoy seeing how others think upon things, and you never know, my opinion might be changed for the better because of a discussion I had that caused me to look at something from a different frame from somebody elses experience. As for Mr. Rudd...I don't think it showed poor judgement, or poor morals, it just shows he's human like most other guys. (And don't you just have to wonder how many of the people that pass that judgement on him have actually attended one of those places themselves?! Even if it was just once in their lifetime, it still counts.) There always will be lots of people who are too busy judging other people to see their own faults.