Do You love being his wife yet sometimes want to be single again?

United States
September 17, 2007 12:32pm CST
How many of you wives love your husband dearly & at the same time wish to be single sometimes? I would like to have one week with having to worry about is supper going to be done on time, have the kids had their baths, does everybody have clean clothes plus take care of my self.
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15 responses
• United States
18 Sep 07
It seems to me that you are not actually talking about wishing to be single, you are wishing to be free of some of your daily duties/responsibilities. These are two completely different things, but you are interwining your role as wife and your role as lady of the house/family manager. I never fantasize about being single again. But i do think about it being nice not to have to wash the floor, maintain the house, or pick up the mail. When i think about a "break" like that, I think of my husband being with me. Afterall, if you are both whisked away to a tropical paradise, the floor and dishes leave themselves at home and you are left to enjoy eachother's company even if you are just both being quiet and enjoying the silence/relazation. It is hard to remember sometimes that a spouse or a child is not the source of the chores but living with them is.
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• United States
21 Sep 07
I couldn't agree more. I always want to be with my husband
@lilaidi (155)
• United States
17 Sep 07
Our role as wife is a gift from God. But I can say from being married for a little over a year that I do have times that I would like to be single. Its mostly about freedom to me. Freedom to not think about a budget for the household and do what I want with the money and let the consequences fall on me! I adore my husband though, I have always wanted a family since I was a child and I would have it no other way. I am beginning to ask God what is it truly like for us to walk as one (in agreement) to the destiny that God has for us as a couple. Marriage is a gift, treasure it, because some people don't have it and are longing for so badddddd and they keep running into the wrong kind of people.
@TTucker3 (147)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I completely agree with you, marriage is a blessing, and we must do all we can to make our marriages work. There are many many people outh there looking for love, and at 24 I never thought it would come my way, and then boom, God sent my hubby..we have been together for eight years now, and married fro four and have a gorgeous baby girl, and I will always treasure that, but I will still wish for that one day..LOL
@meaculpa (339)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
I love my hubby dearly. He is God's gift to me. We were given blessings such as 3 beautiful babies. I really do not wish to be single again. I have gone thru that stage already. Maybe you were talking about becoming independent, nothing to worry about, but you can do that by giving time to yourself even if you are a wife and a mom. Set a side a time for yourself, set goals and achieve those. Good luck to you!
@meholl (510)
• United States
18 Sep 07
Well being single would be quite a shock to my system. Sometimes I wish I could run away with my husband and give the kids a vacation from us. But otherwise, I am happy to be my mans wife. But he works out of town for 2 weeks then comes home for a week. So, I get to play single mom for 2 weeks. By the way, could you explain what taking care of yourself is?lol I don't get to do that to often
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@carolscash (9501)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I don't know that I want to be single again. However, I do understand what you mean about not worrying about everything being done and taken care of. I think it would be nice to just have a single day that we didn't have to be mom or wife- just be ourselves!!
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@limcyjain (3523)
• India
26 Sep 07
I love my husband dearly but have never have had thoughts of being single again. I do want some time out with him. I mean he and me all alone free from our daily jobs and enjoying life both of us together. That would be a dream come true but in reality even when we move out there are calls to disturb and children to care for.
@TTucker3 (147)
• United States
26 Sep 07
I love my husband so much, but sometimes the way he acts, and the way he treats me..Yes i do wish i was single again, or to go back in time to just still be dateing. The housework, and daily routine can be very frustrating at times, and I wish for a time that i can get away, But I guess thats just soemthing that happens when you get married, the responsibilities come with it and you just have to accept it. I wish that we could go back to the romantic side of our relationship, and remember, ya know like go back in time and remember the whoel reason we fell in love, and how wrong we are now for treating each other the way we do. My husband has taken saturday as his and daughters day where he goes with her and spends the day with just her, He was always complaingin about how our daughter doesnt love him, and I told him you need to make some memories with her..I mean she wouldn't even hug him..Its getting better, and now I get saturdays to myself..so I get time away where I can act as if I am single again and do whatever I want!
• United States
21 Sep 07
That sounds more like you want to not have children, not so much that you want to be single. I've only been with my guy for 4 years, but I would never want to be single again. I think it would be a horrible way to live. But I don't have kids, I have health problems and can't work a regular job, and he and I share household duties. I don't have dozens of hustle'n'bustle responsibilities. In fact, I believe I have fewer being with him. If I were alone, I'd have to do everything by myself.
@gapeach65 (805)
• United States
20 Sep 07
My husband and I have been together for 10 years. I went from being married to being separated, to getting married a second time, I haven't been single in 20 years. We have our ups and downs, but I wouldn't give him up for anything. I don't ever think about being single, and I don't know what I'd do if I was. So to answer your question, no, I don't want to be single again.
@nyumix (1661)
• Belgium
20 Sep 07
yes, i do love what i have this time. Being a wife of my husband and a mother of my two beautiful children. I never think to regret my decision to marry with this man. I'm very much happy with him. He is still the one, and I don't bother to think to change my happy life.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
18 Sep 07
I can sure relate to this. Even though we are childless and immature and do pretty much what we want when we want sometimes I still think how it would be nice to be single again. It wouldn't really be but I think it at times. I know I would hate it but sometimes I wish it was just me and I didn't have to worry about anyone else.
@youless (90513)
• Guangzhou, China
18 Sep 07
Yes, I have such a thought sometimes. Sometimes I will miss the time when I was single. And especially after a quarrel with my husband, I would think that single life was better. However, when I am happy with my husband, I am thankful that I am married. So it depends on the mood.
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
18 Sep 07
During my 2nd marriage I did often think of being single again and how I missed it. However during this marriage, I never think that. I truly enjoy being married to my current husband. Maybe it is because I am alone much of the time, but I have never really thought of being single again since we have been together.
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
18 Sep 07
I love my husband so much that I would do anything to please him. When he's here on vacation, I make sure that I do everything what a wife should do. Because when he's away on his job, I feel like being single again, but of course I miss him so much. Just the kids I have to take care of in those times.
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I never feel like I want to be single again. My husband is gone with his job so much that sometimes I do feel like a single mother though. We are all going to be together again tomorrow and I am very excited!