What would you do if the Doctor tells you that you can't have kids?

@Bettyann (2486)
United States
October 26, 2006 7:17pm CST
i would like your advice please help me out!
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@sabrinam (1204)
• United States
27 Oct 06
The beautiful thing about children is that if you care for children enough to adopt one, or two or twenty, when you become involved with the day to day care of another human being, you become interested in their future, you want to see them succeed, you want to teach them what you know, to save them some steps in this world. My point is this, having children of your own, adopting children, becoming a foster parent, any of those things that you do for a child is going to be a rewarding experience. You are going to come away a better person, more fulfilled, more successful, and you will have passed on your own legacy. Isn't that the "point" of having children, is for them to inherit the earth? It matters not if the blood is the same.
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
27 Oct 06
thank you for your advice
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@tentwo67 (3384)
• United States
27 Oct 06
Although there is a strong biological pull to have your own child, there are many children who need a good adoptive home. Or, you could look into some of the alternative methods out there like a surrogate mother? It's one of those things that I'm sure it is hard to make peace with, but do your best to keep your perspective and be at peace. Best of luck to you!
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
27 Oct 06
thanks for you advise but i really don't have the money to do either of them
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@tentwo67 (3384)
• United States
27 Oct 06
It's way easier said than done, but try to make peace in your heart. You never know what the future might bring.
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@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
28 Oct 06
very true and thank you
• United States
27 Oct 06
have you ever thought about being a foster parent? Sometimes you can even end up adopting the child you foster. Its an idea that hasnt been posted yet.
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
28 Oct 06
thanks for your advice
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• United States
27 Oct 06
I would be upset, but there are many other options these days
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@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
27 Oct 06
thanks for your advice
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• United States
27 Oct 06
U CAN ALWAYS ADOPT,SOMETIMES DRS CAN BE WRONG
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@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
27 Oct 06
thanks for your advice
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@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
13 Dec 06
hope for the best and keep praying and try to consult other specialist. if possible then you can try for test tube baby.... or as a last option you can adopt a baby. beacuse we cant fight with the nature.
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@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
14 Dec 06
thanks for taking the time to reply
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@pumpkinjam (5808)
• United Kingdom
28 Oct 06
I don't know what I would do because I already have two so now I wouldn;t be bothered about having any more. But I guess if I had none and really wanted them, there are two things I would consider, depending on my personal feelings at the time. Either, I would throw myself into work and try to avoid the subject of children, make it feel like I would never have time for them anyway. Or I would do something like get into something where I work with children so I could have the experience of them.
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
28 Oct 06
thank you for your advice
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@gsnarayanan (1705)
• India
28 Oct 06
I do not think it is very serious. You have to follow the Doctor's advise because he knows about your health better than anyone else. You console yourself and adopt a kid of your choice.
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
28 Oct 06
thanks for your advice
@prabhuene (117)
• India
28 Oct 06
when the doctor is telling to us at first it may be very hard to digest. But we cant able change anything when nature is having strong hold on our life. So try to adopt what's actually we can control. Millions of childrens in this world are struggling for getting good food and support. Adopting one of them and giving our true love is best option. Even this happiness may not available with our own children.
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@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
28 Oct 06
thank you for your advice
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@magikrose (5423)
• United States
27 Oct 06
Why not try invetro-fertilization(i hope I spelled that right) They take one of your eggs and fertilize it for you in a dish at the hospital with your husbands/boyfriends sperm then when they see life starting they place the embryo into your womb and let nature take its course. It is something to look into and that way you can still have your own. Another thing that can be done is have a "mother Host" you can hire someone to be a surrogate mother to your baby. It is the same procedure I explained above but what they do is implant the embryo into your surrogat mother and she carries the baby for you. You both sign a contract so that at the end of the pregenancy you are guaranteed to get YOUR baby. If that is not an option then your only other choice is adoption. There is nothing wrong with adoption because there are pleany of beautifull children wanting a home just like yours.
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@bubba04 (432)
• United States
27 Oct 06
thanks for your advice
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@kcbabez14 (967)
• United States
8 Nov 06
cry! then after i was somewhat over it adopt!
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
8 Nov 06
thanks for your response
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
8 Nov 06
thanks for your response
@slimes (354)
• Ukraine
1 Jan 07
Well for me all i will do is wait on the Lord coz he is the only giver of the fruit of the womb
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
2 Jan 07
thanks for your reply
• United States
30 Dec 06
I was told at 18 I would never be able to have a child. This was after I already had 2 miscarriges, then a infection in my tubes. About 6 months later I was preg. and had a baby girl. I was determined to have a child regardly what they doctors had to say. It has been hard though after my daughter I had 3 more miscarriges, then another baby girls, then 1 miscarrige and 2 etopics, at the same time as the last etopic I also had one in my uterus, so now I have gone from being told I would never have a child to having 3 little girls. :) Betty keep your dreams of having a child.
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
1 Jan 07
thanks for taking the time to respond
@asfi123 (955)
• India
30 Dec 06
baby - photo of a baby
there are a number of options now available i think the best one is that you can adopt a child that will really help you and i dont think that costs a lot i really wish you luck and hope you will adopt a child
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
1 Jan 07
thanks for taking the time to respond
• United States
29 Dec 06
Actually, I was told that I would not be able to get pregnant. Low and behold, I have two beautiful healthy boys-ages 2 years and 10 weeks. I did not have any trouble getting pregnant, so I am glad that I did not listen much to the doctors. Have you been diagnosed with a fertility problem? If you truly cant get pregnant, take joy in knowing there IS a child,or two, out there that would love to call you mommy. Adoption or surrogace can help you create your family. Dont loose hope, pray and have faith.
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
1 Jan 07
thanks for taking the time to respond
@katyzzz (2902)
• Australia
18 Dec 06
Cry, maybe adopt.
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
19 Dec 06
thanks for taking the time to respond to my discussion!
@pr_milu (455)
• India
18 Dec 06
Then i will adopt them..simple
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
19 Dec 06
thanks for taking the time to respond to my discussion!
• India
18 Dec 06
go for adoption .. its a wonderful thing to do..
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
19 Dec 06
thanks for taking the time to respond to my discussion!
@magnet (2087)
• United States
17 Dec 06
I think that I would adopt,be a foster parent,or a mentor.
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
17 Dec 06
thanks for taking the time to respond to my discussion!
@telesca (184)
• Italy
16 Dec 06
You can adopt, but you have a lot of adversity
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
17 Dec 06
thanks for taking the time to respond to my discussion!