Can U be friends with the person who once was your girl/boy friend?

China
September 1, 2007 2:13am CST
Can you make friends with the person who you love most ,however, for some reasons you two parted.what is your opinion?thanks in advance for sharing....
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• Philippines
5 Sep 07
hello there Comeonmolly, I believe that one can be friends with someone who was once ur girl/boyfriend if and only if the seperation was in good terms. i mean, both of them decided that thy're relationship is not doing well and might as well depart. but of course, there are circumstances that it is very difficult for a person to befriend someone whom he/she had a relationship with. it may be because the other p[arty is still in love with the other one or the parting was not mutual and some things that were said that should not be said.
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• China
6 Sep 07
Hello marifel1986, I know your meaning.. You can be friends with the person who you love based on the condition that your relationship is well ,and both of you don't have the feeling of love as before,all your feeling is that you are friends,and your care ,your conciderate still exist.however,if you to are both love each other,or one is still love another,in this case you shouldn't be friends with him/her,b/c this will bring you painful,and make you hurt again.
• China
6 Sep 07
Thanks for your reponse,thank you! sincerely!
• India
3 Sep 07
i think you can be but just make sure that his or her intentions are clear. smiles, apple.
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• China
5 Sep 07
Hi,my lovable friend, I knowing your meaning...I will follow your instroctions,Then I will decide whether we can be friends or not. Thanks for your advice,I will always remember in my heart.. Thank you! sincerely!
• India
5 Sep 07
thanks and welcome
@eir000 (30)
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
Yes of course. But it depends on what's the reason of you being parted. Do u waste the moments you share for each other, the love, the care. Your relationship lost,but the moments and memories between you and your love one must not be easily forgotten.
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• China
5 Sep 07
hello,eirooo, Yes,you are right,the moment we both have need us treasure,although we are no longer lovers,however,this memories will never forget.. Thanks for your sharing.. sincerely..;-)
@pendragon (3354)
• United States
3 Sep 07
I have tried, they're too insane and I don't want to be around them ever again,lol.
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• China
5 Sep 07
Hello,pebdragon, I know your feelings .It is really hard,however,this need courage and compersation for each other. Anyway,I will try my best,b/c there is a belief in my country that is to have one friend is always better to have one enemy. Thnaks for sharing..;-)
@dimaks (786)
• Japan
3 Sep 07
well, that is possible buy i agree on the degree of awkwardness at some point. but people have learned a lot already from past experiences and seem to have overcame the general phenomena, so some were also successful in maintaining a good friendly relationship. it is a lot better i think because there were previous attachment and things can be addressed easier - both knows each other in the first place.
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• China
5 Sep 07
Yeah!you are right. We both learnt a lot from each other in how to running love better,How to make your love lasted,We both teach us from our company. It is really a good experience although the resault is not so good,however, why not choose to be a friend?that may be much better. Thanks for your response! thank you! sincerely!
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
2 Sep 07
Of course you can..I have remained close friends with most of my ex's actually and i wouldnt have it any other way....There was a reason we were initally attracted to one another and just because intimately it didnt work out doesnt mean there isnt still a connection on some level ya know...
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• China
5 Sep 07
Hello,Ravenladyj, I agree with you. I will try my best .... thanks for sharing your opinion with me ! thank you !sicerely! Best wishes for you!
@rima0013 (441)
• Iran
1 Sep 07
why not? i think it's not too difficult to do that ,maybe when i fight contact to my friends after that i would not try to have relationship with her any more!!! but if there wasn't any real problem i would try it again...perhaps after some times both of us can feel better than before....
• China
5 Sep 07
Hi,rimaoo13, I appreciate your opinion, There is not real problem ,love itself don't always have right or wrong,which really count is whether we treaure each other or not. Thank you! sinceely!
@dreamy1 (3818)
• United States
1 Sep 07
Yes I think you can. I think if you started as friends first it's a lot easier to go back to being friends. I think the only way you can go back to being friends is that if both of you really don't have any more romantic feelings towards one another. If you still like the person as more than friends or the other person likes you as more than friends then you are kidding yourself. The person who wants to be more than friends with the other person but says they just wants to be friends will wind up getting hurt even more if the other person starts to date someone else.
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• China
5 Sep 07
Hi dreamy1, Thanks for sharing your opinion with me,under your help I will respect my feelings and do what I should do. Thank you sooooo much. Have a nice day! sincerely!
@andyliuzn (991)
• China
1 Sep 07
Hi Comeonmolly, Well, I don't think it would be a trouble for me for this. I am now still being friend with a girl that I fell in love with, but she is married now. It happens that the friendship is somewhat different than before, and surely not that close than used to be:). And I couldn't imagine what the two guys would treat either other if they are not friends any more when departed:)
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• China
1 Sep 07
hi,again,andyliuzn, Of course, the people who parted from each other ,their relationship will not so good as before,b.s.your ex-girl friend was married,so you should keep a distance for each other. Is she also in your mind? Wish you happy.. thanks for sharing..
@academic2 (7011)
• Uganda
9 Dec 07
It all depends on the reason that led to our departure-if it was not traumatic, then why not, we can still be friends.
• China
9 Dec 07
Hi there, Thanks for sharing ur views,just as what u said we can be friends depend on the reasons we part with each other....anyway,in my opinion we will should our best to maintain a friendship than we have an enemy.... Thanks for join in this discussion.. Molly.........;-)
@cliffcliff (1350)
• United States
9 Dec 07
hi there Molly, only time can tell if you will be friends. You can give it a chance and see what happens as time goes by.. maybe? maybe not? if you treat him with kindness, please expect kindness in return. the love may fade, the friendship may begin, but also you have to share your emotions towards a new love soonner or later.I have tried always to stay friends with my past love. a good luck charm to you! -cliff
• China
9 Dec 07
Hi,cliffcliff, smiles...Really wise!that's true ,time sometimes is the best checker and the best medicine.u can be cured by this kind of medicine and u can also check someone by this "time"... what we have to do is to well transfer this kind of love into friendship,maybe we will feel awkward,but as time goes by the friendship will blossom and love feelings fade and this is the best result.......... Thanks ,cliffcliff. sincerely..... Molly...;-)
@sugarfloss (2140)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 07
hey comeonmolly!I've only been friends with two of my ex-boyfriends.And that's only because we weren't physical while we were dating.I guess it's better being friends with the non-physical ones cos then we wouldn't decide to be physical again.don't u think?
• China
6 Sep 07
I agree with you! allow me to show my view,we can't be friends with the person who we were dating is physically,love should be pure and without any other impurity,based on this our love will last fowever,and both of us will not hurt,no matter heart or physical. Thanks for sharing your experience with me... sincerely!
@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
2 Feb 09
H[i]i molly, I do know if this is possible to all but I have in my past who are open-minded and we are still friends but I also have one whom I preferred no to talk with or communicate with for some reason![/i]
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
26 Jul 08
No. I rather not. So far, I choose to keep a distance from my ex boyfriends. I do this not because I still like them. I do this because they no longer deserve my time and friendship. I think this way because they hurt me greatly. If it was an amicable breakup, I think we could still be friends.
20 Feb 08
It is not wrong in this case, if the two of them want to be friends with each other they can.Myself I think it is dificult because evry time you are not agreed in something you can get out in your defence something from the relationship you had together in front of other peole that doesn't know that fact.Not just this there are other reason for example friends spend their time fien with each other if you've not spend the time fine together when you were a couple how do you think to spend it as friends.
@carolscash (9504)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Yes, I think that it is very possible. I have a friend who I dated and cared a great deal about but we didn't stay together as a couple. However, we are good friends just as we were before we dated. I think that if you have a good friendship and you don't have a horrible relationship then it will work out that you stay friends.