Happy Marriage. Do you have it?

@r_yuen (333)
Indonesia
September 5, 2007 10:37am CST
I plan to get married few more years from now on. Probably 2 to 3 more years. Yet, so many things running in my heads. So many questions. "What will happen after 3 months of my marriage?" "Are we going to love each other in any circumstances?" "If we have kids, I have to spend more time with my family. Can I do that?" "What if someday, we quarrel and my wive want a divorce?" "Do we have to rent or buy a house?" Happy Marriage. Do you believe it will happen? Wonder what considered as happy marriage. What do you think?
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3 responses
• South Africa
5 Sep 07
If I can give you good advice, do not ask anyone's advice! No two couples are the same. You and your new soul mate would work it out for yourselves. A marriage is a journey full of rough roads, obstacles, detours and untarred road. But there would be more tarred, freeways which would make it an unbelievable experience. Go to www.freewebs.com/hendriklive for an article "12 Tips for a Happy Marriage". Good luck for both of you.
@r_yuen (333)
• Indonesia
5 Sep 07
Yes. You are right deviliers7. I saw your site already. I'm just thinking if she's not really what she was back when we dated. In marriage, somebody can change. I can't imagine if what I expect in the marriage is totally different and far from the happy marriage itself. Am I asking too much or maybe I haven't found the definition of happy marriage for myself.
• South Africa
5 Sep 07
Don't worry too much. I think if both of you are committed to a marriage and are prepared to give everything, it will work.
@r_yuen (333)
• Indonesia
5 Sep 07
Hahaha... Thanks for the advice. I think the word "committed" is one of the key. So far, we only involved in relationship, but the word "committed", I think it has a deeper meaning. Even when I realize that commitment won't be made by just 1 or 2 years of relationship. I think that's how far the relationship developed. Commitment needs both decision, as one hand won't clap, isn't it?
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Not married yet. Some say I'm not marriage material. Ironically, I've helped others with their relationship/marriage woes and even put up a thread on ultimate marriage proposals. Ah well, I'll chalk that one up to fate. I'm still fine with my current situation.
@r_yuen (333)
• Indonesia
6 Sep 07
Well... someday you will meet the right girl and then you will begin to think the way I think. This kind of thing will make your head spins. :)
@farazkh1 (1157)
• Pakistan
5 Sep 07
Marriage is the blessing and a gift by GOD almighty to us but there are many responsibilities on us to let it go well so its not worry about it much if your wife is a good women and you are co-operative with her this relationship works like teamwork so both husband and wife strugles to let this life perfect for each other and for there kids then there love increases to the endless level as the time goes by .............
@r_yuen (333)
• Indonesia
6 Sep 07
I'm having my pre-marriage counseling right now and what you've just said was right. So, how do you define a happy marriage? I've got one key word, "commitment". But what else?