A shoulder to cry upon and laugh with.

India
August 27, 2007 1:51am CST
Have you ever had a friend with whome you can share your deepest emotions, thoughts and have her/him be a vital part of your life. I find such friends very rare, and if by chance you have such a friend, treasure them for they come one in a million. I have never been a very friendly person and usually stay reserved. I am not a snob but I just cant vibe immediately with peopoe. It takes time for me to be friends, but I still have to find someone on whome I can lean upon. Till now, I cant even share my innermost feelings with my husband, though he is kind and loving. Maybe the reserved part of me is creating this.
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6 responses
• Canada
28 Aug 07
I have been lucky enough to find a friend like this . We didn't start out as best friends and it took many years for us to trust each other as closely as we do but we both have children of the same age and have went through many of the same difficulties in life and over time have come to trust each other completely . Her and her husband moved seven hours away a couple of years ago and I miss not having her nearby all the time but we talk everyday and try to get to see other whenever possible and keep in touch on the internet with pictues of our children . I do treasure our friendship very much and never try to take it for granted as I agree that it is rare to find someone you can trust and share your emotions with and not feel that they will hurt you somehow or repeat what you have told them in confidence .
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@laurika (4536)
• United States
28 Aug 07
I know what you are talking about.I am very similar like you.It also take me a long time to find friend.Fortunately I have few friends with who I can laugh or cry and share my feeling.Those friends I know for very long time, about 9 or more years and I know I can trust them.It's very hard find somebody today who you can start to trust very quick.I have burn myself many times.
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
Although I never thought I would, having been hurt and betrayed many times early on in life, I now have two such people: my wonderful boyfriend and my best friend. They are just amazing people that I can trust with my inner feelings and thoughts as they do to me. I definitely think that a person's feelings towards other people/friends/sharing their feelings etc influences the depth of their friendships and relationships.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
27 Aug 07
Yes, I have had a friend who I can share my deepest and most personal emotions with. She is one of the best friends I could possibly have. We live far apart now and I miss her deeply. My other best friend is my husband. Before we got back together, he helped me through some very tough times during my last marriage. It took me a long time to trust him with my emotions and thoughts, but after those times of him helping me and being there for me, I came to love him again and we are no re-married and we have such a deep bond now.
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• United States
27 Aug 07
ive never actually had a friend that i trusted THAT much or felt THAT close to. sad to say i guess, but true. im easy to get along with and all (at least thats what ive been told) but i just dont tend to form such a closeness with ppl. well, unless its my mate, then its "all in" lol but thats as it should be right? you should be able to lean on, depend on and yes, cry on your mates shoulder if no ones elses.
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@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
Yes I am so blessed to have a friend that i know I can count on too,a shoulder to cry on,somene to laugh with, we've been through a lot of tough and good times and we stood with each other. I miss her though, now a days we don't see each other too often but we always communicate through text messaging or e-mail.