Have you ever hurt someone you really cared about on a accident?
@indiandevil (2410)
Canada
September 14, 2007 8:08pm CST
Okay heres the story, I really care about this guy, and he loves me too. Problem is he is married and we have never acted on anything, out of respect. Well a few months ago, I was at his house for a party. He was all over me, even in front of his wife, and feeling very uncomfortable about it I pushed him away. I could see I had hurt him bad in his eyes. And then he tried to follow me in the bathroom, I went to push him out and he kissed me, I pushed him away. I feel that I may have hurt him bad because of this, and the fact that my friends were tring to hook me up with someone that night, he had tears in his eyes the rest of the night because he thought I had fallen for this other one... What should I do??
He had told me he is in a proccess for divorce. But it has been months.
5 responses
@sweetcakes (3504)
• United States
19 Sep 07
What makes a difference in an apology is a sincere desire to mend the situation. If you only want to get yourself out of a sticky situation without owning up to what you've done, it won't work. The psalmist wanted to be washed clean, so he freely admitted his sin and guilt (51:2-7). Because he wanted to improve the situation, he asked specifically for pure thoughts and a faithful heart (51:10). The person you've hurt needs to hear from you how you plan to make amends. You're not only looking for pardon, but for restoration.
@indiandevil (2410)
• Canada
19 Sep 07
Thing is, he still talks when he sees me, but the problem is I feel I did hurt him when I was pushing him away. Though it wasn't because I didn't love him, it was because he was married, and I felt Awkward about the situation.
I was never out to break up his marriage, however I can't help the way I feel for him, just the same as he can't help who he really loves, which makes me think more he should have never married her in the first place.
I guess though he really thought he was doing the right thing.
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@sweetcakes (3504)
• United States
21 Sep 07
yeah a person shouldn't get married if he is not ready to settle down. its not fare to the other parties involved.
@ayesha_nisha (289)
• India
15 Sep 07
well..this is a ough situation but tats not da way to show his love..he can talk to u tat he is not happy wid his partner but just coming simply n behaviong indecently i don things so its love.
@syndibee (799)
• United States
15 Sep 07
you should never explore feelings for this married man. simple as that, he's married and has promised himself to someone else.
i know you won't believe me but he's playing...either you, or his wife or both of you.
you should have never been at his house at a party anyways in my opinion knowing these feelings exist.
wait until the divorce is final if you want and he has papers in hand. until then STAY AWAY.
though my real advice, just move on and find true love with someone who is available.
@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
15 Sep 07
Listen to both of them! They are so right. You feel bad because you hurt him? How about his wife? Even if they are getting a divorce its wrong. Stay away from him until he gets a divorce, thats what you should do.
@meanangel (167)
• United States
15 Sep 07
You live your life. Date who you want and have fun. He is married. If he wants to be with you then when his divorce is final you could give it a shot. Not until then. You do not want to be the reason their marriage broke up. You can't put yourself on hold while waiting for him. If it is meant to be it will be given time. As long as this is unresolved you can be out there having fun and maybe you might find a man who is unattached and is the right one for you. You also need to think ahead if he would leave this wife for you what makes you think that in a couple of years that you wouldn't be on the reciving end?
Heart break sucks but waiting for him to make up his mind and take action has got to be worse.
