Did your ex- move on before you did and you were still in love with him/her?

United States
September 13, 2007 6:26pm CST
When my ex-husband got with his other half, I was mortified. It hurt me more that he moved on and I hadn't. Not to mention that I still wanted him back even though I had gone through alot with him. After the hurting mode, I went into the revenge mode. Since day one with him, he'd told me that if we ever split up, he didn't want me with anyone from his hometown. So, I got with the first guy from his hometown that I could find plus had a daughter with the guy. My ex- was irritated as heck of course and I was loving it since I'd disobeyed my ex- plus had a girl which he never could or did do but always wanted. However, I spent 3 years of my life in a physically & emotionally abusive relationship before I woke up & bailed from that scene. Did your ex- move on before you? Did you still have feelings of any kind for your ex- at that time? What did you feel & do?
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@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
yes, my ex bf moved on first before me..it's so sad that after what he did to me, that he leaves me knowing that i'm pregnant and he is the father of our baby...i hate him that time and it was almost 3yrs now since it was happened..i've known from he's family that he has another girlfriend and they already engage that time..it's a disaster feeling for me that time, that i want to die and i'm crying every night because i so much love him..but now i already moved on and i already forgive him though we don't have any communication..that's life, we need to be strong for the different trials..
• United States
14 Sep 07
I feel for you. I was a few months pregnant w/ our second child when my ex-husband left me but not for another woman. I am proud of you for moving on & forgiving him!! Takes a strong person to do that! I am now happily married to a man that is also my best friend.
• United States
14 Sep 07
yes she moved, though i still love her alot.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
14 Sep 07
I was with a guy on and off for about 6 years before I called it quits because he constantly would go between me and this other girl who he ended up staying with after I split up with him even though she cheats on him constantly and basically does the things to him that he did to me. For the longest I was jealous because I felt I had lost, but it took me almost a year to realize that I am better without him and I can do better and deserve to be treated better. I now am in a relationship with a good man who will do anything for me and I don't have to worry about him cheating on me. I did the revenge thing too where I slept with random guys to make him jealous, but in the long run it only ended up hurting me like you spending 3 years in an abusive relationship. I look at it as things happen for a reason, we learn from them. If you are really meant to be together you will find your way back to eachother, but if not take that time to heal and learn how to love yourself and to be you again. I know when I got out of my six year relationship, I felt a sense of empowerment and joy that I had never felt before. I learned to do things by myself that I normally would'nt dare do alone. I went to the movies by myself, out to eat, and other things. It was a real liberating experience and it helped me to reconnect with myself so I could have it together for when I did meet the next guy which was a few months later. I really wish I had took a little more time to be single because that's what you really need after a long relationship to re-access the things you want in a person and the things you learned about yourself that you may need to change. I was hurt for a while after the breakup and I still think about him at times, but I know that the break up needed to happen because the relationship was breaking my spirit and self-esteem. I hope I helped.
@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
Why did you allow him to be away from you well in fact you still love and want him?...You should fight for your love then...but since it was already there all you have to do is to prove to him that you can still have a guy which you think is more deserving than him...just pray!