Would you let your kids be alone in the bedroom with their boy or girlfriend?

@peanutjar (5251)
Canada
September 8, 2007 10:28am CST
Would you tell them to leave the door open?Trust them,because they know right from wrong and can be trusted.But you never know!How do you feel about this?
8 responses
• Canada
9 Sep 07
I was NEVER allowed to have a boy in my room period when I was a kid peanutjar. I think it would all depend on how well I know this boy, I think I'd still be kind of leary though. If I did decide to let her (and that is a huge IF) the door would have to be open! No way she would be in a room with a boy and have the door closed, not going to happen!
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
10 Sep 07
I too would be hesitant about the whole boyfriend thing and being in a bedroom.I know boys and experienced some things.Lukily i was brought up old fashioned,had my head on straight and knew how to act civilized.I liked the door being open ALOT!!when i was at there house.I felt uncomfortable in their room just playing games on tv.No boy was ever allowed in my room even when i turned 20.lol
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• Canada
11 Sep 07
I will probably keep the rules the same as they were for me that she is to have NO boys in her room! A lot less stress that way lol. I know I will trust her, it's the boy I won't trust!
• United States
9 Sep 07
It depends on the kid really. I know how kids are, and if they want to do something, no amount of your preventive measures is going to stop it. I'd have to come to trust my kids at first, kind of see what kind of kid they are and what kind of attitude they have about things before I really decided it was ok, but that would only be allowed through a lot of careful planning.
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
10 Sep 07
Yes it all depends on attitude.Your right about when kids have their mind set on doing something,well its kind of hard to change their mind.
• United States
8 Sep 07
Hecky naw! Kids are too promiscuous to let them do things like this! I was never allowed to have a boy in my room, and my kids will be brought up the same way. Your boyfriend/girlfriend comes over I want the both of y'all in my eagle eye site at all times. You wanna be alone? Go get a loan, a home loan!
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
8 Sep 07
Thats right!They can be sneaky sometimes.No boys going in my girls room,unless he wants to see me there with the ugly stick!lol:)
@dreamy1 (3818)
• United States
8 Sep 07
It depends on how old they are. If they are young teenagers like asy 15 first of all if it were my kid they would not be having bf/gf at that age. If they are 18 and still living in my house either going to college or working and paying me rent then that's a slightly different story.
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
8 Sep 07
Thats a good point!
@maximax8 (27048)
8 Sep 07
I would let my son alone in his room with his girlfriend. I trust that he would be sensible. I think with less reliable teenagers I would leave the door open. Good communication is the key to helping young people understand appropriate behavior. They should be able to their parents.
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
8 Sep 07
Communication is the key to trust.I agree!:)
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
8 Sep 07
I wouldn't trust them at all. Sad but true. I bet my stance might change when I have kids or depending on what is going on. Still, it would be foolish not to check in on them every now and again. My kids will know to earn my trust and not abuse it. So its possible I might let the kids have someone of the opposite gender in their room, but I'll put in stipulations like open door policy. The kids can have a chance to earn the right to general privacy (closed door) but they really have to prove it and I'll have to get to know who they are bringing to the house.
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
8 Sep 07
Open door policy works.Plus earning trust.:)
@k1tten (2321)
• United States
8 Sep 07
I would probably trust my kid but I'd like to have them both in sight for quite a while before I'd trust them enough to even stay in their bedroom by themselves with said boy/girl friend.
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
8 Sep 07
Being in sight is the best thing.Then you would know if they could be trusted.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
14 Sep 07
I did this once...never again!! I have learned you don't trust pre-teens and teens any further than you can pick them up and throw them. Which for me is very little. AT PEACE WITHIN ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~