what makes people ugly

August 28, 2007 5:02am CST
what makes a peson ugly? because I have a couple of scars on my face and they make me feel ugly, and because of this I have low self confidence and find it difficult to approch girls, friends have told me they make me look strange but girls are ment to find them atractive, so is this true?, if not what are they atracted too?.
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@lilaclady (28245)
• Australia
28 Aug 07
I don't think you have to worry about that, girls usually look for different things, they look deeper than that, perfect looks only last a short time especially if there isn't anything deeper than that. And just remember the old saying beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and I can assure you females are much more interested in the way a guy treats them, for females inner beauty takes over the exterior facade in a very short time....Good luck to my friend, just be a nice guy and the girls will like you.
28 Aug 07
nice guy, easy, you take care.
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
28 Aug 07
A couple of scars don't make people ugly. Ugly is truly in the eye of the beholder, however. My sister and are were out this afternoon and a guy walked by and was being flirty with us. I said to her that the was ugly and why was he bothering us and she said she thought he was cute and liked that he was flirting with us. We both saw the same person but he was unattractive to me and attractive to her. I honestly don't believe there is a universal attractive male or female. Brad Pitt? Not to me, he isn't good looking but maybe to every other woman. Angelina Jolie or Pam Anderson? I know some men who adore both or one and some who think both are "rags". I think your personality and how you deal with the scars is the key. if you feel "ugly" because of them, you will be withdrawn and people will feel it. If you're comfortable with yourself, then it shows and people are much more accepting. We all are who we are and there is no universal ugly and no universal good looking. Girls like guys who are rugged. Embrace your scars and show em how cool you are :)
28 Aug 07
but how can I feel confortable with myself and my scars if I approch a girl and she laughs at the top of her lungs???, that causes people to kill them selves you know.
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@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
28 Aug 07
My son has a scar between his eyes from a terrible accident he had.It is deep and noticeable. I asked if he wanted plastic surgery to repair it and he said no. He said if people don't like him because of some superficial thing on his face, he doesn't want to be friends with them. I was produ of that because he has had low self esteem and feels out of place a lot. If any girl laughed at you because you have scars, then what type of person is she? Would you even want to be with a girl who is that cruel and cold? I think you can weed out the bad people and the good by seeing how they react to you. Remember, there are people with no limbs, blind, or disfigured and they all have friends. Real friends who look past the disability or deformity and see the person INSIDE. Those are the kinds of friends I want. I am sure you do too. I think you may be just very self conscious right now and assume the worst. Maybe you will see that what you are focusing on isn't what other people are. Maybe they are focusing on your conversation or your personality. Even thinking of killing yourself (which you didn't say but still) means you have very, very low self esteem and you may need to talk to someone to feel good about yourself. It is SO important to accept you for who you are. We all have flaws. Some are just hidden but they are there.
28 Aug 07
your son sounds like a great and true person, and I know what you are saying about not wanting to know people who don't like a person based on there aperance but are you trying to tell me you would not chosse the best looking guy in a bar over his friend even if the friend seems to be a very out going guy.
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@shadjee1 (604)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
It doesnt matter if you have scars on your face. What matters is how you carry yourself. The important thing is what's inside.
28 Aug 07
did you know that the first ten seconds that you meet a person can create an impression which can last a life time, so how can I show some one the iner me in ten seconds?