Do You Shower With Your Partner?

A Warm, Wet Embrace - A couple showering together.
@Malyck (3428)
Australia
September 8, 2007 8:02pm CST
This question came to me last night when my boyfriend and I had some friends over, and I mentioned something about having showered together. They seemed surprised, like it was something they had never given any thought before. So it got me wondering: Do you shower with your partner? Every time you shower, or just on special occasions? Why or Why Not? My boyfriend and I have almost all of our showers together, especially in the late evening, we will just unwind under the hot, falling water together. Before we were together, I never would have considered it, but now, it feels odd showering alone, and I only do so when I am having a quick shower. Share your thoughts here =D Malyck
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32 responses
• United States
9 Sep 07
We actually do shower together sometimes. Sometimes its just to be close to each other and other times because we are in a hurry to get somewhere and its quicker to shower together than taking longer to get showers alone.
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• United States
9 Sep 07
It's not only sensual, it's time saving! Showers AND baths are shared here on a daily basis between my man and I. I wouldn't have it ANY other way! I honestly don't understand how one can be intimate with another in bed (or wherever you decide ha ha) but yet refuse to allow that same person to see the whole naked you. You would be surprised, most men don't see the flaws that you see on yourself:)
• United States
9 Sep 07
Not anymore. We used to all the time but our shower isnt that big. And with my growing belly it creates a problem trying to move around. I cant wash my hair and that drives me nuts, lol. I dont see what the big deal is though about showering together...
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
Small showers are bad enough for one person let alone two (and one growing inside) =P. We were staying at my mum's house for the weekend, and her shower is too small, with a shower shelf that makes moving hard too =P ARGH, I'd hate not to be able to wash my hair =[ I don't see it as a big deal, but if he's available I do prefer it. It's nice to have his body warmth once the water stops, too, I get cold easily. lol =]
9 Sep 07
I'm afraid I can't as we do not have a shower but I would if we had one. Denise
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
=O You don't have a shower? I don't think I could deal with that =P Have you ever tried to squeeze two people comfortably into a bath? I have. It didn't work too well. lol. Thanks for your comment Denise =D
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
We used to but got out of the habit, partly becuse he showers when he gets in in the middle of the night and I shower between him waking up and leaving for work. Its very sensual but can be impractical as I love hot water - scalding hot - and he doesn't - plus the hot water can run out before we're both finished. plus he's 6'4, broadshouldered with a bit of a buddha belly and I'm not tiny elf myself (I have football player shoulders - always have! Don't need shoulder pads here!) so only one of gets to be under the spray fully at once time. It be different if there were sprays coming from all sides. My ex was a trainer - and though a body builder - extremely strong - still long and leanly muscles - due to his Tae Kwon Do practice so that was a little bit of a different experience.
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
I'm really funny with the amount of hot water I like. By myself, I love it to be scalding, and steamy, but when Alex is joining, it gets too stuffy with too much heat, especially when we might be getting a little heated ourselves ;] =D You guys just need a bigger shower with multiple heads is all (yay for big shoulders lol). I saw the most amazing shower once, with 3 heads. It was circular and looked SOOOO nice. It would just be the ultimate, but I know that no-one else would ever get any water, and I would be late to anything that I needed to have a shower before. =P I always use showers as my thinking time. I can stand there for an hour, without having actually cleaned myself, just thinking and being =D It can be hard for Alex and I as well, making sure that we're both getting sprayed, even though neither of us are big. We're both fairly short. He's also muscular and lean... I'm more... shall we say... 'womanly' =D
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• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
Curvaceous. I love going to the Kohler site and salivating over the showers and baths. In this one house tour online there was an environmental shower or room. It sounded cool but I can't find it anymore - I just tried again! Daniel wants to get a walk in shower - the kind you walk around a bend to get to the shower. I too can just stand there - being scalded - and think or daydream - or not think....Its the part of the day I look forward to the most because its a time when I get to be absolutely alone - no baby nearby, crying or wanting my attention. I can be Amy and not just mommy. We have three bedrooms yet we use just one as all of the monitors we get stop working, and its not batteries or channel. I think its me - I don't know if you saw that one thread I did where I mentioned how the tv in the living room - I can see it from the family will turn off, or come off mute and then off again. Or with the remote nowhere near me it will turn off or on suddenly when its hasn't been on or change channel and other electronic disturbances near me. I must be throwing out energy like a teenage poltergeist or something. LOL. Anyway, where was I going - Oh! - the baby is always close by and as much - I kept typing snd snd and going back and typing it again - I love him its nice to get a break. Everyday I look forward to this time, like a rendevous with a lover, its not just the shower but how I feel after, all pulsating from the heat. Slowly combing out my hair, prolonging the alone time. I turn on the air filter for som white noise and the overhead fan. Reveling, knowing that nine times out of ten, I open that door, it will be to pissed off screams, and sometimes to real crying and tears. And then its mommy again until the next day around the same time!
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
9 Sep 07
Well I do take shower with my partner at times, it's more convinient as it saves energy while taking a bath together!:) What's unsual to hear would be, taking a bath with someone's partner!LoL People should atleast be open-minded in these kind of topics, because there are more shocking things to be more aware about than these issue. I respect your preferrence on this, enjoy what you think makes you happy!;)
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
HAHA, yes I agree with you Raijin, it would be another story completely had I been showering with somebody else's partner =P There's definitely more shocking, controversial and negative things that a person could be doing than sharing hygiene and togetherness with their partner =D Thank you for your wonderful response, and have a wonderful day!
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@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
9 Sep 07
showering is a good relaxation to the body. It gives both hygeinic and relaxing benefits to the body. I truly like the idea of showering together with your partner. I have showered with my wife. and sometimes showering together is a precursor to doing and making love with my wife. I truly like to do this more often. However, my wife doesnt allow it. She is much more conservative. but we do this like once in six months. I like to shower with my wife and to soaped her. Touching her body next to my wet body. however, if your partner is still your boyfriend and you have just been for a short time. I dont know whether to recommend you to shower but that is for you. some of your friends have never thought of it before since we have the preconceived notion to shower alone. that showering is private. but with a lifetime partner, I suggest to do it occasionally to add spice to your love life.
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
It's a shame that your wife isn't as comfortable with it as you are, but that she allows it a few times a year is wonderful - lucky you =D It is very sensual, and I enjoy it very much. I understand the whole 'boyfriend' thing, and that in many cultures and generations it is not appropriate for us to even touch let alone do anything else that we do, of course we don't feel this way, and have been together for a few years now and are very comfortable and happy with how we live =] Thank you for your concern, though. I believe that my partner will be my life-long partner, although I know others may argue differently. I also do not plan on marrying, but I do plan on enjoying many more showers in our time together =D Thanks greatly for your input, and have a wonderful day! Malyck
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
your welcome. I hope I have shed light to you upon this matter. how long have you been together?
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
13 Sep 07
We're nearing 2 years together.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
9 Sep 07
Don't have a partner to shower with. *Waits for laughter to end* Yea yea... yuck it up! ;p
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
You can cook chocolate cakes and assorted sweets and you're without partner? *shock* No laughter here, genuine surprise =] Well make sure to shower together when you do *thumbs up*
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
10 Sep 07
You should see some of my other threads in the cooking interest section. I know I posted quite a few things there. Yea and also some on cleaning/laundry tips. Wait a sec... *blush* The thought of showering with a partner does make the heart skip and it turns the face completely red. )**(
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
10 Sep 07
*Is blinded by the rouge cheeks* Argh I hate laundry, I steer clear of that area of 'domestication' lol. Nothing wrong with skipping the odd heart beat or two. It'll probably stay like that, too, I know my man and I still get excited about the prospect of a shower together =]
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
12 Sep 07
Malyck, you appear to me very very lucky, because you get the opportunity to shower together with your boy friend. I also enjoy shower with my partner, but Alas! due to so many constraints, we get very less opportunities to do so. It is really an awesome experience to take bath under the shower.
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
12 Sep 07
You're very right, Deepak, I am very lucky and I consider myself so every day =] I know a lot of people are less fortunate in a lot of areas, including relationships and time with their partners. I'm sure the two of you make the most of every opportunity you have, though, and that's what really matters =D
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
26 Sep 07
Thanks for interesting & encouraging comments. Your guess is correct - we do avail each & every opportunity which comes our way to enjoy ourselves any day any time. =D :):)
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
yes we always do before... but now our shower isnt that big... i hate it when i cant move properly coz my husband occupy most of the space... and my hands bang on the wall ough! it husrts and it gives me bruises... but if we are in a hurry... i do take a quick shower with my hubby
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
Ouch! I used to always bump my hip into the soap-holder, when I was getting used to showering with another occupant. It's certainly not pleasant, but I do love the showers that don't result in accidents together =P
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
it really not pleasant... it makes me cranky... but its better if the shower room was big... you can do whatever you want with your hubby and stay longer...
• Hong Kong
24 Sep 07
Yes I would! I love having showers/ baths together and I don't see anything weird about it *laughs*. Maybe your friends are a bit conservative? Anyway, I would have showers or baths together with my partner, I think we would do that most nights too. It's really sweet!
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
24 Sep 07
I definitely wouldn't call my friends conservative, which is why I found it so odd =P Normally their open to these things but at first mention of the joint-showers, they seemed taken aback. I'm glad that you and your partner do this together. It is a lot of fun =D
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
I think it is normal if you have a spouse or boyfriend. There's nothing wrong about it unless is not unusual to you or to the people you've sharing with.NO big deal on that. I think maybe it feels you good. Taking shower with your partner is something sweet thing too.heheh. Maybe? if i will have a partner or someday i will get married. I will experience it too.:-)
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
12 Sep 07
I agree, to each their own, and if you enjoy it, then all the power to you =D I hope that you do find a partner who you will enjoy showering with and spending time with =] (And someone who will make you smile more than ever =P) Mal.
@meholl (510)
• United States
12 Sep 07
Good Question!!!HAHAHA.. My hubby and I try to take showers together as often as possible, but between 4 kids and his work schedule it doesn't happen as much as we would like. When hubby takes a shower in and out in 5 minutes. When we shower together it is 30-40 minutes. I love those 40 gallon water heaters, and the water never goes cold on us. When we shower together, we wash each others bodies, and we always seem to have good music playing, so we actually dance in the shower. I think it just the feeling of hands playing against your skin when your skin is wet that makes things happen. And we know that it is the only time that we have together that will be completely uninterupted. The 2 youngest kids still think they need to hop into bed with us...And we just can't lock the bedroom door at night... I also thing the fact that we don't get to shower together very often, makes it better when we do get the chance. But here is my question to you... When you partner isn't at home for the night, do you sleep on your partners side of the bed or do you keep to your own side?
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
12 Sep 07
=D Good question, and I'll answer it first, lest I get to the end and forget =P Yes, I tend to sleep in his body-groove in the bed, and using his pillow while cuddling my own. That side smells more like him, and before we got together, I always slept on the right, but I had to compromise and take the left when I moved in, so it feels better there anyway =D Oh how much I wish I had one of those water heaters you've described. We're always last to get in the shower at our place, so we normally have the least hot water out of everyone *sob* lol. I agree that it's more special when there's some time between, and especially for the two of you, when it's your only 'adult time' =] We dance in the shower too! But we normally make music ourselves, because we don't have a powerpoint or close-by music maker here. At my family's house there's a cd player in the bathroom, though, so that's always nice =D Thanks for your great response & question Meholl! =D Mal.
@sunshinecup (7881)
9 Sep 07
Yes we have taken showers together, often but not everytime. We can only do that when the kids are not around out sleep. Just feels weird when the kids are aware of it, don't ask me why, just does. LOL.
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
Haha, I don't have to ask why, I completely understand that - it's always odd when we have friends come around to stay and we want to have a shower. It's not like they don't know that we are, they know, but it seems odd to have them out in the house while we shower together =P And I know it's completely different when it's actually your children =] Plus, it gets to be a special treat when they aren't around ;) Thanks for your response! =D Have a great day.
@nyumix (1661)
• Belgium
9 Sep 07
If I would have chance, I would like to do that. Pitty, that I don't have any chance since we have already two kids running around in the house every day. :)
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
Aww, it's a shame that you guys don't have that time out to do this. I recommend that if you're both awake and somewhat energetic (or even not), when the kids are asleep, that you have a nice relaxing hot shower together before bed. Even if you can't make a habit out of it, it should be a great time to unwind =D Malyck.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
9 Sep 07
I used to shower with my kids dad on occasion but thta was LONG before I had started my healing from the abuse that went on when I was a child....Now I CAN'T and havent been able to for many yrs because its a trigger for me..
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
It's wonderful that you're healing, although it is a shame that showering (with another) is a trigger. It's great that you are in/getting in control, though, so many kudos to you =] Thank you for responding, even to a touchy subject for you. Mal.
@sacmom (14315)
• United States
9 Sep 07
I have taken a shower with my husband before, though it has been some years since we've done so. It is due to the fact that our shower is basically big enough for only one person at a time. It's a rather small shower stall and even though we could probably fit in there together if we wanted to we'd be bumping into each other left and right! So instead we take separate showers. Though if we ever have a nice sized shower in the future I'd be more than willing to take a shower with him again as it is a lot of fun. :D
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
=] It sounds to me like you should get yourselves a bigger shower =D It sure it a lot of fun, and like I said, even in small showers, it feels odd being in their alone =P Then again, we find it fun to push each other into the cold walls... And it can lead to some more fun elsewhere =P
• Australia
9 Sep 07
We have showered together, but haven't for a while, because our shower is so small. And i am so hugely pregnant we don't both fit! hehe. We also have baths together on occasions too, but again not for a while! My friend has just built a house and they have a double shower, so both partners get a shower head to themselves and they can shower together, i love this idea and will probably incorporate it when we eventually build our own house. I think showers together are really nice and romantic and helps keep the special spark alive. I can not wait until we can do it again comfortably! I don't actually think i know of anyone who doesnt shower together? We always seem to muck around like children though, play fight over who gets the water! Or he'll get the shower curtain and stick it on me, all freezing cold! Or he'll push me against the freezing cold shower tiles! Fun times :)
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
haha, the childish side of things is how we are in the shower as well. he pushes the door open so I get the cold air or something before pulling me under the hot water, and we spend the whole time laughing (or giggling rather) and being silly =D Good fun. I would love a shower like you described as well! Two shower heads, lots of room - pleasureville of all showers =P
• United States
9 Sep 07
Yep, we shower together. Shoot, half the time, I'm the one washing his hair.. ha ha!
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
LOL. That's the same with me, I don't need to stretch my arms back to wash my own hair anymore, he does it for me, and I'm more than happy to do the same for him. If that's not team work, then i don't know what is =P
@ssf12ster (489)
• India
9 Sep 07
yes its good for a change you get to know each other but not all the time as and i feel i do this.but great lesson to know each other.!you need to try when you are on a vacation. it will be awesome.!
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
It is a good thing to get to know one another better, I agree. I've 'learnt' a lot about my man just from our showers. And it's fun to kiss under the warm water, and have it run over our mouths =D We laugh a lot in the shower.