What Scares You Most About Opening Your Heart To A Man?

love - love and relationship
Philippines
August 29, 2007 11:13pm CST
what scares you most about opening your heart to a man? Ü
11 responses
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
The fear of being left for another one. I think that's the fear of most people. It just scares me because if I give my heart to that person, that will be like giving yourself: your emotions, your thoughts and your all. If you've given all and he just leaves you behind, that would really hurt. That would shatter me to pieces. This is scary because we cannot guarantee our feelings to be the same forever. In a snap, anything can happen.
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• Philippines
23 Jul 08
well, thats the thing., when you enter into a relationship you just have to admit that anything can happen without any warnings., just be prepared! thanks for responding!
@Sheribabe (446)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Being hurt if I let myself fall in love. It's doubtful I would at this point though.
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@phayeth (519)
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
getting hurt.. and cry like i haven't cried before..
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@eliezl (766)
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
vulnerability of being hurt and using whatever secrets we share to them to their advantage. i don't like it a bit when they will use it to hurt women. that's why its imperative for women to at least leave some love for their own selves. =)
@jbelle (913)
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
Well I believe in saying that states " It is better to love than never love at all" Id rather take the risk to love the person because I dont want to end up in "what if's". if you arereally willing to love the person you are willing to take all the risks for everything. No boundaries or hindrance because true love isn't finding a perfect person but finding an imperfect person to love perfectly... If we truly love the person then we will accept for who and what they are... Remember we only pass through this life but once. If you have the oppurtunity to love the person do it now for you shall never pass this way again...
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
30 Aug 07
My biggest fear, as I would imagine it is for most people, is: Getting Hurt. It can be in different ways for different people, though. I was afraid of being physically hurt, having been sexually assaulted by my first ever boyfriend. I also had the fear that I would open up too much and he would leave me because I had too much baggage or something - he would move on to someone less like me... something 'more'. I am now in the most amazing relationship and I realise that it was all those fears that kept breaking up my past relationships. I would get scared that he was getting sick of me, and push him away before he hurt me by leaving. My boyfriend is loving, caring and the most trustworthy, amazing man I've met in my life. He appreciates me and my thoughts and feelings as I do his; I no longer have irrational fears stopping me from being happy in a wonderful boyfriend.
@Savvynlady (3686)
• United States
30 Aug 07
That I cannot trust him with the things that I feel close to my heart. See, I was married and I got divorced eight years ago, and since then, I haven't been in a relationship. There have been men that wanted to be with me, but I didn't feel that they were for real. I would love to but know that there are things within myself that need to be addressed. At this point, I have come to the conclusion that perhaps there isn't a man out there for me. A lot of time has passed and I haven't met anyone that I would like to be with; I met one that I had thought could be, but it didn't work out and he was killed horribly two years ago. I mourned him and accepted it now, but it took me time to get to this point.
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• United States
30 Aug 07
What I fear is that he'll take it run with it. Meaning, it seems to ME when ever you open your heart to a man he feels like he got it NOW, now he can do or say whatever he feels. Because he knows how you feel about him and feels like you won't go nowhere. His EGO was stroked.
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• Australia
30 Aug 07
I'm not afraid of opening my heart to anyone...I think initially everyone deserves the gift of trust and love. Because essentially that is what you're doing when you open your heart. They can lose trust and love through thoughtless actions sometimes, but always, I give freely to begin with. Relationships started from the start are the best kind of relationships and most often the most successful.
@zer0charly (5618)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
that I opened my heart into the wrong man.. I am afraid that someday, he'll gonna left me and choose another girl who is better than me.. that he might get so sick and tired with our relationship. that he might not adjust with me,.. Lots of.. but I always think positive whenever I open my heart to somebody.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
7 Sep 07
I'm scared that the man is going to hurt me. I fear that he's going to take what I tell him and throw it back at me when I am most vulnerable. It's happened before and I'm not going to make the same mistake twice.