Younger or Older Partner, which one you prefer to be with?
September 17, 2007 5:54am CST
All my previous boyfriends were older than me and i enjoy their company because it makes me feel young - i feel like i have the right to have tantrums becoz im younger but then it make them feel that they are always right bcoz they are older i guess thats the reason why i ended our relationships. Now my husband is 5 years younger than me and i saw him a little immature about certain things. Sometimes i got irritated when i see childishness in him and i scolded him to act his age. Do you think i am being fair with him? what should i do to lessen my irritation?
17 Sep 07
I prefer to be someone older than me. Women tend to mature quicker than men so when we're first started out with dating guys we tend to go out with guys older than us rather than younger guys. How many 18 year old girls have you met that were happy to date a 16 year old guy? If so, it would be the exception rather than the norm. My husband is only 9 months older than me although we met in our mid 30s so it wasn't as if he had much maturing to do LOL! When I met my first husband I was 18 and he was 21 and that seemed a good age difference, much more than that and you could run the risk of having very different tastes I guess :) Telling a guy to act his age can come across as rather patronising especially if you are already married to him. You don't want to sound like his mum but like his wife. I see from your profile that you are 30 so you hubby must be 25ish. Some guys are mature at 25, some aren't - you made the decision to marry him so you should respect him as your husband even if he is childish sometimes - try not to see it as childishness, instead see it as him being young at heart. His behaviour hopefully will keep you young at heart too :)
17 Sep 07
I dont know sometimes i feel like his mom, lol. though sometimes he's being mature but theres more childishness in him, he still watch cartoons with my daughter till now and i dont know when he will realize that he should be over that. I want him to be more responsible you know, because whats happening is that he's becoming dependent on me. I earn more than he do and i want to see him strive harder but he doesnt, so sometimes it really frustrates me.