i have new born child, but i guess i m not her biological father.

United Arab Emirates
October 27, 2006 10:15am CST
how can i be sure, whether my new born child is my own child. because i was with my wife since a year, trying to make her pregnent but i was unable to do so. i left her in her mother home when she was 8th day of her last mensural period and i gone aboard for job (for three years). then she said that she got pregnent there in her mother home, where she has her boyfriend. so, i do not beleive that i m the biological father of the child. please help me, and tell me how can i be sure that i m the biological father or not of the child. thanks, waiting your reply soon, on neera_nilu@yahoo.com
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@amsharma (1861)
• United States
27 Oct 06
You go get a DNA test done to prove whether or not you are the father. Good luck!
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• India
27 Oct 06
Medical science has gone far ahead in such matters .u can consult any expert or may be your own family physician.
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• United States
27 Oct 06
I would say probably not your child if you weren't there. Is she saying that it is?
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• United States
27 Oct 06
I agree..DNA is the way to go. But love the child no matter what.
@indiandevil (2098)
• Rothesay, New Brunswick
27 Oct 06
Yes getting a DNA test is the only for sure thing that will tell you if you are really the father
• United States
27 Oct 06
You can do a DNA test you can order one online cheaper then gettin one at a hospital. But if you love this baby it shouldnt matter if you are the father or not. In your eyes you are and in the babys you are too
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@remaster74 (4066)
• Greece
27 Oct 06
I didn't catch the whole point of discussion. Your wife had a baby, when you were away. You say that you were gone for 3 years. When did she tell you about the baby? How are you sure that your wife had a boyfriend? She told you that? I have also to know how old is the baby know. I would say anyway, that if you are having any questions, you must have a DNA test done. But remember this: it's the parent that helps the child to grow up that deserves to be called "father" or "mother" and not the one that created the child. I think you should ask your self, if you are ready to lose the joy of raisin a child whether this child is "made" vy you or not, and not giving tha child the pleasure to be raised properly. lo, I hope you will have the answer in your heart.!!!!
@briennekb (613)
• United States
27 Oct 06
All you can do is get a paternity test. They can be very expensive. But if you weren't there around the time the child was conceived, you can pretty much conclude that the child isn't yours. I would investment my money in a divorce lawyer if I were you.
• United States
27 Oct 06
As all have spoken, DNA is the only way to tell, if you are not sure. Thank goodness for that, long time ago, we didn't have a way to tell besides a blood test. If the test decides that the child is not yours, it's not the child's fault. That child did not do anything to you or anyone, and it should not be taken out on him/her, Amen. Either way, be bless.
@dellion (6706)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 06
DNA test will be the best to know ....other than that a blood test can tell the truth as well...
• India
28 Oct 06
Check with DNA test. Ur wife might be thinking for famili planing.
@Obilorg (74)
• Nigeria
28 Oct 06
Haba! Even in this age? Learn to believe your wife or better still, go for a DNA test. Simple!
• Macedonia
28 Oct 06
Your wife has BOYFRIEND ??? What is this ??? Devorce her and for child even if it is not yours it has right for love. Love it and treat it good and at the end you will see that you will fill great with your life !!!
@Faye88 (1009)
• Singapore
28 Oct 06
Yap,I agree with the others.Do get an DNA tested if you want an answer.But do love the child no matter what as it is not the baby's fault.There are couples out there adopting childrens and love them as their own.You can treat it as your own child etc.No matter what outcome the decision is yours just don't hurt anyone in the process.Maybe I worry too much.
• United States
28 Oct 06
Get a paternity test...
@marciascott (25554)
• United States
28 Oct 06
Hello to you, yes you should go get a bloodtest done to be sure, that's the only you well find out for sure. DNA.
@chebel82 (417)
• United States
27 Oct 06
I agree with everyone else get the DNA test, and assure your wife you just want to know for sure, and hopefully if the baby isn't yours you won't go all crazy, I wish you and your family the best of luck
@deeds14 (815)
• United States
27 Oct 06
You can take a paternity test, but the important thing is if you choose to be the father or not. Genetics only mean so much. It means more if you are there for the child and if you will care for him.
• India
27 Oct 06
do the dna test, but do not let suspicision kill you. do trust your wife. but certainly boyfriend and .. is a little bizzare i certainly do wish to chat with you do message me on zanilhyder@yahoo.com but i assume you are no idiot playing a prank on cyber space. these are a few serious issues.
@britishyip (1614)
• India
27 Oct 06
if you want to be with your wife.. i suggest you to have faith on her.. if you dont have so, the last option is DNA test.. Decision is yours..