Do you know someone who always cancels plans?

United States
September 14, 2007 8:41am CST
I have known this person for about a year and half or so now. Any time I have invited her to something, she has said she would come, and said she was excited, but, at the last minute, she cancels almost every single time. She was going to be in my town today and she wanted to stop by my house and have lunch while she was in town. I agreed and I was looking forward to it. This morning there is an email from her husband saying she wont be able to make it. Was i suprised? NO. I expected it, thats why I got on the computer early to check it. It seems that lately when I invite people to things, they flake out on me. Im really getting tired of it. I mean yeah i understand if you are sick, or if something important came up, but every single time? And especially when its your idea, not mine? So do you know someone who always cancels plans with you at the last minute? Do you continue to make plans with them in the future, or did you learn that this person might not really care enough to keep your plans??
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
15 Sep 07
One of my guy friends in particular would cancel due to family issues. But other than that, half of my exes would cancel dates a lot of the time. It did get tiring and I didn't put up with it for long. Once anyone starts flaking on me with some crappy reasons, they are gone.
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
15 Sep 07
Oh yes, I friend who does that too! Finally I just stopped inviting her. I have since then re-evaluted my friendships. So it was like this, I would do the same thing ask her to do something she would flake. Then finally like two months ago my phone number got changed. I decided to see how long it was until she showed up wondering what was going on. Yeah she just showed up YESTERDAY!!! I'm friends with her sister too, very good friends. And I guess she kept asking her sister about what was going on with me, but never felt it nessesary in two months to drop by. ESPECIALLY when she works five minutes down the road. So because I a such good friends with her sister when she showed up I kept things kosher. But I told her that I figured that she was doing her thing, and I was doing mine. Truthfully I have figured out that she is a prime example of the difference between a friend and a equaintence!! Like my mother always said, "everyone has a suchness, a way that they 'just are' and you have to learn it, and file them into your life accordingly. I understand now what she meant
• United States
15 Sep 07
wow. well some people just dont take friendship seriously. i do. i love my friends even though i dont get to see them as much as i wish i could but with my 2 small kids, its not as easy anymore. If one of my friends didnt talk to me for 2 months, i'd wonder if they even wanted to be friends anymore and i too would just consider them an acquaintance. thats a good saying of your moms!
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
15 Sep 07
I have a sister that is kind of like that. It drives me crazy. I live 1100 miles away from her and the rest of my family. Every time we plan on going home, this sister asks me when we are going to be there, and when we are going to be available to hang out and whatever else. And then she flakes out and makes all these other plans. The first time we went home, she volunteered to be a camp counselor, even after she knew we were going to be there that week. The next time we were home, she agreed to go shopping with my son, me and one of our other sisters. After we had been shopping for about an hour, her then boyfriend called and said that someone wanted to take them out to dinner, so my sister decided she HAD to go with her friends that she sees every week or two instead of her sister and nephew that she never gets to see. She threw a fit when our other sister refused to take her home, and made her boyfriend come get her. Last time I was home, was for this sister's wedding. She didn't hang out with my son or I at all, and we even went home a week earlier than her wedding just to spend time with her! She also made us show up to the wedding early (her wedding was during my then 16 month old's normal nap time as well) for pictures, and then didn't have any pictures taken with us anyway. She was mad because we didn't sit in the front part of the church, but I had a cranky toddler to deal with! Anyway, next time we go home, we're not making any plans with her. We stay with my parents most of the time when we are home. If she wants to see us, she can just come there. They only live 25 miles from where she does.
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• United States
15 Sep 07
wow. i think my feelings would be a little hurt! you should really make her come to you next time you are at your parents and dont waste your time on her if other things and people are more important than spending some time with you. im sorry =(
@AmbiePam (50090)
• United States
14 Sep 07
Yeah, espcially when it's not your idea, it's theres. Been there. I mean, if they don't even give you a definite plan, it's more annoying. So you wait for a solid get together, and then last minute they decide, and they expect you to drop everything. Do you think she's having serious problems like anxiety? Or is she more inconsiderate in this as well as everything else?
• United States
15 Sep 07
well she said she got sick. i invited her to courtney's party and her reason for not coming was bc her hubby was sick. so i dont know. sometimes i think its because her other friend, who is a closer friend than i am, is coming over to her house. oh well!
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• Philippines
16 Sep 07
Hi there, yeah i have known some people who's like that ever since. They are my friends and we are good friends, and because we are good friends, maybe they always think that way and they are thinking that it would always be ok for me if they will cancel our meetings or plans for some trips, and so it's kinda annoying but they always sorry but still, they always does. Have a nice day ahead from Kiko and happy posting and earning here in MyLot and Godspeed.
• India
15 Sep 07
yaa..its my brother in law.....i hate ven he does something like tat..he tells v would o to movie etc etc etc..at last makes a call of sorry..im vexed n never ask 4 anything unless he comes n takes me..hehhe