Do you always say hi when you see someone from your past?

@whywiki (6070)
Canada
August 28, 2007 12:07pm CST
I was in a store buying something the other day and the clerk was really familiar. About halfway through the transaction I realized who it was. I hadn't seen him in 20 years and he didn't seem to recognize me so I said nothing and moved on. After I felt bad as he was a good friend all those years ago. When you see an old friend do you always say hi even when they don't seem to recognize you? Or do you just keep moving and forget about the past?
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@tad1fan (3373)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
I say hi to everyone,even when I'm walking down the road and a complete stranger walks by I make eye contact and say hi.....
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
I always try to make eye contact with people on the streets and smile and it amazes me the number of people who look away. It seems like a nice thing to do to me.
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@tad1fan (3373)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
When they look away from me,I always think that maybe they are up to something.....LOL....that's just me
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
I get a bit nervous when people purposely look away and I too think they are up to something.
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@cheska26 (34)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
it depends, sometimes when i come across a person whom i've known for so long,i think that i'm too shy to say hi or greet the person but if that person would greet me first then i would reply. its hard just to say 'hi' cause he/she might mot even recognize me anymore.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
I am always surprised when people I was so close to at one point don't remember me, so I guess that stops me sometimes.
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
yeah, i know how it feels. its sometimes embarassing when you say 'hi' and the other person's respons is 'do i know you?' its like they've completely erased you from their past. its pretty annoying specially if you are in a public place and people stare at you.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
Exactly and I turn a bright shade of red! It is so embarrassing.
@flowerchilde (12520)
• United States
4 Sep 07
I don't see them as I moved from New England, USA, to the Midwest. I go home once a year, but no one in my family lives in the town where we grew up or went to school. I would have to say hi though. If anything, I'm too friendly and people think I'm crazy! - Here where hubby grew up, it's kool because we have a lot of friends we've been friends with for like 30 years, and we still get together two or three times a year.. We have a reunion/party every year at our house, and I love to find friend or schoolmate they haven't seen since school! Every year someone 'new' will show up.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
4 Sep 07
That sounds like a lot of fun. My hubby is from Australia and I think he misses his school buddies sometimes. Good friends are real treasures.
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
30 Aug 07
personally, i think it's not wrong because this is a personal preference thing you know. if someone wants to do it in someway, that doesn't mean you have to follow this someone. whatever you do, you have to do it and believe in it. believing in yourself and what you're doing will make you successful in life. even in desperate times, you have to believe that everything will turn out well. always have that positive thingking. it is easier to think positive than to think negatively. thinking negatively makes you feel tired and it just makes everything go crazy. it consumes your thoughts, actions, and everything you can think of.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
30 Aug 07
My friend once told me "it will all work out in the end" she was right and it always does.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
29 Aug 07
Only if I am sure that I know the person and can remember their name which is bad b/c I have a hard time putting names and faces together. Have a great day!! AT PEACE WITHIN
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
I do too and sometimes what stops me is that I can't remember their name!
• China
29 Aug 07
I think I would move on. But I really hope that I could stand out to say hellow to everyone who I've seen. I take it as a challange for to me to improve.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
I see it as a challenge to change too, maybe if I step out of my comfort zone and say hi more often I will be rewarded with renewed friendships.
• Switzerland
29 Aug 07
It depends on the person, really. If it's an old friend, by all means, I will say hi. Even if at first, the person may have a hard time trying to recognise me. But if it's someone I'm not really comfortable with, I dunno. If the person didn't see me, I'd rather not say hi.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
I guess it does depend on the person as some old friends I don't want to see again..
29 Aug 07
I am in my forties and a couple of years ago recognised someone in the street from my infant school. I called out her name and sure enough it was her, but I scared a bit because she didn't remember me at all!
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
I think that is my fear of what would happen if I said hi first.
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
29 Aug 07
To be frank, I am not able to recognise people whom I have not seen for a long time unless the person did not change even slightest bit. Hence, most of the times, I would not know if I have met an old friend unless the old friend recognises me first. If indeed I do meet an old friend, I would say Hi unless he is someone I do not know very well 20 years ago.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
I admit that a lot of times I don't recognize people myself. My hubby is good at recognition but not I.
@mekala (10)
• India
29 Aug 07
When i see an old friend i just go say hai and create an atmosphere which will we can cherish. 3 months before i saw my friend in a bank and i really felt happy to see her so is the same with her. Finding friends makes u feel good. not to say of finding our old friends because that is the age where we had been friedns with no expectations. Always thinking of past is very good as it enriches u and ur mind.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
I think it is great finding old friends. My mom was in the air force and made a good friend then when they got out they lost contact. 30 years later they rekindled the friendship and remained friends the rest of her life.
@mykmari_08 (2466)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
I'd love to stop, say hello, and catch up with the latest on their lives; but ever since I got married, my social life somehow has changed. Things hadn't been so okay lately. Even if I see someone I know on the street and I'm with my husband, most probably I would ignore them; especially if he's a male friend. Eventhough I know this isn't what I like and what's right, I just go on with this attitude in order to avoid any fight with my husband. But when my husband isn't around, I give myself the opportunity to catch up on my friends so long as I'm not busy on my work.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
It is an awkward situation when hubby is around and you run into old male friends, especially when they were more than just friends.
• Canada
29 Aug 07
If the person looks familiar I ussually say hi, but after so many years its hard to tell if that's acctually who it is. If im sure that it's someone from my past and they dont seem to recognize me, then I will reintroduce them and ask them if they remember who I am! I love seeing people after so many years, espessially if we had been good friends at one time! Im also a verry bold person so I like to just say Hello to anyone I see! =)
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
I had this friend all through high school and into my 20's and we were really close, but after we settled down we drifted apart. You wouldn't believe how many people look like her and aren't! One of these days it will be her and I won't say hi because I won't recognize her! I think you have the right idea just saying hi to everyone. It is just a nice thing to say.
@jennifer611 (2502)
• United States
29 Aug 07
Sometimes I say hi and sometimes I just move on.. guess it depends really on how I am feeling or who it is or whatever.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
Me too, some days I just can't be bothered.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
Sometimes I do. other times I just sort of let the moment slip by, because I'm not sure what to say. I do regret this occasionally, but it's okay for you: you can always just go back to this store: maybe your friend will be there again.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
You are right he would be there as that is where he worked 20 years ago and I think he now owns the place. I just don't know how hubby would react! I admit I had a crush on the guy 20 years ago!
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
28 Aug 07
no i don't always say hi when i see someone from my past. i sometimes say hi is more accurate than the word "always". sometimes i am not sure if the person still recognize me or not. if the person doesn't recognize me then i would feel really stupid if i said hi to this person. saying hi to somebody even if you don't know them is a nice thing. i just don't say hi to somebody who doesn't know me or doesn't recognize me from my past. i would ask the person first if he/she knows me, then i would engage in a conversation with this person to know more about him or her.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
If someone goes first and says hi and then I will stop and rekindle but I am always afraid to go first. Like when you tell someone for the first time you love them, I always make them go first. Is that wrong? Hmmm
@arcidy (5016)
• United States
28 Aug 07
Well Most of the time I usally say hi if I reconize the person or if the person says hi to me because I dont want to be rude. I would still say hi even if I didnt reconize the person. I would pretend to know them because to me its embaassing when someone knows you and you have know clue who they are lol and I dont wat to ask who the hell are you. But most of the time it usally comes to my head.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
I've had that happen too and I just fake remembering them and try to remember afterwards!
@joyce959 (1562)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
I guess it really depends on the situation and my mood. But I would say Hi even if the person doesn't recognize me at first. I will say his/her name and will try to make him/her recall my name, if not, I will re-introduce myself and will tell events, location, memories that were common to us before. That will rekindle his/her memory. Three years ago, I was in a department store with my young son and I was looking for some boy's clothes and that lady who was beside me looks familiar with me. She's a former college classmate and a friend that I have not seen since after our graduation from college which is more than 23 years ago! I kept on looking at her diretion and when she had eye contact with me, I smiled at her and said her name. She hadn't recognize me at first but when I mentioned the name of our school and our degree course and batch, she finally remembered my name. We had talked for a while, gave our contact numbers and from then on, we communicated thru phone calls or text messages.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
I wonder now how many old friends I didn't say hi to could have been good friends again, some of them I really miss too.
@nicolec (2673)
• United States
28 Aug 07
Yes, I will say hi. Especailly if they were a friend. If they were just an aquainstance or someone I don't really now they might just got a smile. Unless I was in a face to face situation like you were. I recently ran into some one who I hadn't seen in years. Tried to engage them in a conversation, how have things been?...what's new?, that sort of thing. And I just got the impression that he couldn't be bothered. So it was sort of hurtful. But that's the way it is.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
I think it may be fear of rejection that stops me from making the first move. I hate rejection...
@Michele21 (3095)
• United States
28 Aug 07
It depends on the mood I am in =) If I am in a hurry and whatever I probably will try not to look at them so they won't recognize me. I have seen some of my ex's and went in the oposite direction so I wouldn't have to talk to them, but now in my life I am happy with everything so I would have no problem stopping and talking to an ex or whatever. As long as I wasn't having a "fat day" or feeling bad.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
It does depend a lot on my mood too.