Do you think a long distance reationship works out for you?

United States
September 7, 2007 9:19am CST
i met my husband through yahoo messenger last september 2003. Its been a long time too before he decided to see me in person. He came to see me in Davao City Philippines last August 2006. After that we had to be separate again for 7months before my petition approved. and we been using yahoo messenger as our instant communication with microphone and webcam. but its still hard for us because sometimes we want to feel our love ones physically right?So do you think guys you can handle a situation like mine?a long distance relationship?
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• United States
10 Sep 07
i have been in your shoes before, sort of. i met my husband online, though he was a friend at the time back when i was in the ninth grade. we talked on and off, and then 2 years later he called me up and said he had joined the Navy. I really didn't approve of that, and he told me that he couldn't be friends with me anymore and i told him to shove it and that i would still be his friend even if he changed on me. few months later we called ourselves a couple, even before we had met each other. yes i know it sounds really silly because were together but weve never seen each other even in a picture. he finally came to my house a few weeks later and met my family. after that we just talked on the phone everyday, no computer no pictures at all. he came to see evey few months and we only spent 2 days together at a time. this went on for the next 3 years, sometimes we didnt even talk on the phone. and he was on deployment or whatever. one time we didnt talk for 2 months no emails no phone calls cuz he was on a mission. after those 3 years he came to hawaii and there i went to him and we got married there. the rest is history we now have two beautiful children together. even though he is going to be going to his base well still be able to see each other a couple of times a month. cant wait till he gets out of the navy in 2 years. i wish you and your husband good luck with everything. long distance relationships do work, you just have to put a lot of effort into them.
• United States
10 Sep 07
yeah its really tough to be so far away but since i believe the love we have so im here now with him :-)i never regret all the hardships and the missing moments we had we just filling up all the times now that we never had the chance to do it before like shopping together, watching movie together..it feels good to be in love goodluck to you...
• United States
11 Sep 07
aaww thank you good luck to you too i hope all goes well ^_^
@laurika (4536)
• United States
27 Sep 07
No I couldn't deal with a same situation like you.And I admire you.I also meet my boyfriend from other country , but at least I was able to fly there once a week or so.After that we just miss each other so much and I just move there forever.I cannot imagine to be not able see him for such a long time, I just need his hug and kiss.But I hope you could do it for your love and be with him one day.I hope you have at least good friends who support you and help you with this situation.
@meaculpa (339)
• Philippines
25 Sep 07
Indulging in long distance relationship requires the following: 1. commitment 2. dedication 3. trust 4. respect 5. constant communication 6. trust 7. love 8. others Currently, my hubby is working overseas (Algeria,North Africa) and we communicate thru emails, phone, yahoo messenger chat. Nine years ago, he was my boyfriend and was assigned in Indonesia. He sent me postcards, letters, cards and talked over the phone (Emails and yms were not yet accessible to us then). Further, we have set goals to achieve together with our 3 beautiful babies. The good Lord is providing us His blessings. Most of all, long distance relationship works out because of prayer and faith in the LORD. My hubby and I used to pray over the phone and God gives us strengh and courage for our daily chores. I am blessed and thankful to the LORD for HIS continuous blessings and Divine Providence. I wish you all the best and good luck to both of you!
• United States
13 Sep 07
I don't think the question is whether you think it will work or not, but will you want it to work? Long distance relationships are very complex, no matter what people say. You don't get the physical awareness towards each other and you don't feel any attachment. Communication is a big part in a relationship but it's not just about talking or listening, but it's also about understanding. Having a long distance relationship can have it's cons. But the question is not whether you want it or not, but are you comfortable with it? In some cases, it's often difficult at times for couples to leave one another. That's right a long distance relationship(at least for me) will never work for me. Why??? Well, for one, I want my girl to be with me, not away from me.
• Philippines
10 Sep 07
Long distance relationship makes me sick because I would be missing that someone that's so dear to me... boyfriend of course. I really don't think it would work me from the type of person I am and the kind of attitude I have. I am person who love to express how i felt and love to show thoughtfulness and concern, but can i do that if that person is not around. I have also seen a lot of couples breaking up because of the distance between them. I think make to make you relationship for long distance, it needs exta2x effort.
@musicman6 (2369)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Well for me, I'm sorry, I couldn't even keep a short distance relationship going! I have noticed lately, that a lot of relationships are started on the internet! I guess just a trend of the times!
• United States
7 Sep 07
I believe if the love is true, it will work. They say the bond grows stronger if you are not always around. At the same time I know it is hard. You can make it through this. If you don't let the cards play out, how will you know? I hope it all works out for you in the end, good luck!
@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
7 Sep 07
I also met my now husband on the internet , but it was in a game room , we lived 14 hours apart and we met two times before we decided to live together, it dose take a lot of commitment to keep a long distane relationship alive.