IT hurts when your ex partner already move on and happy without you.

@ciades (1624)
Philippines
September 12, 2007 4:08am CST
Sound so sad but it's true. We hurt sometimes when we know that our ex bf/gf already move on and happy with someone else. Huhuhu. Especialy you still stuck yourself on him/her. I just broke up with my boyfriend. It's already more than a month right now. BUt still its hard for me to get into with another relationhsip. But then it does'nt mean that i did not move my life. Ofcourse i am. I make myself busy of my work. Posting in mylot. Making new friends and spending time with my family.
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@madzie09 (279)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
well, boys are...boys..they somehow do have the ability to move on fast or pretend to move on by using another girl but things happen for a reason and it's normal that you're still on the process of moving on. you'll realize one morning that you are so over him and the relationship you once had. it's not that easy but do think positively. there are still a lot of good guys out there who truly deserves you. you are something that is needed to be appreciated by someone. as what they say before we meet our prince we might have to kiss a lot of frogs. :)
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
Yeh, you are right. That's what i'm doing right now.. BUt sometimes you can't denied to yourself. But then moving on is not to find another relationship inorder to forget that certain person who hurts you.. I am moving on my own way. Thanks and happy posting..:-)
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
I agree with madzie. But think of things in the positive light. Would have have been happier if he hadn't left you and he'll do so when you are already committed to each other or with both have a family of your own? Plus, jerks will always be jerks. You should be glad you were able to kick him out of your life! =)
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
I don't know and i am not sure. But yeh, your right. jerk is always a jerk:)
@ash6666 (819)
• India
19 Sep 07
Actually the feelings in this case will be same even if its a guy or a girl.This type of things remains as we used to think them as part of our life.Even they broke out w are still expecting their love and when we find that some body are getting their love it hurts a bit for somedays.But slowly we willl forget it and we have to as we are people with heart and there will be some one looking for our heart.
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
Yeh!you absolutely right ash!
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
13 Sep 07
Doesn't hurt me at all. They were all harpies, medusa or liliths anyways. Once I found their true colors or they were revealed to me, I simply stopped caring. Not only that, the only person I feel sorry for in this is the poor sap they shacked up with. Also I've seen half of these vultures end up incredibly miserable or really up the creek because of how stupid and/or backstabbing they are. A couple of them could be on Springer with the way things turned out there. So, no it doesn't hurt when my exes (or should I say serpent beastoids) move on and parasite on to some poor sap guy(i.e. pretty boy/thug or loser). In fact, it makes me laugh since another trainwreck is bound to occur. I'm actually happy I found out these rats, because I know what I avoided. Plus I have plenty to keep me busy and I'm also developing myself further. I enjoy it.
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
Hey progs..watch out your words. Sorry but i guess you hurt so much i think? curious only. Anyway seems like your the o ne who always this hurt thing in your past relationship. They said its really just a luck! Goodluck for the next relationship if ever you will find someone you think deserving for your love. happy posting:)
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
12 Sep 07
I know what you mean. Even when I had moved on in my mind, it was still a bit odd for me and maybe hurtful when my ex moved on.
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
yeh, your right. thanks for responding and happy posting.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
12 Sep 07
Hey, ciades. It takes time for you to get recovered from your saddness from this event. It is a good idea to use some ways to keep yourself busy so as to remove him out of your memory. Cheer up, friend. Life is still on the move.
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
Thank you my dear friend. thanks for your advice.:-)
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
sorry to hear that but i know what you feel. Its a normal feeling i guess, it hurts because you love the person and you've been into that relationship before so its natural you will feel hurt when you see him with other and im sure if your ex see you too with someone new, he will surely feel the same but eventually in right time those hurt feeling will disappear when yourself learn to move on. Just accept the fact and let yourself move on so the pain will fade away. Its you who can help yourself. Goodluck and have nice day!
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
I am not stuck myselt to it. We can't pretend sometimes. It hurts and we have nothing to do about it but to accept the truth.:-)
@jackchin (27)
• China
12 Sep 07
HoHo!Till now I've not met with this condition as what you said!I think that only working hard and making new friends can divert your attention!
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
yeh, my mylot friends help me too to move on.:-)
@jackxav (660)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
Yeah its really very hurting but we must always remember that its just a part of our life.we love and lose it.But still its not the end of the world,at the right time u can find the right guy/girl for you.I still can remember about my ex hubby.Its very hard for me from the start but by and by i forget him nah.I just keep on praying to god that he will gve me enough strenght to handle all my burdens and sufferings in life.Just for the seek of my two daughters.''Its better to have love and lost than never to hve love at all'' god bless you ...
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
Only time can tell dear..God bless you too.:-)
@riyasam (16571)
• India
12 Sep 07
oh dear.theres a silver lining in every cloud.do not lose heart.time is a great healer.in time you will get over him.
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
:) Thank you dear.
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
hey! don't be too hard on your self, it's only one month,it is pretty much ok to still feel the pain and heal gradually,slowly and completely. I know it is hard to forget but as they say, time heal all wounds,just keep on what you are doing,enjoy friends,meet new people and cry sometimes..Eventually,you'll reliazed one day that he's already out of your sytem. :) happy posting!
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
yeh, i will my friend. Thanks for the advice and good day!:)
@diillu (5128)
12 Sep 07
Yes, it really hurts alot watching your ex moving forward and even more when you have just recently broke up and he has already found someone new. Believe me, I have gone through this situation. The best thing we can do at this time is just like you are doing. Keeping yourself busy. Moving on of course doesn't only mean to make another new. It means to move forward.
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
Your absolutely right diillu. Thanks for responding. Continue and enjoy posting..:)
@khazeemee (288)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
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i think it's okay and fine, i mean you might be still attached with him but look for a brighther side that the one you loved before is now a happy person and when you love, you want him to be happy, . let's not be selfish with them, just be happy for him.. it might be hard but we have to accept that things between you and him are now over..
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• India
13 Sep 07
Yes it does hurt when somebody you love, moves on without you and settles down eventually with someone else. and then when you come to know of it, you start thinking what did you do wrong, what was it that you did not have or could not give which the ‘other woman’ could? Its killing thoughts, but none of us are immune to it. And then again you start imagining your love with the other person and you start comparing in your mind as to what he did when the both of your were together. Such thoughts not only destroy the peace of our mind but also destroy potential relations which we maybe starting again with some other person. Even then, few of us can forget our former love.
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• India
13 Sep 07
yes.it is the most hurting situation to all of a sudden leave a person whom u have considered everythin in ur life...it feels like a part of u is lost...
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• United States
13 Sep 07
You must have really loved him. I think the more you care for them the harder it is to move on. And sometimes it doesnt matter if you broke it off or they. all the same it hurts and sucks if you really loved them. I would be devastated if my boyfriend moved on before me. I see myself spending the rest of my life with him and to see him move on...or touch, talk, be the way he is with someone else? it makes me shudder. i did lose him once. and he was talking to some girls. and it hurt so bad. so stay strong. i really do know what you are going thru. more than i could explain here. =( me and him mite be perfect now, but a yr and a half ago? fuhgetabboutit.
@Valce1 (173)
• Canada
13 Sep 07
it does hurt. But you'll be fine :)
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
13 Sep 07
Yes it does hurt very much when we break up and our ex's move on without us, and sometimes far to quickly. A month after a break up is too soon to be moving into another relationship. I think you are doing the right thing, by moving on in your regular life and taking time for everything else. You always have good friends here
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@pendragon (3352)
• United States
12 Sep 07
No, that would have been fabulous, I had two overlapping stalker types,my partner now, and i would have to divvy up the insane phone messages and emails into two stacks.Nuts!
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@clocks123 (1228)
• United States
12 Dec 12
yes, you should be happy he is without you. he is your ex. let him find someone else and be glad you found out now he isn't the one for you. you are doing what's right. you don't have to head into another relationshop so soon. it will happen and take your time. keeping busy is great and you are doing the right thing.
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
hi, for me of course i will feel hurt and alone when i heard that my ex partner already moved on and happy,it because for that guy he can easily forget those times when he still with me,i mean he easily trashed our relationship and those good things we had in our life.