Is it easy for you to make friends?

United States
August 27, 2007 6:57pm CST
I would say for me it is not. probably because I stay home a lot with the kids and then another reason is because I really dont trust people. it seems like every time I get to be good friends with someone they always end up being two faced. very few people that I know are actually "real".. so..... is it easy for u to make friends?
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@xiuluoelly (1225)
• China
28 Aug 07
Make friends for me is a very easy matter, because I feel I am easygoing and the people, lol.(friends have said so), but I seldom make friends, because a working relationship with the contact person is relatively small, and become friends depend on fate.
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• Vietnam
28 Aug 07
most of the time. i'm very easy to talk to and pretty cool (haha, i think). i make friends easily pretty much all the time.
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• Singapore
28 Aug 07
It's not easy for me either probably is that I'm not a good ice-breaker. As for trust, I would only trust them if they are real. I wouldn't trust those who are fakes and most likely I would stay away from them.
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@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
28 Aug 07
It is easy for me to make friends, but making life long friends takes time and patience. I would like to think I am easy to get along with but I know I have a few quirks of my own, lol. It takes a lot for me to trust people with the inner workings of my life, only a few friends really know me. I enjoy many friends but I have very few that are trusted with all of me!
• Hong Kong
28 Aug 07
maybe, you are right, but we can`t beliver all of our friends,right?
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
28 Aug 07
Although I don't much like crowds and being around big groups, I am actually a very sociable person and get along well with others. I make a lot of friends, although I wouldn't say I have all that many close friends. Perhaps 10 or so that are close, and 3 that I tell 'everything', which I still think is more than most people. The amount of friends a person has is reflective of their own attitude towards being out and about and meeting new people with the possibility of being hurt and betrayed.
• India
28 Aug 07
I agree with you completely. You see, previously in my growing years I was a grumpy introvert who loved avoiding the world and staying silent most of the time. I thought that was cool. Then in my youth, I was missing out on a lot of fun and consciously started to come out of my shell. In my innocence and exuberance of youth, I gradually made a lot of friends and though I compromised a lot, at that point it didn’t seem so…it was just cool to be part of a gang, whatever the cost be. Now with maturity, I look back on those years and see how some people take others for rides. They are bullied, carrots are dangled before them and peer pressure is tremendous just to ‘belong’. However, the problem is that now I have become very gregarious and can no longer go back to my former silent and selective self. But I understand how false people are in their friendship. Anyone and everyone you meet will say ‘keep in touch’ its become almost a fashion statement. People will send you e-cards on all and sundry occasions but if you ever meet them again, they will initially fail to recognize you. Its not their fault really…they are ‘friends’ with so many people, they lose count! And socializing is another hated subject of mine. As if, it’s a national crime not to socialize. How many people you meet at the worthless parties actually remember you? And even if they do, after a few meetings and greetings, they will approach you to join some business venture of theirs and if you decline politely, therein ends the friendship. Its just ‘I scratch your back, you scratch mine’. I really miss the good old days when writing a letter to a friend was an occasion in itself…posting it and then waiting for the reply, when selecting a card for my friend was an adventure. Most people you meet these days are not worth making friends with, you are better off with your kids.
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• Philippines
28 Aug 07
i easily get along with people because i love meeting people. we get into interesting conversation. i open up way too easily which also has its downside too. sometimes i feel like the person and i are already friends and i end up trusting the person more than i should. i also get stuck with two faced beings but i guess we just cannot avoid that. the best thing we could do is just be open to meeting new people and just be more cautious on who we should trust and who we should call our true friends.
• China
28 Aug 07
I think we all can make good friends with someone,the key is our characteristic ,we should find same kind to make friends
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@jaisundar (216)
28 Aug 07
I dont ever think its tough making friendship. Fortunately i can easily make friendship with others in the working circle. Anyway its for the moment we are working in the work circle, later i dont even find time to talk to them from home. In the work circle also i think there should be friends to see to us for any emergency with our health conditions. But i dont think they can come along your life. According to me i have two best friends who knows me well, but its around 5 years we had not seen each other. One friend contacts me through email. The other no connection at all, but we both are still friends. Close friends according to me one not very close to us physically but one who dwells in our hear throughout.
@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
For me, not really. When I meet new people, I usually mirror them, so when they are chatty and friendly, I would be chatty and friendly too. However, if they are somewhat quiet and reserved, I would be that way too. But what I can really say for sure is that when I make friends with someone, it is usually for keeps:) Cheers!
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@laurika (4536)
• United States
28 Aug 07
it s actually very hard for me.I am very private person and also very shy.If I don't know somebody I don't talk much.But when I find some friends , they last forever.I am trying to keep in touch, support them and be good friend.
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@candy111 (241)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
It definitely is not easy for me to make friends, I am a bit shy, I don't particularly like mingling with others, basically I am a loner. I do manage to somehow make acquaintances tho especially among golfers at the club where I play or when I join competitions. funny thing is sometimes there are people that say hello and I have no idea who they are. I'm also very opinionated, though I shut up most of the time unless provoked. My partner calls me high-maintenance as I have mood swings. So as not to complicate things, I choose my friends wisely. But if you become my friend, I am a staunch ally. My motto, i can be your best friend, or your worst enemy :)
@lisa_wxy (393)
• China
28 Aug 07
to me,to make friends is not hard.i am easy-going,extroverted,and very considerate.people who get along with me feel very comfortable.but i have to confess that to be good friends is not easy,many friends seem to be friendly and kindly,but you never know what do they really think. that is one thing for sure,if you want to make friends with them,first you should trust them.that is the first step.
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@Laurla98 (786)
• United States
28 Aug 07
It used to be. But now that I"m home with my kids all the time, I hardly have time to meet anyone.
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• Philippines
28 Aug 07
Well for me it is easy to make friends. what i think is hard to find is a true and real friend, especially in the net. But here in my place i have a lot of friends. You can hardly identifies the true friend from a fake one at first acquaintance. But little by little somehow you can differentiate and knows who haved been true to you from who is not. Just don't view it as bad it is but just try to put in your mind that you've been a true friend to them and if they aren't true to you it's their lose not yours. You will see, having a lot of friends is really cool.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
29 Aug 07
Or may be I’m so lucky that I always but not every time meet with people who are not sophisticated so I could easily make friends with them. Whenever going for vacation, social gathering, on a public vehicle, on queuing or others I like to communicate with people around. By doing this other than to pass time easily I could also learn some new things from them.
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• United States
29 Aug 07
I can actually say that I have 3 truthful friends and again I can not make friends easily I meet people and if they come back than I consider them a friend
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@yojspew (171)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
Same with me Jennifer. I don't always make friends easily. I guess because I'm shy and don't always got out of our house..^^
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
It is really really hard for me to make friends. I am in the same boat as you that I stay home with childern so I don't get out for adult time much. But even though I do go to story times and kids clubs I rarely chat up with the other moms. Most of them have known each other since they were kids or are related in some way. (I live in a very small community) I am from a different large city and I don't really fit in either and I am considered odd here. I am a nice person but I am pretty private around here because many people gossip and aren't really trying to be your friend. I am shy at first but the people who do know me would never call me that. I am very outgoing and verbal with people I trust and are close to.
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@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
Hi there.. we cannot always trust people , even our closest friends. Well as for me, I find it not that easy to make friends since I am a bit shy but I am talkative though to my friends.. But those who I don't know that well, I tend to just keep my mouth shut. yeah, it is not that easy to find if that person is real or not but I actually want to get to know them first so that I can prove if he/she is real.
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