Teenagers Is your 18 year old daughter as bad as mine?
By kneeshka123
@kneeshka123 (392)
August 30, 2007 10:16pm CST
My 18 year old daughter is horrible. She is rude to me and refuses to help in the house. I am sitting here in shock because this afternoon we had a row about her paying for the tv films she viewed over the past month and the mobile telephone calls she had made only £30. She went made saying why should she ?
i tried to explain to her thaat she has got to take on some responsibility but she never listens just screams out abuse at the top of her voice.
I have just tried to sort my sound out only to find that she has cut all the wires on my speakers. I only bought them a week ago and they cost me $50 - What is wrong with her?
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8 responses
@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
31 Aug 07
It's time to cut her wires. Put a block on the TV service so she can't order movies. Take away the mobile phone. Put a block on the telephone service if you can so that she can't rack up long distance charges. Give her a bill for rent, utilities and food that you provide and tell her that if she ever takes it upon herself to destroy your personal property that you will take her to court - and then do it, if you have to.
Sometimes a little rude awakening to the realities of life does wonders. The worst she can do is move out in which case she will have to find a job and pay her own way. Either way, she won't be using you and disrespecting you at the same time.
@kneeshka123 (392)
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31 Aug 07
Well, you saying that - my partner changed the locks last night for the inside door. So that she could get into the main front door but not our front door. So when she arrived home this morning she went berserk and evern her boyfriend could not calm her down. She ended up smashiing her bedroom window. I am not giong to get it fixed either, I do not see why I should. She has money and she can sort it out herself so this will be the first time she has had to be responsible for something. Lets see how she deals with it
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
31 Aug 07
Hey that's a start. And if she can stay out all night with her boyfriend and has her own money, then it's time for you to stop paying for everything.
When she calms down, have a little talk. Be very calm and straightforward. Start with a little acceptance by saying "we realize you are now an adult" something to which she will agree. Then explain that along with her freedoms as an adult there are responsibilities, this is what they are...have a list.
In the long run, this approach of making her take the responsibility will help her most in growing up and making a better life for herself. In a few years, maybe by 25 or so, she will consider you her best friend. We all know everything when we are teens, later we realize we don't know everything. It's process we go through, and sometimes others can only help by not helping.
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@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
31 Aug 07
Well I have my thirteen and twelve girls and as much as possible I knew their characters and the people they are with the whole day in school...We talk everyday, we let them know the hardships that we had. Telling them not to do that and what are their priorities.
Now as far as I read your discussion about your daughter to me she seems to be a spoiled brat and she never listen to you...let your husband handle this and do some possible things to discipline her before it's too late.
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@kneeshka123 (392)
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31 Aug 07
That is the thing you see The whole arguement started when she said why should she pay get my boyfrined to pay for it (we have been together for 8 years) I reminded her that we had just lived of his inheritance money for the past how long, but she just commented that he was the one ewho spent it. She just does not care.
The problem I must admit does start from the fact that I had to send her to my parents from when she was 9 until a few years back as I was unwell. But I keep trying to explain that we are back together again now and she cant make that her excuse, but she just wont have it. I did let her get away with everything at first because I felt so guilty about not being there for her so I made the rod for my own back.
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@ArsonCuff (3114)
• United States
31 Aug 07
Sounds about the same as the kids that live here...society is going downhill..ahhhh
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@kneeshka123 (392)
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31 Aug 07
I agree with you kids these days do not know about respect values and morals
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@jessicamom24 (391)
• United States
31 Aug 07
i have a 18 yera old son that does the same thing but he doesn't yell at me but he has a hard time listening to me and his father and we just bought him a new computer in which i told his dad that was a bad ides but i would have her moblie phome turned off and and the cable turned off until she can learn howe she will pay for these things and if she cut my wires i would have her sent to a boot camp or even arrested so she can learn that she can't do this and get away with it put your foot down and make her learn
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@kneeshka123 (392)
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31 Aug 07
Boys never listen well they do hear you it is just that they do not respond. But girls they hear and respond in her case aggresively
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@navtech (1773)
• India
31 Aug 07
Dear Kneeshka123, I am sorry to hear the behaviour of daughter. I do not understand why does she behave like this. I think some sort of frustration is haunting her. Allow her to have her own way. She will come to normal and will start behave properly. Was she always from the young age and this is new phenomenon. You did not mention anthing about it. However, nothing to worry everything will come normal. God will always with you.
@alfecris (181)
• Philippines
31 Aug 07
at least the gesture your daughter is showing to you is not that strange rather than my aunt's daughter.
She's so mean to her mother, in fact she stole jewelry from her mother and lend to the pawnshop to have money and also she withdraws everything inside her atm given by her parents. i mean she is so spoil she is really bratt.
i hope she would changeas soon as she could realized that she is doing wrong decisions and actions to her mother.
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
1 Sep 07
Dear friend, never ever take that kind of disrespect from anyone including your own.
If my kids were ever to say that to me at 18 I would go out and buy them a paper, and that would be the last thing I ever bought for them until the took their attitude back to the store and returned it.LOL
I would tell them if they are responsible enough to know what they are watching on tv and buying at the store they are old enough to have a job, and an apartment of their own. and when she grows up a little and finally learns what the differance between being an adult and an adolesent are then you could maybe help her a bit.
That is what my mom did to me, not because I was disrespecting her, but because I was not responsible at all, could not hold a job and so on and so forth.
GOOD LUCK HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR YOU.
@kneeshka123 (392)
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3 Sep 07
Well what we did (my partner did as I am too soft) he changed the lock to the inside door so now she has to ring the bell. In the arguement when she returned thae next day she broke her bedroom window and I refuse to pay for it to get fixed. I think that this little episode is definately going to teach her something about responsibility in life.
Denise
@satansoldat_666 (412)
• Philippines
31 Aug 07
She may need attention, or may be too spoiled.She seems to be in a sense both immature and a complete primadona......whiich kinda sickens me.May be she wanst soemone her own age to talk with.She may be having some probs that you dont know of since she is afraid to express it or .But based on my judgement , as also an 18 yr old, it seems she doesnt want to neither take responsibility or authority at all, which is just plain immature and primadona
@kneeshka123 (392)
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31 Aug 07
I like the pentagram your definately right she is one thing one moment and theother the nmext but for how long though?
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