Why sometimes friend dont understands us?

India
August 27, 2007 5:28am CST
Hi Friends, i have a friend which is very close to me but sometimes i feel she is not able to understand me, she always impose her dicision on me and i am not able to make her understand that i want something else. help me how can i make her understand?
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@tihsur (112)
27 Aug 07
As 5 finger on the hand are not of same size same is with fnrds, till you dnt open up and tell leverythg and explain everythg your way you cant expect any one to be like you.
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@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
27 Aug 07
All people have different views on things and we don't agree a lot of the time. Maybe your friend is voicing her views and not trying to make you abide by hers. Friends talk things out together and it helps to hear anothers view when making a decision. If we all thought the same it would be no fun!
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
27 Aug 07
Close friends sometimes don't realize that they are making an imposition upon you. that you may not want to do the same as she/he does. I have had to tell my friends flat out NO! Because they refuse to see that I am not willing to do things that they want to do and I don't want to, or I don't agree with somethings that they tell me. They get angry for awhile, but then they get over it and if they don't then they weren't that good of a friend to begin with.
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@kennedee (157)
• Philippines
27 Aug 07
hello.. when a friend is imposing some other thing to us or is not always on our side, I think that's just normal. But it doesn't mean that she doesn't understand you. It's just that we people have a different point of view. As friends. they are there to listen and understand you but you can't make him/her to do something that's againts their principles that's why at the end it's still you own decision that you should follow then come back to you friend successful or not. I'm sure they will always be ther to listen for you.
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• Philippines
30 Aug 07
my friends are like that! they always want me to understand them but they dont want to understand me... i want to rebel on them in a point that i will not understand them but still it turns our worst! but i realized that i have no control in them, in what their thinking, in their understanding but i have control to myself, i am the one who can understand them, so be it... if they dont want to understand me, fine with me, i still believe, time will come that they will realize what they doing with me...
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
Hi yogeshdhusa! I think your friend is trying to be protective of you that is why it seems she is trying to influence you more to follow her advices. She doesn't want you to get hurt or she may thinks that she knows what is best for you. However, you have to realize too that it is your life and whatever decision you make will affect you more than your friend. And I think that even if you won't follow her advice, and you make a decision that is contrary to hers, she may not agree nor understand but she will respect it. Friends respect each others oipions and views whether they are the same or not. Just my thoughts. Take care and have a nice day!
• United States
28 Aug 07
Awww sweeety..im soo sorry for you..i have a couple friends like that..abd i call them my "hard headed friends" lol..that in theer minds only what they are saying and speaking is whats right and no one else can make them think anything else..these friends are hard when we have hardships..so what i will advise u to do..isif your still gonna try and converse things..keep in mind that there opinion will only be heard..find another friend u can talk to and will look at bothg sides.and let you have your own..im sorry to say..that your friend your talking about..theer very well be nothing you can do about the way they are unless u maybe have a sit down talk with them and explain your feelings..but i still dont think it wont help..it never did for me..lots of luck! April