You have made your bed, now you can lie on it...

@babykay (2133)
Ireland
August 26, 2007 8:36pm CST
Has anyone ever said the above phrase to you? I remember my Dad saying it to me when I got into trouble in school and then was bullied. I think it is generally a very harsh and unforgiving phrase to utter, especially to a child. What do you think.
4 responses
@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
27 Aug 07
I agree that it is to a child. A child will make mistakes and have no idea what the repercussions will be. So when they make those mistakes they need to have it explained to them exactly what they did wrong and not have a parent take the easy way out. If you are in your upper teens and your parents have done all they can to prepare you for life and you go out and get pregnant or get someone pregnant then this statement may apply. You knew you were doing wrong but did it anyway. So like what will happen for the rest of your life what ever you do will either be for good or bad and you must think of that before hand.
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@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
27 Aug 07
Perhaps there are times when it is an apt phrase, but if I ever do use it to my boy I will choose the time very carefully. Words can wreak havok...
• United States
27 Aug 07
Yes I agree with you of course. Words can have a very bad influence if not chosen well. But the meaning of that phrase should be explained in detail because sooner or later it will be true.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
31 Aug 07
I have heard it yes but it has never been applied to me. I have heard that my greatgrandmother said it to my grandmother when she was younger because she married who she chose and not whom they would have her marry so when the marriage started having problems and my grandmother wanted to come back home my great grandmother said no you made your bed now lay in it. It has been said to my mom also. But thankfully my mom has never said it to. She sees it that everyone makes mistakes and it shouldn't be held against them for it. It is just mean I think to say that to someone and I will never possibly say it either to anyone. It is very harsh and unforgiving, unrelenting. It is spoken by people who are mad because the person wasn't a puppet they could make do what they want so when this so called person needs help they throw it back in their faces. What if God was that way? We all would seriously be in trouble.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
3 Sep 07
Very true, if God said it there would be no way back. Its the same thing as saying "I told you so..."
• United States
27 Aug 07
This phrase is harsh, but its the truth. A lot of grown folks like to blame their circumstances on bad luck, but really they have made the situation for themselves. If more people realized that what they are doing affects their quality of life later, the world would be a lot better off. It may have hurt you when your dad told you that, but I bet that you watched what you were doing, and didn't get into the same trouble again after he told you that.
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@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
30 Aug 07
ha ha...that is right, I suppose he is just old fashioned and that is his way of keeping you out of trouble
@urbandekay (18312)
27 Aug 07
Yes, many times as a kid. My attitude to it was generally, so be it. all the best urban