Ignoring me unreasonably
By diannebcrs
@diannebcrs (1549)
Philippines
September 2, 2007 12:01am CST
Well, for me it is really unreasonable. I have a guy classmate who is really smart in academics. And I really admire him for that.
We became friends because he was seated in front of me. We really had a great time talking and making fun of each other. Sometimes during the night, he sent me text messages like quotes or questions about homework. For weeks, my grades in most of my subjects really went up because I was very inspired to study because of him...
But then there's this one fateful day when a close friend of mine told him that I had a crush on him and that I feel inspired to study because of him. He said he was flattered and happy. In the beginning, he was fine with it.. Then in the later days, he started ignoring me. Not really ignoring in a way that it's rude already.. But it was like we're strangers..
He doesn't send me text messages any more; he doesn't talk to me unless I talk to him; he doesn't like to glance my way any more; he doesn't joke around me... Sigh...
It's been more than a week now. And my grades begins to go down because I can't help but feel all miserable about it. I like this guy.. I really, really do.. And I'm starting to care about him. But here I am, being ignored by this guy. At least we're civil and we're not fighting... But I miss the times when we're really good friends.. I think it's very unreasonable that he tries to ignore me just because he knew I liked him...
My question now is... how can I bring that old friendship back? I know it's typical of a guy to ignore a girl once he finds out that she likes him... What can a girl do so the guy will be her friend again? Or is that even possible? A friend of mine who also happens to be a guy said that there's nothing I can do about it.. I feel so discouraged... Can anyone help me?
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4 responses
@AmberNormandin (883)
• United States
2 Sep 07
First of all, dont let your grades (and your future) suffer because of a guy. Secondly, you could either try and talk to him, or send him a note apologizing if you've offended him in anyway or something like that. Try and get him to talk to you. Dont let your self get caught up in this and end up failing a class. Your school is more important than a guy.
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@bonnielass (484)
• United States
2 Sep 07
there is no excuse to let ur grades fall..you dont need him to bring them up
as for ur friendship..if u where really friends sit him down and talk to him...friend to friend..
if he cant do that then he isnt mature enough for an adult friendship...
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@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
i agree that there's no excuse for failing my grades because i have a brain - and my brain is placed on the higher spot than my heart; so, i ought to follow it.
but i can't help but be distracted. there are times when no matter how many minutes i gawk on my books or notebooks, my brain just can't absorb the contents!
anyway... i should try my best to be happy again so that i'll be able to pull my grades up. i should find other inspirations, right?
thanks for you responses!
@alfecris (181)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
well you know what i think it is typical for a guy to be flattered and would not care about you or shall i say will ignore when he finds out that you like him. since i am guy, the only thing you can to solve that problem is to keep on talking when you want to or in times of help in your assignment seatworks or anything related to the subject. and i know it really hurts in your part to see him ignoring you after he knew but just go on and move on if possible. do not be effected to it, just act very normal and act the same as what you were before.
or in the other way around do not show any interest to him that you like him. well i guess time will come that he would learn to understand you or either he would to love you for that matter.
you are still young, you can still find more deserving guy in your life. and try to forget him so that you won't get hurt. just treat him as your friend that if he just treat as friend also but when you see or figure out that he has interest in you then never loose him. you might be on together, we do not wanna know. just continue and make your grades up, do not be affected and be happy all the time. i know there is something more you will get in the future, just wait. okay bye.
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@alfecris (181)
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
hey im sorry for the missing words i wrote... laugh out loud. i type so fast and also i think so fast that is why i forgot to type the words. like this one
the only thing you can DO to solve thats problem is to keep on talking WITH HIM when you want to.....
or either he would LEARN to love you...
affected and JUST be happy all the time.
and others thanks.
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@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
i know it's better to move on. feelings can be forgotten if i choose to forget them.. and i think i sort of have. or i don't know. i may not "like-like" him anymore.. but i still do care about him.
i did my best to be in my utmost casual behavior towards him. and i think there's some progress.. he kind of did that silly high-pitch voice to me again the way he used to before early this afternoon when i asked about this particular subject. it felt so good.. :)
thanks for the response!
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
2 Sep 07
Chances are he thinks he is being helpful and is worried about you becomming to attached to him because he doesn't feel the same way about you . Don't let your grade slip as it is only you that is going to suffer as a result of this . Try and put all your anger and hurt into your studies . There is nothing you can do if he doesn't feel the same way you do but with time , who knows what can happen . In the meantime you need to concentrate on what is important in life and this means your grades , you will probably meet someone else and you really don't want to get hooked up with someone who doesn't feel the same way about you as you feel for them because you will be the one who is always hurt . Best of luck and Take Care !!
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@aqua_chef27 (47)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
awwwww, i know how you feel but hey, don't be discouraged, since you guys are civil, why not talk to him in a manner of like i know somebody must have told you that i liked you but you have been inspiring me to do things better,make him responsible of ur falling grades not in a way of bribery but talk to him straight, that you really treasure the friendship and that he has helped you with your grades, and also for you, easy down there, don't give much to this guy, cuz we might not hold his feelings..and also for you, so you wont get hurt deeply...just be honest but don't open up too much that the cause would made him stay away, for reals we are talking here about maturity of ones person, how he /she took things in proper perspective, in my case say i don't like the guy but i stayed nice and have my limitations, as much i don't let people's feelings down, and also be careful what you can do to a person, you might save a life or actually ruining it...btw, i appreciate that way you are towards ur crush, its normal, but also monitor your feelings, dont get it too involved...remember you are still in control over your emotions...wish you enough and nice posting!! :)
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@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
thanks for the comfort.. really.. i appreciate that.. i know i made a big deal out of this but sometimes i just can't help it.. i'm trying my best to engage him into a conversation though.. he responds casually.. but it's still not the same as before..
thanks for the response..
