We feel more comfortable with friends than relatives.

@kalav56 (11502)
India
August 28, 2007 10:47am CST
I feel that it is easier to maintain friendship than have a longlasting camraderie with relatives. Personally, I think that the element of expectation spoils a relationship. On the other hand whatever gestures are made by our friends are never taken for granted and we are always easily satisfied. The lack of the name relative[because this relative is always thrust on us and the individual is not responsible for the person being a relative.] is itself conducive to the fact that the friend is an optional, individual choice and it evolves on equality and reciprocity. What do you think?
2 responses
@jayalaksmi (1041)
• India
28 Aug 07
Yes you are true. But according to me we can't make distinction or compare friendship or relatives as both are essential and can't be wiped out of our life. They both form an important part in our lifes. By making such comparision we may spoil the relation between the two.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
28 Aug 07
What I mean is it is necessary to be on guard with relatives and when it comes to friends the question of being taken for granted is less. One can always say it with friends, and they will be careful if they value your friendship. Relatives, especially elders, are used to a certain type of behaviour from when you were young and cannot acccept it even when you are grown up that you ought to be respected. That is why I am unhappy with older relatives. Incidentally, I am fifty years old and this conclusion has been arrived at after considerable exposure. I have learnt the lesson that absolute detachment is needed with relatives. It is not necessary that you shun them , but one must be slightly detached.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
28 Aug 07
Thanks for responding.
• Malaysia
29 Aug 07
I agree with you. Relatives are people who are forced to be in relation to you whether you like them or not. It is just a mere blood relationship. However with friends you are able to choose with whom you are most comfortable with. I think that's why we are closer to friends than to relatives. Personally I am the same as you too. I choose to share my secrets with friends rather than relatives.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
29 Aug 07
Than you for your response. It is a very exciting feeling to know that people in different corners of the world share same thoughts and ideas. This MY LOT is very interesting that way. We just share our thoughts without bothering about whether we have overstepped or uttered a wrong word etc...; We find same as well as different ideas posted and we are not affected and we don'tget into arguments. It is nice indeed.