Can two people grow to love each other on the internet?

@Sharon38 (1916)
Jamaica
September 4, 2007 8:18pm CST
This is a question that has been bothering me for a long while now. I go on a site and post my picture and I get these requests to be their wife, girlfriend when in truth and in fact all I want to do is make friends. Now I want to really know from you honestly can this happen? I dont believe it but I am open to ideas.
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
6 Sep 07
It will lot depend upon your own intuition, percenptions, thinking and outlook. I mean how do you place your trust and faith on the other fellow. If you find someone as an interesting and lovable fellow, you can always interact with him/her and I believe, as the time passes and you continue to interact with him/her ...you yourself come to know...how true and honest is other fellow. I believe, if the other fellow is not an honest person, he just cannot hide his/her dishonesty, while interacting with you on a regular basis. Hope I was able to explain, what you were looking for. Have a nice day!
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
6 Sep 07
Thank you. You have also helped a lot more than I expected.
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
8 Sep 07
Thanks for liking my response. :):)
• India
10 Sep 07
Hi Deepak! Nice to see you responding to Sharon who is my dear friend and whom i have introduced to this site. I completely agree to you that when you have a regular interaction with someone it is not much possible to interact without giving away things which they have been hiding or was dishonest about. I have caught several on the act and have blocked them. But Internet is definitely a medium to find people. You not only find people through the internet but also get to know to some extent how real they are. Thanks for the encouragement given to CEN777 (Mahesh) and Sharon by giving quality responses to their discussions.
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@ssh123 (31104)
• India
5 Sep 07
Why not? There are girls in India who would like to marry the guys (Indian) who is working abroad. The local contacts when does not yield result, they get hold of email address or they obtain it from the guy and start corresponding through emails and ultimately meet somewhere like jerusalem or England orDubai and take a final decision to have lasting relationship through marriage. In India, most people have a strong belief in marriages rather than live together. I have seen many people found their partners through internet.
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
5 Sep 07
Thanks for responding but my friend I am so scared of these guys. I know that in this world anything is possible and a relationship has to be nurtured and cultivated to it to grow but to love someone on the net before you meet them is that really possible? How do you know that he/she is as they say?
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@ssh123 (31104)
• India
6 Sep 07
When you develop a contact through internet, everything is not decided. YOu get to know each other, understand better and read the message inbetween lines to understand how sincere he is. When you really meet, you can thrash out the issues. Of course in arranged marriages, one will know the alpha and omega of a person. In internet, you have to take a chance.
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
7 Sep 07
Thanks ssh. I guess this is taking a risk jsut like everything else in life.
• India
5 Sep 07
Hi Sharon! It is defenitely possible for two people to fall in love with eachother on the Internet. Well, I found my boyfriend with whom i am so much in love over the Internet only and now we are going steady. But one should be careful as anyone can paint a better picture of themself on the internet than they are in reality. The Internet acts as a medium for you to find people but it is on you to check how genuine they are. I too have received several requests from people to be their partners in business/life before anyone has known me as a person. The internet & networking sites have given me several good friends like you whom i would like to keep for life long. Wishing you all the best with the Internet too.
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
5 Sep 07
Thanks Ann for everything and I do cherish you friendship too and hope tht it will be long lasting. MY fear is though that men will paint a picture as you say that they are somethign when they are indeed the opposite. I know too that no too persons are alike and everyone should be given the chance to prove themselves. I guess a girl just have to be very careful.
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
5 Sep 07
To be honest I was so scared of letting go what I am used to I dont know if I can do this. There are two guys really who want to be friends- wife- but I dont know if I can handle it. But I think I will just check them out to see if it is worthwhile. thank you all for your response and it has allowed me to really see the world through your eyes and take a chance in life. Thank you all again
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
5 Sep 07
anything is possible nowadays. of course some may not agree with this kind of a relationship and may be skeptical, but some had been very successful. i have a friend who had been thru terrible times after having two failed marriages and left with 7 kids. she met her present and third husband on the internet and they are very happy and have been together for the last 6 years. the relationship is stronger as ever.
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
5 Sep 07
Well the facts seem to out way ny fears and since my good friend has found her guy by net maybe I should just stop being a scaredy cat.
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
5 Sep 07
Well the facts seem to out way my fears and since my good friend has found her guy by net maybe I should just stop being a scaredy cat. If others can do it and find real love and joy then by all means go ahead. Who am I to question things?
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
7 Sep 07
I don't think it can but a couple of my Friends have proved me wrong but I know it would never happen for me as I am very weary of that sort of thing and very careful to Good luck to the People who it has happened and I really mean that
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
11 Sep 07
well Gabs thanks for responding and I have found in this life that the most unexpected things happen and good things come from it. Naturally when it comes to relationship I am scared so I am just honestly trying to weigh the pros and cons with your help.
• Philippines
7 Sep 07
i agree with you. it is physical attraction at first. or maybe they read about you that made them say to themselves "she/he could be good." Until they meet personally and feel the chemistry, love is out of topic.
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
7 Sep 07
Thank you Scarlet for responding. It makes me feel better to know that I was not being stupid to check this out first.
• United States
6 Sep 07
Hello Sharon, Yes! You can grow to love on the internet, i meet my husband in a site named cherry blossoms. We getting to know each other on chat, sending email and call on the phone regularly. Then he visit me in the Philippines and ask me to marry him.. Wow!! that's the best thing that happen to my life..he he. I know your scared. Just follow your heart.
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
6 Sep 07
Thanks Sexy. i am happy for you. I know that so many hav already told me that they have found their soilmate by internet and since I have not found anyone worthwhile so far I thought that since the guys atleast two special ones want to have a serious relationship with me I just wanted to know if there was hope for me there. Thanks to you all. You have helped me so much.
@punlonnjack (1309)
• United States
5 Sep 07
I dont know about love on the internet.I however known two personal friends who thought they found love on the internet. One of my friends went as far as meeting the guy in las vegas to get married on the spot.needless to say neither of the two relations ever worked out. I think personally it wouldnt work for me. I could possible fooled like anyone else though, im sure...If a guy said the things I wanted to hear but remember if its to good to be true it probable is..........
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
5 Sep 07
Thats exactly what I believe too. I have think guys just say what they think a woman wants to hear. Those checking me out I tell them point blank that I am just looking friendship nothing more but they carry on as if they dont understand. I am afraid that that this is not th ething for me as you beleive too. Thanks for the support I never expected a response because my discussions hardly gets any but I dont mind really. Thanks again and GOd bless you.
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