Wish that my bestfriend be my lover, Do I have to tell?

Philippines
September 1, 2007 7:05pm CST
Feeling that we kept for so long that we are afraid to tell our very own bestfriend that you like to have an intimate relationship as a lover aside from being a bestfriend. Do we have to tell them or just stay being a friend?
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• China
2 Sep 07
I wiil tell her when we have a good chance
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@angle007 (168)
• India
2 Sep 07
good choice you know when to say things
• Philippines
26 Dec 07
i wanted to, but i cant ... still respected the friendship, but my heart is still pounding ...
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
There's nothing wrong on being true with our feelings buddy! But in some instances like that, we should balance it. Think first what would be the reaction of your bestfriend if you'll going to reveal her your feelings. If you think that she can accept it, then good for you. But if you think that, she will reject it and she don't like to have an intimate relationship with you then think again. Perhaps, you can still tell her what you really feels for her, but don't expect too much. And tell her that you just wanna say what you really feels, and you're not asking anything in return. Maybe she'll get challenge for that and let you to court her. How's that? Have a nice day ahead from kiko.
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• Philippines
26 Dec 07
yah, this is all the fault of my thinking ... sometimes i wish that i be a sort of a gentleman type, friends (female mostly) more often commented for my that very "G" thing, maybe i may not think of what would be the outcome of it, sigh! ... i love women, everybody does, but a friend and not just a friend but a friend that give you trust and respect, that is one way to think of for not letting go with these throbbing heart of mine ... am not for any fantasy stories but who knew there might be reincarnations and maybe that would be my time to fixed things up, hehe ...
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@diansinta (7559)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 07
my best friend wedding - my best friend wedding image
Its depend of how much you love her. Is it strong enough to watch her dating another guy? if you can't watch her with somebody else, well i think you should tell her what your feeling, im sure this girl already know that you are in love with her and she stick and waiting for you to tell her. Just give your self a shot. You guy still be friend if she isn't in love with you, right? after that, you can move on with your life. Life is too short just to keep on watching her from a far.:D i recommend you to watch "my best friend wedding"good luck my friend.
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• Philippines
26 Dec 07
watch her dating? my god shes now married ... but she still looks fine to me, shes absolutely beautiful ... i wonder how could i not tell her what i felt for her, the only answers ive got is im happy for her, but i always till remember when that particular time that there is something between when our both eyes have met, but goes again to my thought that it was nothing, and i dont want to spoil everything ...
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• Philippines
4 Sep 07
Getting into that level may be difficult to achieve but if you really can detect that there is really a chemistry between the two of you and not just normal best friends then why not? be honest with her. But that is if your ready for the consequences either you win or loose you must be ready.
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• Philippines
26 Dec 07
hhmmmm, to recall that i was saying that i am not afraid in any failures, thats normal, but somehow it turns out that way, afraid of losing her that might pushing her away from me ... but, on the other hand shes my bestfriend and being suites to every likeness that i have and being comfortable with her end up to my thinking that shes got a kind of my brain, maybe shes precaution also with the "real deal" she knew how to read my mind on days basis/normal companionship that we had ... but, ... i dont know, i think the problem is in me, sigh!
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
Just go with flow with the friendship. Just stay beside her and be there for her always specially if she needs someone to talk with her problems.. Grab the chance if you can but don't be afraid to the consequence that yoiu might lose her or lose the friendship that you've been taken care of...
• Philippines
26 Dec 07
which is which? grab the chance or go with the flow .... hhhmmmmm, i decided that shes just a part of mine as being a friend i still have those older brother image from her, just for my thought, i guess i fixed my mind on it, the only problem that ive got on how to fix my hypothalamus (my small part of my brain whos responsible of what they call heart's feelin's ... well, its cute to think also that shes teasing me when she sometimes telling me of something (secret)...
@Philxav (733)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 07
Dear Pal, I know how you feel. You might think what happen if she rejects you and she keep away from you.. rite?. Well, sometimes you have to let them know your feelings. Its always better for you to tell them your feelings. who knows maybe she have the same feelings too. Get into the right situation, make her happy and then open your heart gently. Just let her know how u feel about her... and do not tell her I LOVE YOU right away.. but start with something shows that you care for her much and kept thinking of her.
• Philippines
26 Dec 07
she knew and absolutely knew how much i cared for her and once i told her i love her but being as a friend, it was before but its too late to tell her the other way around or the other definition of that feelings ... again, shes married ... the only consolation that i have is the memories of being with her and these heart without brain of mine ...
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• Philippines
2 Sep 07
Well you should be true to yourself, don't be unfair to your bestfriend by not telling her how you feel. Maybe she loves you too. Don't be shy and speak what your heart wants to tell.
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• Philippines
26 Dec 07
if only you knew, every minute hmmmm how i wish ... but its too late for that, shes married ... huh that makes your shoulders drop, am just happy for her now ... the only credits that i have now is SMS/calls of saying how am i doing, she misses me, blah-blah-blah, a combined feeling of a smiling heart with a tons crushing on it, a curled face and a fist for your self that sort of thing ... sigh! WeW!
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• Philippines
2 Sep 07
of course! very important!how could she know it, if u not to tell her,,,just explain her well ,,and be ready also ur self for the possible happen after u tell her,...just be ur self and be honest,BELIEVE UR SELF AND GOD!EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT FOR SURE! MAKE IT GOOD AND GIVE UR BEST SHOT !
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• Philippines
26 Dec 07
shes a girl, im a boy, she cried on my shoulders, i wiped her tears, i give advise being a guy, girls always do have problems with boys ... as a Beast-friend, hehe! gave blah-blah-blah ... many outings ... many stories ... many many many ... then i told her that I LOVE HER, but still love of being a friend, i never gave any malice on my actions towards her, she doesnt feel that way ... i kept it on my own ... heart thrubs ... sigh!
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@diansinta (7559)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 07
hm,.. in that case, you should move on , my brother.. theres is a time we should move on. Specialy when she already have her own live. i know its hard to let go. But soon as we did it, you will be free of all things in the past.. My point is : for what do we should hanging on from 'ghost' from the past. its just burden you." wish her happy life and let go. Perhaps your true soulmate its not her after all. she will come when you ready and already let go.
• Philippines
28 Dec 07
yes i did, i hav accepted the fact that it is very too late for me, but you cant blame me for still admiring her and sometimes get crazy thinking about her ... nothing change about the regular path of my life and i hav tamed my feeling towards her, but i thought it was that easy ... i still wanted her!
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@diansinta (7559)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 07
tell her than. this is the only way you can move on. Good luck mellcheng :)
• Philippines
13 Jan 08
SIGH, if only ... if only ... SIGH!
• China
28 Dec 07
i think you should tell her.no matter she love you or not,she will be happy,because you is loving her.if she love you ,too.that is the best result.if she has had a boyfriend,you can be the best friends ,too.why not tell her?I had the same problem two months ago.i told her i love her,but she had had boyfriend,now we are the best friends.if you tell her,whatever the result is ,you will feel very relax.
• Philippines
29 Dec 07
if ever i will tell her, do you think i can manage my self, i knew it will not be what i wanted to be since shes got her man in her life and if ever she may think it will be alright, hhmmm how about me do i think it would not be malicious if i am that very sweet to her same as often i do with our companionship ... i am afraid for anything that will risk our friendship ...
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
27 Dec 07
There are lots of time in our life we might fallen into love with someone whom we know we will never get. The best thing to do is let go the person and let them live happily. We want to see the happiness in the person we love. The real love means happiness in the eyes of person we love. I have also fallen with my bestfriend and I did not get time to tell to her because she got married very quickly and she was engaged when she became friend with me. I could do nothing but just watch as she went to someone. At first I felt pain and sadness that she married someone, but then I felt that I was too selfish. I saw her happy with someone and the her happiness healed my pain and my love became real when I saw her happiness. We always want to make the person we love happy and to have the best in their life. I think you should not tell anything to her and leave her own to her own life.
• Philippines
28 Dec 07
seems i was reading my own thoughts, thanx, very well said there, ... yes, i do also felt what you felt, i admire you that you have manages yourself for everything, i am wishing it will do also for me, even i promise my self in doing so, she also felt me with such pain when I THINK THAT IT IS ME WITH THOSE EMBRACING ARMS OF HER, do it get that tought in your mind? the only advantage that i have is i always balance everything that would not risk our friendship, HONESTLY she is still in my heart and i am unfai to others who are bein involved with me ... am felt so sorry for my self but i know how to manage everything ...
@Vucjak (242)
• Macedonia
27 Dec 07
You have to tell. I don't believe you can stay friends if you feel something more for your friend. Just try your luck ;)
• Philippines
28 Dec 07
i told to my self that i hav to end this crazy stuff my heart says ... only thoughts that will say that i hav already cut this craziness but but but every time she calls,sms and when we see each other she's more that treasure to me, but i have to wait for the right moment since she's committed to somebody else, that would be my big mistake if ever i will attempt to express my feelings for her ... i force to believe that their will be for me and for the both of us in another life, craziness! sigh!
• Philippines
6 Sep 07
Boy,I know how you feel.I confessed my feeling for my friend before but he just rejected me.At first,I found it hard to accept the rejection but time found me someone new and I'm very happy but we still kept the friendship.About your question,it depends on you.You're a guy and there's nothing wrong about confessing your feelings to a girl unlike us.If we tella guy how we feel,people will think that we're so obscene.Pity!
• Philippines
26 Dec 07
where now on a new millennium all may say for what they feel, im a sort of a conservative on my possessions but broadminded on others behalf ... confessing sometime is a word for a stitch to catch girlfriend, saying you liked her, shes fine, shes got curves, shes hot and everything but im not showing im a womanizer of something, i liked to be franked with everything but, "BUT" this Bfriend of mine is dffrent, shes something, shes wonderful ... see, she has the same descriptions from a guy like me but, she manage to look dffrent from my heart and shes my best friend ... and that was the main problem! ... lots of things to think and to balance, sometimes you could say I Would Tell Her or Sometimes moments couldnt allow you to make the moves and thats how you do thinking why things cannot make on place, maybe this is not the right world for us to be in it! ... and now, i was thinking also that i am very unfair to the person im being with because shes still on my mind, but i have to find someone to replace her, she no longer available ... and this is my second problem, how could i tell her(present GF) about her! ... sigh ... sigh!
@diansinta (7559)
• Indonesia
6 Sep 07
by giving her all your had and care to listen to all her problems, she will falling in love with you.
• Philippines
26 Dec 07
i know, i know she loves me too, but not that kind of love that i wanted to have ... i dont know now i am too late of everything, sigh!