depression due to break up

United States
September 19, 2007 5:25am CST
I have been so depressed over a recent breakup. I have totally let myself go and find myself drinking a lot. I just can't get over it. Has anyone ever gone through this and how did you find your way out again?
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5 responses
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
19 Sep 07
Put the bottle away! That's not going to help you through this. You have to let the hurt out Barbie. I did the same. Find a good spot and yell out that you are someone and that whoever hurt you is the worst! Also if it was a vicious breakup its okay to vilify them when you can. Don't do it so much right away because you have a lot of feelings to sift through. Focus in on yourself as well. Keep reminding yourself you are excellent. Make time for yourself. Do what you want to do with your life. You'll realize that relationships aren't necessary for happiness.
@phayeth (519)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
yeah thats right.. co'z being depress not not good... sometimes it will affect ur health..
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
Put your health as your priority. Focus on yourself. Avoid thinking too much, I know it's tough, just let it pass time will come everything will be fine. Good luck!
• United States
22 Sep 07
Yeah lastnight I tried to do that but whenever I go I they want to know wher the other half is and then they star talking about it and I start thinking about it again
@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
i felt depression before when the father of my baby left us..i don't let myself go on drinking because i was pregnant that time, but i cried every night, that i'm thinking that i wanted to end my life..but thanks God i recovered,it's because of the support of my family, specially from my mother..and now, i already moved on and my daughter is almost 3..i'm happy with my life, though i'm still single..
• United States
19 Sep 07
Wow! that is awsome I support of very few friends and I have found that now that I am so far away I am out of sight and out of mind. Just makes me sad that people will talk to me on the phone and I here how perfect their lives are. So many things to overcome but I know that I will prevail. Thank you and god blees you always and your little one. I have 3 of my own that is what makes it so hard
@cutebaby4 (196)
• India
19 Sep 07
Its really very sad to know about your breakup. I also had gone through the same phase. i was in the position of nervous breakdown. But i coped up. the best way is by trying to hang out with other friends, and not to leave even a single moment trying to think. You should totally make yourself busy
• United States
19 Sep 07
I know that is the right thing to do. After I left I had to find a place and the place that I could afford was in another town. I don't know to many people here and the only social place is the ber. I am now in financial ruins and deperately searching to find the vibrant slef I once was.
@diillu (5130)
19 Sep 07
I know break-ups are painful. The most easiest way to come over the break-up is to think over it like a natural phenomena. It comes and it goes. The more you think about it the more deeper you go and the more pain you will get. So, it is alot better for you if you think less about it and engage yourself in mind occupying things like work out, paintings, going out with friends. Avoid drinking totally cause when you are drunk you end up thinking more abou it. So, friend the only treatment is get your mind occupied somewhere else and you won't even know when your pain is gone.
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
19 Sep 07
I am certainly no expert on this subject; but have broken up before with people (including the breakdown of a marriage). I most definitely never coped well with the thought of being alone that's for sure! Which is odd because I am not an overly social person outside my work role, I just like the security of loving someone and being loved in return! My advice is to surround yourself with family and friends and to keep as busy as you can..... Especially mentally busy. There is no greater enemy than your own thoughts! Everything happens for a reason and every door that closes allows another one to open. Both are common cliches I know, but both very true! The other thing to always keep in mind is that every day that goes by gets easier..... Just a little bit at a time. In the not too distant future you will look back on this and wonder what the heck all the fuss was about! Stay positive and good luck!