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Welcome back, I find I'm like you not getting much time on here as I get caught up in life and what it throws at you. Good luck with your son, I have two and I thank God for them. Don't have to much advice but I will say good on you for trying to be the best mum you can be, it's hard sometimes to enjoy every moment of their lives, just take lots of pictures and videos so when they are grown up and gone you have great memories!

You know what we think of as perfect honey isn't always the way they see perfect! You know that the times that things go wrong , if we allow ourselves to relax and go with the flow are the times that kids remember with joy later on! The other thing is if you make everything too perfect you can't enjoy it, your son will enjoy it more if you do too and if he never has anything but perfection he will probably put a lot of pressure on himself to make everything perfect as he gets older and also will get very upset when he has to face up to the fact that everything is not in fact perfect in life! My advice to you would be to relax a little - you have a wonderful son and are a wonderful Mum so please stop putting pressure on yourself and enjoy just being with him - it flies past so quickly! I haven't been online much honey but I have missed you when I have been here - it is good to see you! xxxx

Hello makingpots!(",) A warm welcome back to you!(",)I think your days spent with your little one is all worth it. I think, all mothers wanted only the best for their young ones and they wanted to create perfect moments to share with. Always spend time with your little boy because before you know it, he has grown to be a teenager. Great day and enjoy mylotting!(",)

My advise is to just relax a little. Not everything can turn out as perfectly as planned. Whether the plans turn out the way they're supposed to or not, you're making memories. Flexibility is a must with kids and especially a three year old. By adapting to the situation, your son will remember your strength and will draw on these memories you're making for years to come.

great to see you back,i know its so tough trying to make evrything perfect,us mothers have so much on our hands and not enough time in the day to do everything we would like to.my babies are growing so fast too and sometimes i feel like i need some extra eyes,legs,and arms because there is 3 of them and they are only 10 1/2 months apart between the 3.2 of them are twins so its like having triplets.but we can only do as much as we can and god willing to allow us.i know your doing a terrific job and never feel like your not,your only one person and can only do so much.enjoy every moment and take care hon.pattie

The one thing I can say is this, your son learns from you and his father so in that you just have to make yourself realize that nothing is perfect and in trying to make everything perfect is going to make you and everyone else miserable. You don't want those kinds of memories for your son. Try to keep that in mind. I'm a perfectionist too and I'm still working on that and have come a long way with it because I don't keep a perfectly clean house like I used to because I feel now that there's life out there waiting for me. My house can wait. So what if there is a dirty plate in the sink, it'll wait for me. So what if the party favors are out of place, it's not going to make the roof cave in. Hope you guys had a good time with the party!

Sweetie I know some People will probably think I am silly but I have 2 happy Adult Children and my Advise is plain and simple Love him, show him that you love him, hug him, tell him you love him and take every Day as it comes with him and those will be his most treasured Memory Mummy was always there no matter what Money does not make every Child Happy and when you want to do things with Children it does mainly involve Money today My Children treasure the Memory they have of the Mum that never gave up and was there Big Hugs

I am glad that your little one is growing up and you are enjoying every bit of it. I feel, we all should enjoy the quality time in whatever small or big way we can. For once it's gone - it's gone, we cannot revert it. I am not a mother but have seen my sisters doing some great job with their kids. My younger sister could actually afford to resign from her lucrative job and sje is a full tim home maker now. She enjoys every bit of my neice's growing up. She says, its precious. Indeed it is - we cannot afford to lose out on our kid's childhood. Trust me, we need it as much as the children need it. Thank you. Missed you baby.

Wow—it’s hard to stop and enjoy the moment- Especially when you are trying to make things perfect. But you have to force yourself to. Otherwise you miss so much- and the moment is not fun for anyone- I have found this out—when I’m trying to make it perfect- I’m not happy and then no one is happy. So plan as much as you can ahead of time- and then just enjoy it!

Hi, it is hard sometimes to fit everything in especially when you have young children. Yours is at a lovely age but also a demanding one as they need watching all the time so you are bound to feel a little stressed, also what can happen is when we have children we start turning into our own mothers. Was your mother like this? The best thing is that you have noticed that this is something that is causing you to miss out on joyfull moments as you are trying to control everything. It may help if you can relax so you might want to look at anything that is aimed to help us de stress, good food, lots of rest, aromatherapy, excersize, yoga, nights out with friends, anything that gives you pleasure such as funny films etc Once you feel less stressed out you might find you don't need to control everything as striving for perfection is a way of controlling our environment and can be triggered by stress. The main thing is that you have recognised a problem and that is always the first and most important in solving it. Good luck and I hope this helps a little.

Take it from a strong Type-A mom with a 3 year old, nothing you do can make all moments absolutely perfect. But the un-perfect moments are what make the memories all the more sweeter. I have found that the more I stress, the more unpleasant the event becomes for everyone around me, so I take a few minutes, find myself, have a few calming breaths, then rejoin the fray with a new frame of mind. For me its not so much finding time for me type activities as in recognizing that I am heading down the neurotic road and taking a step back to reflect for a minute. It also helps to have someone you trust like a good friend, husband, boyfriend, or family member that can recognize the tendency and take you aside and say 'Hey'. I have worked out a deal with a couple of friends to pull me aside if I am making others crazy. It works! Good Luck!