Why more and more people are joining the Swinging lifestyle

United States
August 28, 2007 4:08pm CST
Why do you think that people in todays world join the swingers lifestyle? I know quite a few people who enjoy this lifestyle and are very happy with it. They feel their marriage was saved by it or that their marriage was great before, but now it's even better. Why is that? Do you personally enjoy the lifestyle? Could you ever see yourself as a swinger? Many people do it to spice up their already HOT love life and some do it to help their dull love life. What is it about swinging that turns people on? Is it that when you got married you thought you'd be making love to this one person for the rest of your life and suddenly you have this chance to be with others and it isn't considered cheating? Tell me your thoughts on Swinging...
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@coolseeds (3925)
• United States
28 Aug 07
I would like to give you a good answer but I can't. I don't think you are going to get a lot of responses to this discussion. I personally wouldn't look for swingers on MyLot. Some people think that there are a lot of something only because they are surrounded by it. You might know a lot of swingers so you would say there are many. I don't know any so I would say that there are not a lot. I know that swingers exists. I am not in denial. The internet makes it easier for these counter cultures to meet others. Therefore providing an opportunity for people to experiment.
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• United States
29 Aug 07
Well I'd like to say that I'm not looking for swingers on Mylot. There are websites for that. I appreciate that you thought I wouldn't get many responses on here, but it would appear you were wrong. People seem to be okay with talking about such a topic. Thanks for your input though..
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
29 Aug 07
Coolseeds, your best friend could be a swinger and you'd never know it. It's a club; a clique, if you will. If you're not in it, you won't know about it.
@cutepenguin (6458)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
I don't think it's for me - I'm a bit shy. Maybe when I'm older?At any rate, I don't see that there is anything wrong with this so long as people are open and honest about why they are doing it. Maybe they're bored, or maybe they just want to add some variety to their life.
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• United States
29 Aug 07
It not being for you is fine, It's not for everyone, If you are shy it is definitly not for you. Thanks for your input.
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@kellyalex (151)
• China
29 Aug 07
I don't join the swingers lifestyle.I think it is a easy question.you only need choose what you love,the lifestyle of life your favorite.Don't care about what others pursue.Only choose the style you like.
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• United States
29 Aug 07
you should only join this lifestyle if you really like it and you and your partner both are completly into it and secure with it. Thanks for the input
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@tanaclark (570)
• United States
28 Aug 07
I agree it is becoming more common. I dont see anything wrong with it. I think that its just human nature to get bored of the same person after a while no matter how much you love them. I have had threesomes and it really was great not only for my spouse but for me as well. As long as you know and trust your partner it can be a really exciting thing. As long as jealousy is not a factor in your relationship.
• United States
29 Aug 07
Thanks for you input and you're right, No jealousy can be in the relationship at all if you expect this life style to work.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
29 Aug 07
I think humans were wired to be committed but not monogamous, and more people are becoming open minded about it. Personally, if my hubby and I could find someone, or another couple that we could have a good time with and then they'd just "go away", I would be down for it. We're looking for "swingers", not "clingers". And I guess that's what's holding us back, we just want to have a good time and then have the other people involved "get gone".
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
29 Aug 07
There are lots of "swingers clubs" across the US in which you can find just that scenerio. I personally prefer the idea of couple friends with benefits. It's not a given that when you go to a dinner party with a group of friends that playing is going to happen, but it is a possibility. The reason I prefer this scenerio is because I know where these people have been. If the rubber breaks, I'm not as frightened about disease.
• China
29 Aug 07
I think it is more lonely for us todays than ever before since many kinds of communitation tools are impletmented in our daily life. It is more difficult for us to find out the one who could have common secret. Maybe I should say, some times under special condition, you maybe told of something to the one who is very close to you as you think. But some days later, you maybe have chance to see them in one website. Who we can trust. So under such conditions..someone would like to join the swingers lifestyle but to find the ones.
• United States
29 Aug 07
I read your comment twice and the only thing i can say is "What?" ... I didn't understand u at all. Either you missed a few words or you just weren't sure what you were going to say. It just sounds like rambiling.. sorry ,, but thanks anyway.
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