If You Had 50 Minutes With A Counselor

@wolfie34 (26881)
United Kingdom
September 10, 2007 9:11am CST
Ok, if you were able to sit in a comfortable, quiet room with a counselor who will listen to you for fifty minutes what would you talk to them about? Would you find it difficult talking to a complete STRANGER? Or would you find it easy to talk to someone NEUTRAL? Would you talk about your PAST, PRESENT or FUTURE? Would you ask them questions of what you did wrong, or talk to them about regrets, decisions in your life Would you be POSITIVE or NEGATIVE and would you want confirmation from them that you are doing everything right? How would you spend 50 precious minutes talking to someone with NO interruptions. What would you want to achieve from it and would you want more than one session or would one session be enough or would you probably NOT want 50 minutes in the first place?
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
12 Sep 07
i do think that it all depends on my target. I know that i would rather go to a professional which is a stranger and tell him those things. It would really be easier for me, because i would not feel that he is judging me or that it would effect the future as telling things to my friends. but it really depends on what things i want to get out.
• United States
11 Sep 07
I already have two couselors.A phychytrist and phycologist.i think i'm all talk out.I know it helps but there only so much to say.
@worldwise1 (14890)
• United States
10 Sep 07
First of all, wolfie, I don't put a lot of store in counselors, but, having said this, I will admit that they can be useful for a time. I would agree to a 50 minute session with one because I feel that it never hurts to talk to someone about what ails you. I think it's always easier to talk to a stranger because they don't have a vested interest in you. You know that you can walk away and probably never have to see them again. I would talk about the past because I have known for a long time that most of our problems are rooted in our past. The result that I would want to achieve from it would be to maybe stumble upon a tiny fact that might have been buried in my subconscious-something that could lead to a better understanding of why I am who I am.
@rhane7315 (5674)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
i would to talk to them about my eldest brother and my mother lol
@musicfen (31)
• Romania
18 Apr 08
If I were be sitting in a comfortable chair ,in a quiet room with a counselor it would be because I wanted to be here so I'd talk about the specific problem that brought me to her/him. Personally, for me is not difficult to talk in front of a stranger because I am an extrovert person , very sociable and friendly and therefore capable of keeping talking -if not interrupted - for more than 50 minutes !!! While talking I would however observe the counselor carefully to see what he /she thinks about my problem ( or if she's compassionate, accusing or indifferent ). Esepcially my impression about how she/he receive my confession will decide if I go for it in the future or stop there at first session.
• United States
12 Sep 07
I have been to a couple of shrinks and each one has their own method of opperation. Most of the time you just babble on about what is on your mind and they will ask leading questions to bare your inhibitions..but it is your 50 minutes..when I had Psychology in college we had to read a book calle "THE FIFTY MINUTE HOUR" and it was about case histories about abnormal peoples. I just don't really think about a script..it is also like AA meetings..you just talk about YOUR problem..i went to a lot of group therepy sessions...then you have to listen to a lot of other people's problems and I thought my problems were nothing compared to most of the people...in plain words..just free associate your 50 minutes..as I got more information and wisdom from the first doctors receptionist (his wife) then I did from the good doctor...sometimes it works out that way..lol
@MsTickle (24948)
• Australia
11 Sep 07
If I had to spend 50 minutes with a counselor I would have no idea what to talk about. If I was asked questions ...like ...What was your relationship with your Mum like? Or, "how did you get along with your siblings?" I could chatter away for some time. But if I just had to "talk" I'd have no idea. What's the object of the exercise? Is there a specific problem to be addressed? I give up....what's the answer? LOL (Just kidding.)
• United States
11 Sep 07
I would talk about film or sports but I wouldn't talk about myself.I am a very private person and I wouldn't tell anyone my secret thoughts or about my past.so I wouldn't get anything from it.Anyway I couldn't talk 50 minutes straight about myself even if I wanted to.
@mummymo (23709)
10 Sep 07
Good grief I have no idea which of my many issues I would sort out - this could take a while! I think one of two things would happen - I would either be in counseling for the rest of my life or my counselor would need intensive counseling! lol Hope things are going well with you my darling brother - thinking of you all the time! xxx
@moneyandgc (3438)
• United States
10 Sep 07
I have been to a few counselors in my life. One of them was pretty good. The rest of them made me feel worse than I went in. If I felt comfortable with this counselor I would talk about my fears, my children and my husband. It is nice to get an unbiased opinion once in awhile. Its not like talking to your friends who will automatically side with you. I know I could definitely use up 50 minutes. I wouldn't be looking for confirmation on what I am doing right, or think I am doing right. I would want insight on things that I would want to change.
• United States
10 Sep 07
Growing up as a teenager my Mother believed in therapy and sent me often and I continued to see therapist all through my 30's but now that I am in my latter 40's I would not want to see someone I would prefer to spill my guts to a friend, someone I know, who understands me.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
10 Sep 07
I would just sit and talk about whatever is on your mind like if ya are friends.
@bonbon664 (3480)
• Canada
10 Sep 07
There are a lot of things I should probably be talking to a counselor about. I have been realizing that I have to do something for myself instead of taking care of everyone else. I would like to tell someone that I'm just exhausted, and would love to find out how to change the course that I'm on.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
10 Sep 07
LOL I've done that on numerous occasions (have been in therapy more than once in my life) and with my latest doc we talked about a lot of stuff..mainly my past though becuase thats what needs to be dealt with the most...Is it easy for me to talk to a Neutral party? not at first but with Dr.D after one or two visits it was pretty easy....she's actually a great doc and HOPEFULLY I'll be able to get back in to see her in the fall..
• India
10 Sep 07
For the first few minutes i will feel a bit uneasy but as the counselling process goes on i will start feeling comfortable. While talking i will prefer talking about future till the counsellor insist on telling them about past or present. It would certainly help me if they confirm that what ever i am doing is right. I would seek help in matters of relationships and career and would feel that 50 minutes are a bit less to talk about your life to a stranger as some minutes will be wasted in settling down. I would prefer if the session goes on for about half an hour.
@raydene (9875)
• United States
10 Sep 07
I'd ask how their day was going, if they had children..What kind of pets they had ..until I found something we could discuss. Then we could chat for 50 minutes and maybe become friends. Hugs R