Rude people

United States
September 19, 2007 1:31am CST
Ok so I'm sick and tired of people making assumpitons about my friends. This afternoon a friend of mine and myself went out for lunch. He is disabled but by looking at him you can't tell. He has a handicap sticker on his car and so he parked in a handicap spot in front of the store. As we were getting out someone comming out looked at him and told him that he couldn't park there becasue it was disabled parking. He looked at them and said I am disabled and kept walking. Well we just burshed it off and went on with heading in. A bit later some cop comes in and starts trying to harrass him for parking there. He was like look I have ever right to park there, I have a permit and I am disable. The cop was like well you look fine to me. I swear I wanted to smack the crap outta him at that point. Basicly my friend look like he's in perfect health, truth is he's not. He use to be a crane operator and got injured on the job and shattered both his ankles. He can't stand longer than 15 mins or he'll end up in the hospital. He's had over 40 surgeries to repair his legs and ankles. I get so tired of people assuming that just because you're not reliant on a wheelchair or have an obvious outter disability that you are not disable.
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16 responses
• United States
20 Sep 07
Sorry to hear you and your friend had to put up with this. Some people are just so insensitive. My father in law had a similar thing happen to him. They seen him walking (a cop did) and assumed he was just fine to park anywhere else. They wanted to know what his problem was. Needless to say my father in law lost his cool. So what ended up happening with your friend? Did he explain to the cops? Which by the way i dont think he should have to do that.
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• United States
20 Sep 07
My friend told the cop that he has every right to park there and his car has the proper permits on there. He told him that if he was going to continue to harrass him about him being disabled he'd file harrassment charges against him. The cop started to say something but then just walked off. I wanted to deck him to be honest I really did.
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@beaniegdi (1966)
19 Sep 07
I hope you made a complaint about the police office involved as that is dreadful. It sounds like someone has thought he was parking where he shouldn't and maybe thought they where doing the right thing by reporting him but the police man should not have had this attitude with him and should be reported.
• United States
19 Sep 07
The thing is he has a parking permit to park in a handicap spot. His tags are handicap plates and he's got the permit that hangs in the windshild. So there is no way that they couldn't see that he was within his right to park there. The guy just wanted to be a jerk because he said my friend didn't look disabled and shouldn't be allowed to park there. The cop was an even bigger jerk.
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@CatClaws (115)
• United States
19 Sep 07
Hi, I totally know where you are coming from. I have a friend that was wounded in Iraq. She has a prosthetic leg. You can't even tell she has it when she has pants on because she has gotten so used to it she doesn't even have an awkward gate or limp. She also has a problem with her left arm. SHe doesn't have a humerous bone in her upper arm, instead she has a titanium bar that runs from her shoulder to her elbow. But you can't tell just by looking at her. SHe is 30 years old. She got cussed out by an old woman one day at walmart cause she parked in the handicapped parking. She has a permit. So after a few minutes of fussing with the woman she pulled her pants leg up and her shirt sleeve and showed her. Needless to say the woman didn't know what to say. SHe said she was sorry. And to top it off the old woman was even disabled. She was in her sisters car who is disabled. Since her sister had a permit on the car she wanted to park in the handicapped parking. Age doesn't matter whether you have a disability or not neither does physical appearance. People need to wake up and not assume things that they have no business assuming. I hope your friend didn't move his car when the cop came. He had every right to be there. That was just rude.
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• United States
19 Sep 07
He kept his car right where it was parked. The strange part was I think I was more pissed about the situation then he was. I guess he's use to dealing with people like that but I don't think he should have to. He shouldn't have to constantly explain himself and his disability. I guess its cause I know what its like to be harrassed over stupid crap like that.
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
19 Sep 07
I know what you mean. My father is the same way, he looks perfectly healthy but he has respiratory problems and can only walk short, unstrenuous distances. You would never know it unless you stopped him to talk to him about it, in which case he would have to catch his breathe before he could respond to you. I think that cop was a little out of line. The stranger on the street might not know better, but cops should know that there are verying degrees of need for handicap permits.
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• United States
19 Sep 07
It drives me nuts when people think that just because you don't look like you should be handicap or disable that you aren't. Then they make this huge deal out of it and for what? What right do they have to question others on their disability?
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@HighReed1 (1126)
• United States
20 Sep 07
I hate ignorant people! I know that in at least one state you have to get your doctor to fill out your paperwork for the plates and stickers. If your DOC thinks you need it, who is anyone ELSE to question? Sounds like that cop needs some extra training. The other guy just needs smacked.
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• United States
20 Sep 07
I think that power leads to way to much precociousness nowadays. I mean what happened there was just cruel, if you have a permit, then you have every right to be there. They might believe that they're doing the right thing to fight justice, but instead, they're just making the idea that cops are the worst even worse
@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
19 Sep 07
Yeah that would have peeved me too. It's an age old lesson, "don't judge a book by it's cover". And especially being a cop, I hate it when they feel they can just say what ever they want.
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
19 Sep 07
To get a handicap sticker, you have to have prescription from doctor to get it, I would have taken that cop out and pulled out the registration to the sticker and showed him my license so he could see it was issued to me. I would tell him, they wouldn't give it to me without a reason, am I right? Saying this, I would also tell the officer that I expect nothing more to be said because then I will have to report him for harrassment. I have nothing to prove to him, except the registration for the handicap tag.
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19 Sep 07
I can really relate to this hun, my Mother is disabled and finds it very hard to walk very far. She looks fine, the only hint is the splints on her legs which she keeps covered by wearing trousers.It makes me so angry when ignorant people make assumptions purely on appearance anyway, but being disabled does not necessarily show.
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@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
19 Sep 07
To ahve a stranger come and act that way is nothing new or strange but to have a police man doing it its plain wrong. It should be enough to him to see the sticker and I am sure he can check if its legit or not. My father lost an eye in a car crash in 1976 and he has lots of problems with the other eye. He drives a car (and he is regularly tested to see if he can still drive) any way when it comes to parking depending on the light in the area sometime he need more space and thats why he usses the sticker sometime (not always) and he has had the looks and the comments but he has the sticker. Lots of times I see cars without sticker park in the disability parking if the parking is full and the security dont even tell people off.
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@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
19 Sep 07
I can't believe a cop would do that! I wonder if person #1 called him? If he harassed you you should report him, well you friend should any ways. Doctors don't just give out the stickers for the heck of it.
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• United States
20 Sep 07
Yea the guy that was leaving called as we were going into the diner to wait to be seated. We were sitting in the waiitng area when the cop walked in and asked who's car was parked there. It was a total pain in the butt and I wanted to punch the both of them.
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@claire03 (1444)
• United States
20 Sep 07
You'll encounter a lot of rude people on earth devilsangel. i feel bad for your friend that he has to be a victim of this rude people. Hope there's still a cure for his bad ankle. God bless!
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• United States
19 Sep 07
I never knew that. I use to assume that if someone is handicap you would be able to tell just by looking at them. They don't know about your friend's situation. They like most people use sterotypes to judge people. They think that if someone looks healthy then they are not disabled. Sure its not true what they think but it is very unlikely for them to meet a handicap person that looks healthy. You should explain it to the cop since the cop can write you a ticket. You can tell at least one other person and maybe they will tell others about your friend's situation.
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@ash6666 (819)
• India
19 Sep 07
My dear,after reading and understanding what you want to say i would like to tell a small thing,Please dont take it to heart.Actually the matter is not about that person is your friend or not .As he is your freind you know what his diability is and how come the persons looking from outside will know.You only said that he looks normaland that parking place is reserved for the handicapped ,outers after seeing him first will think that the place is occupied by non-disable person .When the first person asked about it you should have explained them the disability,might the problem has been solved then itself.And regarding their behaviour ,its the normal psychology of the people to think so and we doesnt need to take them to heart.Afterall we are the part of the society.
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@fredgame (1261)
• China
19 Sep 07
The saying goes that '"outward appearance is deceptive" i think the cops should have been in a good position to have patience to investigate why he did that and shouldn't just jump into conclusion. The man has seen the sign post and knows it's for disabled people and has parked his car there so they should sense something. in fact we really use the outward appearance in judgement and that causes alot of arguement and threat to society. i also think he should make the disabled sign on his car bold so people will not worry him so much.
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• Philippines
23 Sep 07
Hi there, what's been up to lately buddy? Well there's a lot of people who's so rude and it's really annoying and there's really a type of person in this World and they are many. They are annoying in a sense that, they feel so superior and they are so inconsiderate people. I hate those people as i always encounter such people like that wherever i go. Have a nice day ahead and happy posting and earning here in myLot. Godspeed, Kiko