Are marriages more unstable today than they were 50 years ago?

By Nic
@academic2 (7011)
Uganda
September 8, 2007 6:51am CST
I saw a man and his wife celebrating 50 years of marriage recently and the old buddies appear to still be very much in love. They had many grand children and they looked so admirable! I am just wondering aloud, are marriages less stable today than they were 50 years ago?
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
8 Sep 07
I agree that marriages are not what they used to be. We are in a disposable marriage society. People don't take their vows seriously as they used to. I know how that goes. I have been married three times. I remarried my first husband for keeps this time. We agree that we should have worked out our problems the first time instead of him leaving. My parents have been married for 36 years this year and still going strong (as dysfunctional as they can). His parents have been married for almost 40 years.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
10 Sep 07
Thanks for the best response rating! I truly appreciate it. We are working very hard to make this work and we agree it is easier to give up than to stay and fight. We have decided what we have is worth fighting for. I think that most couples these days lose sight of that and end up walking away with many regrets.
@Savvynlady (3686)
• United States
9 Sep 07
I think marriages are less stable but that could be because folks give up too easy. Now, I know that women are going out and earning money today as opposed to 50 years ago, but as time progressed, opportunities opened up and folks are trying to earn the money and families are getting pushed to the wayside, so what used to be priority, isn't and that is evident today. My parents were married 45 years until my father passed away in May. My former inlaws were married 50 until my mother inlaw passed away three weeks ago. They both worked and raised a collection of eight children and grandchildren. I tend to feel my generation want the love and such, but when hard times get on, it's I'm outta here!!!
@limcyjain (3523)
• India
8 Sep 07
Yes marriages are surely more unstable than 50 years ago. With mordernisation two major changes have happened. firstly, women are now less and less dependant on their counterparts. Secondly, the tolerance power has reduced over the time and both individuals demand proper respect from each other and any one side failing on this front leads to break up.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
8 Sep 07
Absolutely...sure they are...Why? well IMO its becuase ppl are trying to live their marriage in the same fashion as couples did 50 yrs ago which isnt realistic...times have changed drastically since then as have ppl overall...trying to work a relationship or marriage in todays world the way they did 50 yrs ago is BOUND to fail IMO....ALSO I think that far too many ppl try to live their relationships/marriages in the way SOMEONE ELSE feels it should be done RATHER THAN living it how they as a couple feel it should be...IMO thats a HUGE mistake....
@academic2 (7011)
• Uganda
9 Sep 07
True Ravenladyj, each couple need to develope a marriage philosophy that suits them-trying to live other people's lives in your marriage is bound to bring conflicts and the best approach to live your own lives as a couple is to start right from courtship-never rush a marriage then, because to do so is to invite the "someone else syndrome" in your marriage and that marriage will not last because it is not your marriage but some else's!
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
8 Sep 07
Maybe, because in their generation, no high technology involve, what I mean is before family are very much intact because the attention of each family members are always in each other, so as with the couple, less temptation at all. Both the married couple are more focus to each other and to their family. Unlike today, the more high technology to come in the more the temptation will be. This maybe the reason why married couples before are much stronger than todays generation. Now both men and women are feelin more unsatisfied because of the environment they live.
@academic2 (7011)
• Uganda
9 Sep 07
I agree archer1811, the angle of technology cannot be ignored-do you realize that cell phones have made extra marrital affairs very simple to execute? An errant spouse can link up easily with an SMS anytime of the day or night!
• India
19 Sep 07
Hi Academic2 you have given already the best chance,and therefore there is no chance for me to get the BR.. The best live example is yours truly, My parents have celebrated their 53 years of married life..and they are happy.. God bless them. And as of me, i am divorced after 3 years of married life. A lot many things in the world has changed. But the prime factor revolves around two things.. 1) Money has Substituted every thing in life.. love, affection is at dearth. 2) Ego.. and every one self centered,and Selfish.
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
17 Sep 07
And I am so proud that mom and dad willcelebrate thier 5oth weding anniversary on January.Thier marriage is not all bills too but they survived,they had us 4 children and now 7 grandchildren. I also think,marriage before is less stressful,life then is simple so is marriage,now that thw world ahs been complicated so does is marriage life.You cannot expect a woman to do what just wexactly what the husband told her to do without any fights and arguments popping up.