Motherhood a blessing and a curse

@Perry2007 (2229)
Philippines
September 19, 2007 8:25am CST
The first discussion that took my attention is from someone who solicited opinion on whether Pregnancy and being a mother is essential to complete a woman. What can you say? Perhaps not, in my opinion. Although every woman including myself at one point in their lifetime may have wanted to one day get married and have children and raise a family, as normally people do. Not all are destined to walk that path. Being a mother is both a blessing and a curse, I suppose. What do you think? I'm looking forward to hear what you can share as a mother, and would like to her from those who had not the experience of motherhood.
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13 responses
19 Sep 07
I think to myself it makes me feel complete in away i have 2 children and i'm pregnant with my 3rd i think that it makes me feel more conected and commited more to my partner..... It's defo personal choice i would love to adopt too, maybe in the future!!
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
Thank you, have a great day mother
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@dopey22girl (3324)
• United States
19 Sep 07
I am not a mother, and I think that the whole pregnancy is the essential to complete a woman completely depends on the person. There are many women out there who do not want children, and that is just fine. It doesn't mean that they are not a complete woman. This is all a matter of personal wants and desires. I personally want a child, so I guess I wouldn't feel complete until I had done something like that. But there are also women who want children, but physically can't have them or give birth, so they adopt instead. There are so many different ways you could go with this, but I think it all boils down to personal wants.
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
Thanks for your response, well said
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• United States
20 Sep 07
If the only way you can be considered a woman is by being a mother, I will never be a woman.I never wanted children or to be married.For me motherhood would be a curse.Thank G-d there is a choice. I don't think it is fair for others to tell females who is a woman and who is not. There are many mothers that never carried their children. By this narrow definition, adopted mothers would not be "real" women.And what about the women out there that can't get pregnant or carry a baby to term?They wouldn't be women either?
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
lol - when you are happy... cover your mouth
Sometimes we can laugh at things in life... just allow me this one time... LOL... I just like the way you state facts. thanks for sharing. You are sooooooo right.
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• United States
20 Sep 07
Thank you.
@love_all (308)
• India
19 Sep 07
Hi Perry, I am not sure why do you say motherhood as a curse. I am pregnant and find myself as the happiest woman on earth today. well I also do agree to you on the fact that everyone doesnot have the same choice.
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
Congratulations... Take care of your self and of the baby... as a curse? maybe because of the challenge, danger and hardship a mother goes through from conception to rearing and pains of possible loss of a child, I might be wrong. You are looking at all the blessings, keep looking that way. thanks for sharing.
@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
I admire the courage of you both. One sees motherhood as a curse and the other a curse. Both are valid. May you both be happy with the choices you made. Have a great discussion time and God Bless.
• Spain
21 Sep 07
First of all let me state that I am a mother of two wonderful boys and obviously my opinion is based on that experience. Having had them fairly late in life, after many years of childfree adulthood, I feel I am in a good position to compare the two paths. I do not in any way feel that motherhood is essential to complete a woman, but I do feel that if you truly want to experience the whole gamut of emotions in life from euphoric highs to unimaginable lows you can only experience this as a parent, and possibly a mother in particular as she alone can feel that child growing inside her. I'm not saying being a mother makes a woman better but you simply cannot feel the same emotion from nieces, nephews, friends etc. There is of course no reason why everyone should want to accept the lows of parenthood, and choosing to forego the highs, if it is a personal choice and not a decision made for you, isn't a loss you'll necessarily even miss. If however you are unable to have children for any reason and are unable to move on, then it is quite possible you will feel incomplete.
@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
Thanks, you have a clear opinion and stated it greatly
@2babita (1074)
• India
20 Sep 07
Well,its a nice discussion.I think its a blessing not a curse.I think we women are born and got the god bless us with this beautiful pain.God created men then women from taking a part from men's body.I think men and women are both blessed for motherhood.I think its make a women's life complete.
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
Thanks... what about the women who are eunuch, and the married woman who can't just conceive by so many reasons, thus unable to become biological mothers, Shall we call them incomplete woman? thanks for sharing.
• United States
20 Sep 07
My son is 2 now, and every day gets a little bit easier. When he was born he was like a curse. He screamed all the time and never slept! I had severe post-partum depression and at the time I resented him for that. However, he is wonderful now, and seems like the perfect child. So now he is definately viewed as a blessing!!! It is definately worth the wait!
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
Well said, that is what I mean by a blessing and a curse, the blessing of course much overweight the curse, as it is there is a price to birth pains. Congratulations for being a mother. Have a great time and may you enjoy all the blessings of motherhood.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
19 Sep 07
I'm male .. yet has the strong contention that womanhood is synonymous with motherhood. A woman,by the time she gets married is prepared to conceive and deliver. otherwise the institution of marriage would be meaningless. It is the woman who has to bring out the progeny and keep mankind growing. A woman is great beyond words in that respect. She is to be admired,loved and respected since she is the one that keep generations on the move. Love ...
@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
Thank you both for the discussion... I'm exited to read some point of view on motherhood as a curse, does anybody out there think it is some kind of that? Have a great time posting.
@aorr01 (15)
• United States
19 Sep 07
For me it has been a blessing! I am 23 years old and my husband and I have a 5 yr old son and a 3 month old son. We had our first child very young, but if we had not had him our lives would be in very different places...for the worst. Being a mother is a huge task, but well worth it. Hearing my 5 yr old say he loves me is the best thing in the world! Looking at my newborn and seeing something my husband and I created is just amazing.
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
Congratulations... May you have all the blessings of being a mother. Thanks for sharing
@BlueAngelRS (2900)
• Canada
19 Sep 07
I look at being a mother as a blessing.. I have my first child at a really young age but did pretty well and now I have my second child...Some days I wish I had more of a break and was able to go out and just either shop or whatever to have time for myself but money and the age of our daughter is always an issue she is really at a stage of being mommys suck right now it's good when my son's in school and she napping I do get sometime to myself...
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
Thanks for sharing the blessings of motherhood
@Nanette99 (220)
• Canada
20 Sep 07
I hope to never ever have children. I have a boyfriend, a dog, a cat, a full time job, a side business and a morgage. Also, I love learning so I am constantly taking night classes. Call me selfish but I am finally happy with how my life is going and I do not want any poop filled diapers messing it up! I have a brother that is 20 years younger than me and he is as close as I plan to get to raising a child. :)
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• United Arab Emirates
20 Sep 07
I feel that motherhood is a blessing. As a mother, I have learned to love kids, to be more patient, to respect and care for elders, to support other etc. I was very carefree but caring even before. But, after being a mother, I became more matured and responsible. It changes your life for good. Being a mother is always a blessing.
• Spain
21 Sep 07
First of all let me state that I am a mother of two wonderful boys and obviously my opinion is based on that experience. Having had them fairly late in life, after many years of childfree adulthood, I feel I am in a good position to compare the two paths. I do not in any way feel that motherhood is essential to complete a woman, but I do feel that if you truly want to experience the whole gamut of emotions in life from euphoric highs to unimaginable lows you can only experience this as a parent, and possibly a mother in particular as she alone can feel that child growing inside her. I'm not saying being a mother makes a woman better but you simply cannot feel the same emotion from nieces, nephews, friends etc. There is of course no reason why everyone should want to accept the lows of parenthood, and choosing to forego the highs, if it is a personal choice and not a decision made for you, isn't a loss you'll necessarily even miss. If however you are unable to have children for any reason and are unable to move on, then it is quite possible you will feel incomplete.