Mylot members who want you to be a friend of a relative or someone on myLot

@suspenseful (40326)
Canada
August 30, 2007 2:34pm CST
The other day, one of my friends on mylot requested that we become a mylot friend to her daughter and gave us a sad story that she is disabled, has problems, and hardly has time to request friends herself. This woman was in my age range, so I thought that her daughter would be like her, a nice God fearing girl, living alone, and then I read in her posts that she is into goddess worship and very tolerant towards things I am against. So unless there is a delete as a friend button, I am out of luck. What I want to say is for all you Mylotters who want to help someone get friends, let them get their own. We are able to read the posts, and can decide for ourselves.
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7 responses
• United States
30 Aug 07
I had a feeling that this post was about me. Listen, just delete me. I don't want a person to be my "friend" out of pity. Just know that there are a lot of people like me out there, and I'm sure I'm not the first person you've encountered. If I am, oh my! I am a little offended by this, as you make all kinds of assumptions about me based on some information you garnered online. God-fearing? You know what? I'm more open minded about Christianity than you seem to be about people who aren't of the same religion, etc as you. I didn't ASK my mother to get people to add me. She did that on her own accord. She loves me, even though she was against some of the things that I am into, like queer people, and pagans, just to name a few. Another mylot member told me not to start an argument, or say anything negative, but this, this was just TACTLESS and I couldn't help but to respond in my own defense. You should confront a person directly. You don't know whether or not I'm a good person, whether or not I pray, whether or not I believe in God or Jesus. I'm behind a computer screen. So are you. Save us both the trouble and delete me. I should start discriminating more in the future, because I don't want to get worked up over some random person that I'll never know. I hope you pray for yourself, because I'm going to pray for you!
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Aug 07
*applauds* That was an awesome response.
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30 Aug 07
Wonderful my dear, just wonderful. I am a Christian and I don't have a problem in the world with other's faiths and dare I say, even those that have no beliefs being my friend here or in the real world. I like to believe our God is about love, not bigotry and hate. So you don't need to worry about me removing you and I am proud you are on my list. Oh and one more for the judgmentals here to tsk me over, I have gay friends as well :O
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Aug 07
Yup, yup, sunshinecup is a lovely sunny friend. =)
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Aug 07
You can delete friends here, but I'm very sad to hear that you are rejecting this person just because she has different beliefs than you. If the original sad story that convinced you to befriend the person in the first place is true, then you would think your compassion towards her because of her problems would overcome your intolerance of her religious beliefs. I sure wish this person would add me as a friend, because I'd love to be her friend, from what you say about her. =)
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• United States
30 Aug 07
Hi there - why don't you explain to her (or at least to me) how you delete friends on here. The first thing I'm going to do after I make this comment is request to add YOU as a friend. You seem very nice, and open-minded! The second thing I am going to do is to delete this person from my list. Like I said in my response (below), my mom asked people to add me without me asking her to do so! I can't believe I have to defend myself...diversity exists in this world and it exists online as well! In fact, you're going to find more "freaks" online because it is a way for us to connect (and by us I mean minorities, people who are ostracized in society, dis/abled people, people who aren't of a majority religion or what not!). Peace! I wish the author of this post well, despite the negative energy she sent towards me!
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Aug 07
As if my post weren't long enough already, but I thought I might add that I have tons of friends that are Christian, as well as a Christian husband. So while some people of your religion believe that they can't be tolerant of Pagans, obviously there are plenty that don't believe that. I'm sad for you that you have chosen a path of hatred rather than the path of love my friends who are Christian have chosen.
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• United States
31 Aug 07
If she has trouble making frineds on here. Then what would make you think she would be able to communicate with friends someone else makes for her? One reason she might have trouble making friends is because of what she posts, and the things that she is into. That may or may not be a reason though, just a thought.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
She goes a little overboard, with her troubles. I kind of think she's an enabler and people take advantage of her.
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• Canada
31 Aug 07
Suspenseful, I think myLot is for discussing topics and subject matter, not people's personalities. How about you stick to those kinds of discussions and stay away from character assassination? I think we understood from your original post that you regretted adding this woman to your friends list, and that's pretty all we needed to know. We really don't need to hear what kind of person you think she is. Stuff like that is best suited for a gossip website and not myLot. W.W.J.D.?
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• United States
30 Aug 07
Suspenseful, I never stated anything about my daughter's disability nor did I say that she hardly had time to request friends for herself. I did state that she is fairly new to MyLot and asked my friends to check out her articles and add her as a friend. The choice to add a friend is one that should be a decision that one makes on their own. I have added people at the request of my friends too. I do not respond to every article that everyone writes as I don't agree with some of their articles. That does not mean that they are unworthy of my friendship. My daughter is a good hearted person and she is one of the most open-minded, intelligent people that I know. I am proud to have her as not only my daughter, but as my friend. Please delete her from your list if that is what you so choose to do. It is your right.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
I want to be able to discuss things and I am afraid that some posts I will never be able to discuss with her.
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• United States
1 Sep 07
There are so many people of different backgrounds, cultures, and lifestyles here on MyLot. I do not reply to every discussion that is started, even if they are in my friends list. I pick and choose what I feel I can respond to in an intelligent, friendly manner.
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@sunshinecup (7882)
30 Aug 07
Well to be honest I don't mind those posts, rather hear something positive about a person than complaints and bashing. I don't mind that they point someone out, this is a large board and it can take months to come across someone I would be interested in as a friend, so it's cool to me. I will run them through the checklist as I do all and if they fit what I am looking for I will add them, if not then I won't. So it's not a big deal to me. BTW Do you really not know how to delete people from your friends list? Just go look at your list via the link at the top of the page, it’s a link clearly marked as “delete” next to their name.
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Aug 07
You know it's an excellent point that those sorts of posts are better than all the complaining and bashing that goes on around here! =)
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
I usually take my time to put someone on my friend's list. I have to go through all their posts, and see if we have things in common and there are certain things that we will not see eye to eye. Color, from another country does not matter, but they have to understand that I cringe at the word diversity. You see, in Canada, diversity means liking everyone unless they are Christians, especially White Anglo=Saxon Christians. Ir is the same with tolerance, it has lost its meaning of "not beating up those who are different" to whole heartedly approving of their lifestyle. I found the link to delete. It was just until this am, that I had not had a chance to use it.
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@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
hi suspenseful, to delete a friend the previous responders have showed you how. about the mother trying to get her daughter a friend, I think this is a common thing mothers do for their children. my mom disagreed most of the time with my own choice of friends and would prefer me to be friends with certain people she thought are better. I have done that before, helping others to make friends, but this was in real life. Soon after they made friends, somehow they ganged up against me. So I learned that unless I really trust the person, I won't help this person make friends or accept this person's friends as mine. Anyway it is your right who you want to be friends with. Have a good weekend.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
I feel the same way as you do. Sometimes people mistake who we are and sometimes people hide who they are and one has to search to find out about them. I am wary when someone feels their relative does not have enough gumption to make their own friends, unless of course they are little children. But this girl or woman was not a child.
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• United States
1 Sep 07
My daughter was not aware that I posted the discussion. I only did it to get her started. We were all newbies at one time on MyLot.
• Canada
30 Aug 07
Suspenseful, it's too bad you are not open and accepting like Jesus was. You know he hung around the beggars, the unbelieving, and the "social outcasts" of his time. He was a kind, generous, big-hearted man who would not turn his bad on someone who didn't share his views. Maybe you need one of those W.W.J.D. bracelets. Oh, and Goddess Bless. :D
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Aug 07
That is a very good point! Totally off-topic, I love your avatar!
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