My Daughter's Friends

@Katlady2 (9925)
United States
September 6, 2007 7:57pm CST
So my darling daughter is a Senior in high school this year. But a lot of her friends are sophomores or juniors. And I am finding out more and more that those kids are soooo acting their ages! My daughter and her friends have what they call "The Group", and it's a bunch of them that hang out during breaks and at lunch time. And let me tell you, it's the biggest bunch of drama I have ever seen! From one day to the next, this person or that person is kicked out of the group for whatever reason, and that person isn't let back in for a few days. Or, someone doesn't like what someone else said, so the whole group turns on each other! Sheesh! Today, two of the girls happened to get mad at my daughter because she always tells me what has happened each day. Not because I ask her to, but because she wants to. We have a really good relationship and we talk about everything. Apparently the girls didn't like the fact that I knew what all was going on with the group, and they told my daughter that she was stupid for telling me every little thing that goes on with them. You know what she told them? "It's not my fault that you guys don't get along with your parents and can't talk to them. So don't get all butt hurt because I have a good relationship with my mom. And GET OVER IT!!". I think I taught my daughter to stand up for herself pretty darned well, don't you? LOL
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@truelife (77)
• Thailand
7 Sep 07
Hello there. I think your daughter is really smart. I hope that your daughter will move on and find better friends. These girls are not, and they'll never be good friends to your daughter. You daughter is already a senior, I think she deserve better friends. Shouldn't she be looking at colleges that she wants to attend now? You see, this is one of the reasons why I decided to graduate early from high school. I felt that life actually starts when college begins. You've taught your daughter well and I envy your relationship with your daughter. I wish my mom is more like you. lol. If your daughter ever need help with college application, let me know!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Thank you so much for your offer hon. I might just take you up on that. Right now, my daughter is looking to enroll in an art school. She loves to draw, and I think she wants to get into something like doing illustrations for kids books. So we're working on the list trying to find a place nearby. Keep your fingers crossed. Thanks so much hon.
• Thailand
7 Sep 07
Which state do you live in? Does your daughter have an idea on what school she wants to apply to yet? I hope that she already started practicing filling college applications and have her own portfolio for colleges to look it. You can always PM me or have your daughter e-mail me at collegeguidance@fastmail.net. In case you're wondering, I made an e-mail especially for helping other students with their college application. Good Luck to your daughter!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
8 Sep 07
Hey truelife. We haven't really decided yet as to where she'll be going. I've been so darned busy with doctor's appointments and getting ready to have an MRI done, and also trying to prepare for an upcoming surgery that I haven't been able to focus on much else. But I know I have to buckle down very soon and do it. When I do I'll let you know. I was thinking the exact same thing that dragon asked. But you seem to have your head on straight and know what you are talking about. I'll PM you soon with my email addy and maybe we can bat information back and forth. Thanks hon.
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Katlady, the [Keys to the Internets] are available for you and your daughter at the Winner's Circle! Please pick them up at your convenience. I like it, great relationship with your daughter. That must be very awesome to have your kid that open with you. I know some kids who run underground parties right under their parents noses (er well, use to know since I grew up with them). You did a great job Kat, hopefully your daughter can keep above the influence too. And yea, she should try to avoid the drama circles, they aren't worth it. Plus anytime I heard one my head exploded or I just did reviews of class assignments in my head ;p
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
8 Sep 07
Thank you so much kind sir! I accept those keys most appreciatively! ;) My daughter not only does not give in to pressure from her friends, but she does her best to stop the drama, and to also steer them in the right direction if they start talking about certain extracurricular activities. I'm so proud of my kid! Oh...and nice back pedaling about the kids you "used" to know! LOL wink
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
8 Sep 07
Garr! I was a good kid .
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
8 Sep 07
LOL! I figured you were a pretty good kid, otherwise you wouldn't be able to give me so much wonderful advice when I need it! Big hugs to you hon! ((((((((((Pro))))))))))
@alamode (3073)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Hey--- I like her! She sounds like my girls! I was a wimp growing up, and vowed that my kids would be braver... and they are! Thats the way it works... telling it straight... hope her friends can pick up on it!!! Good job on the life lessons!!
@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
8 Sep 07
Her friends haven't gotten the clue yet, and they let others pressure them into doing and saying things that they shouldn't sometimes. And boy does my kid let them have it! Maybe one of these days they will catch up with her in maturity (I hope!). Thanks hon.
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@alamode (3073)
• United States
8 Sep 07
At least with kids like ours, we know there's hope for the future... they're spreading the word!!
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@brendakaya (2335)
• United States
7 Sep 07
I agree, she does seem to know how to stand up for herself. She's a smart knid. It's good that she trusts you enough to tell you stuff. I have that kind of relationship with my kids too. Theywill tell me all kinds of stuff too. That is a large reason why my youngest sons girlfriend don't like me. She didn't like the fact that we were so close. She said I babied him too much. SHe doesn't have a close relationship with her parents. I believe she's jeoulous, and tries to pull him away ffrom us, as much as she can. That way, she has more influence on him.
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
7 Sep 07
I'm glad that you and your kids get along that well too. It definitely sounds like your son's girlfriend is very very jealous. She probably can't stand the fact that her boyfriend has the type of relationship with you that she is unable to have with her parents. And that is so sad. I hope your son nips that one in the bud real quick.
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• United States
7 Sep 07
Thanks. I hope he nips it in the bud soon, too.
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@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
9 Sep 07
It is wonderful that you have such a close relationship with your daughter. A lot of people are not close to their children and would envy you for it. Love and closeness are important in life.
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
11 Sep 07
That is so true. And I am definitely very thankful for it. I've seen kids who absolutely despise their parents, and it sometimes looks like the parents feel the same way. That is just so sad.
@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
9 Sep 07
Way to go MOM!! And way to go DAUGHTER!! Awesome...These young ladies are going to have to compromise. There can't be only one leader in that group...They must work together...or there isn't going to be a group...Your daughter is better off without them....
@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
11 Sep 07
She's starting to think that herself. And lately, it seems as if the drama has gotten worse. But that's a whole different discussion! LOL
• United States
7 Sep 07
Frankly, I's day the young lady kicked booty!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
8 Sep 07
Yep! She sure did....and still does! LOL Thanks hon.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
7 Sep 07
Yes you have Mel always told me everything to and she used to get stick of her Friends about it for a while lol but then her Friends started talking to me about one thing or another because they could not talk to their Parents which upset me a bit as I always thought that they should be able to talk to their Mum's about these things but not every Mum is like us I guess
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
8 Sep 07
No, not all of them are like us. One of my daughter's friends even asked me if I would adopt her if she decided to run away from home. I told her I would, but it's because she has a very abusive father, and I would love nothing more than to get her out of that situation. It's families like that that make me realize how lucky I really am. Thanks sweetie.
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
7 Sep 07
wow thats great and what a wondeful daughter and such a beatiful relationship you have together.its great that some kids can stand up for themselves and not be preassured by so much peer pressure going on today,some kids try to do what ever it takes just to fit in a group and end up in so much trouble.i give your daughter alot of credit for doing what she did,and to you for the way your taught her and raised her to be a wonderful kid,way to go mom!hope it lasts forever,its such a beautiful thing.take care.pattie
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
8 Sep 07
Thanks so much hon. She does such a good job of standing up for herself that she surprises even me sometimes! LOL
@creematee (2810)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Who-HOo!!! A child who hasn't fallen for peer pressure! Go girl! Give her a high five from me! :) Congrats to you, too, for raising such a great "girl!"
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
8 Sep 07
I just gave her the high five for ya hon. And she's grinning from ear to ear! Thanks so much my friend.
@MsTickle (24966)
• Australia
7 Sep 07
Sounds pretty good to me. Your daughter can not only stand on her own two feet, she's proud of her mum and also of herself. She has standards and sticks to them which denotes courage, she is a great role model for her friends and you've done a wonderful job.
@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
8 Sep 07
Thanks so much hon. She's turned out to be a pretty good kid. I'm so proud of her. Hugs!
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
7 Sep 07
That is awesome! Girls especially get so dramatic in their teens. Out of 4 girls all but one were very open with me about their friendships and boyfriends etc. tis true that many of the other kids find that wrong. I did however find that many of their friends did want an older person to talk things over with. I'm very open and upfront with teens. They either love me or hate me depending on the kid. My 13 yr old has become very private and i have to say, i don't like it at all. I very much miss the closeness we used to have by sharing personal talks...hoping she will outgrow this.
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
8 Sep 07
You sound like an awesome mom hon. I hope it works out with your 13 year old and she comes around soon. My daughter went through a very short period like that right around the same age. But I just kept talking to her like she was more of an adult than a child, and she came to realize that mom is a pretty cool person. I hope the same happens for you. Thanks hon.
@ladybug565 (2217)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Wow, that is great. you taught her well to stand up for herself. I am very close with my girls too but I dont think they tell me every thing. That is really great.
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Thanks hon. I'm glad you're close with your babies. It's so much better that way.
@ElicBxn (60044)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Yes I do think you've done pretty well. When I was a sophmore in high school I actually ended up in a couple of classes that I should've been in if I hadn't gone to a privete first grade. First thing I noticed was that most of them were STILL older than I was! The next thing was how immature they were for only being a grade behind.
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Isn't it amazing how things like that happen? And some people, no matter what their ages, never seem to grow up and mature. Thanks hon.
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Well bully for her...I'm glad she's able to stand up for herself like that. Most kids wouldn't because of peer pressure or would rather say something that, that "group" would like to hear...So congratulations on having a daughter who isn't afraid to speak her mind!! :)
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Thank you both so much! My baby is definitely very very outspoken, that's for sure. Sometimes I think I've taught her too well! LOL