Sticks and Stones...

United States
September 20, 2007 1:27am CST
You know that old saying, " Sticks and stones may break my bones but words could never hirt me"? Well I think it is more " Sticks and stones may break my bones , but words cause permanent damage." Have you ever had someone call you a name or started a lie about that you could never forgive?I am very sensitive and I have a very long memory, a bad combination.That means I will remember what was said longer than the person who said it. And that is real bad for that person.How about you? Can you forgive a person if they have called you a name or said something wrong about you?
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15 responses
20 Sep 07
I spent most of my childhood being told I was fat and ugly, now I have no self esteem and I hate looking at myself. Don't ever let anyone say that words can't hurt, because they do. I cannot forgive members of my own family for their words when I was a lot younger.
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@Zhukov (106)
• Norway
20 Sep 07
But if you "hate" yourself for something like that, then its kinda your own fault isent it? negative words are good, only way you know when you gotta change, know what i mean.
• United States
20 Sep 07
Zhukov, obviously you haven't had negative things said to you on a regular bases.It isn't Recycledgoth's fault .And that attitude is a reason teasing goes on and on .
• United States
20 Sep 07
Recyclledgoth , I know it is hard when people that are suppose to love you say negative things. I hope you have a lot of friends. That is what is so great about friends, they can become your family. Especially when your real family isn't ideal. Take care.
@Zhukov (106)
• Norway
20 Sep 07
If you think words are worse then getting beaten, then you never been beaten good enough lol.
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• United States
20 Sep 07
No fortunately i haven't been beaten but your wounds from a beaten will hear, and harsh words won't heal.
@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
I ravel light, my friend... each day, as we live our daily life, there will always be words said about you that may affect your being, whether they are true or not. You may correct them, but their perception may not change. For me, I do the best that can be done to deal with people, the best way I know how, If it falls short to some, Others may find it much. If others seem to fall short on me as I may be to others, I draw on others with much. There is always some positive in even the things others may see as negative. I choose to look at the positive, although recognizing the presence of some negatives, then handle the situation from there. It is always easier to forgive and forget.
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@bizmom (515)
• United States
20 Sep 07
very true! its so easy to remember the bad someone did to use sometimes more than the good - why is that? :( but yeah words can cut u deeper than any knife ever could! ( especially children!!!) and not so easy to forgive - i think giving a person the CHANCE to correct it, apologize is the right thing to do, but dont let ur guard down to much even after - sadly those that hurt will do it again :( ( most times... not all) Yeah there are still things said to me that hurt when i think of them - but the person who said it isnt hurting over it why should i let it interfer with MY life too? :( xx
• United States
20 Sep 07
I find it difficult to do but I do it - forgive those who intentionally hurt me. It affects our relationship - the trust factor is gone and usually I can find out who is lying about me when that happens. What I suggest is to be very aware of the people around you, and decide on their ACTIONS whether or not they are worthy to be your friend. sunnywaters
• United States
20 Sep 07
Great Advice.
@eprado (1473)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
Hello sarahruthbeth22, Yes I know that old saying but I agree with what you said. I think it hurts people more when they hear bad words being said about them rather that just physically hurting them. I did once before had trouble and fought with someone. The physical part well I easyly had gone pass and forgot about it. But the words that have been said that where it really hurts. Its been years since that happened and yes I've forgiven that person but its took quite sometime, a year, before I did. After I have forgiven I have forgotten about it already and go on with my life.
• United States
20 Sep 07
That is fantastic. You are a better person than I. I wouldn't forgive the person for saying those words.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I do think that words can make a lasting impression. People should be more careful. They can stick to you like glue. You ussually don't remember all the good comments, but you do remember the nasty ones.
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@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
25 Sep 07
i agree. words can cause permanent damage. but only if the person isnt willing to forgive and forget the person who said those words. but then again, most of the times, the words would hurt so much and the relationship would be tainted and things will change making the damage permanent. i dont have a good memory and im a sensitive person, good combination but not for me. coz even if i forget the hurtful words that's been said to me, i would still remember how i was hurt and that would change everything.
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@twallace (2675)
• United States
21 Sep 07
i know what you mean words a permanent pain that can not be erased. Wounds that sometime never heal. You deal with it but there are time when you know that is the only thing that you can remember what was said to you by someone or what you have said to other that can not be changed. Once up have uttered words out of your mouth. To apologize is not going to take away the pain.
• United States
21 Sep 07
I used to think so but it takes more than for me now.I think it would take alot more than just saying I'm sorry.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
21 Sep 07
I broke my wrist a few years ago. My wrist is now okay, but what my father said that I was greedy, still affects you. Words bruise your spirit and your heart. You can forgive the person, but you cannot remove the memory.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
20 Sep 07
I am very sensitive too so even though ppl say that words don't can't hurt you...they do with me. I also tend to remember what ppl say that hurts my feelings. My Dad always said I have little glass feelings and they are always getting hurt. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
20 Sep 07
I agree with you. words can hurt you more deeper than stones and sticks. A wound that stones or sticks make can be cured with time, but pain that hard words give us remain in our memories for long time and make us unhappy and restless bringing tears to our eyes from time to time. I don't think even forgiving such a person will heal our wounds. Ones the harsh words come out of mouth, then they are like nails which keep hurting you.But I believe in one fact, that if you are innocent and someone has deeply hurt you, then that person also cannot live in peace, somewhere somehow, he too gets the same from someone. God has made this world quite balanced, each one gets fruit of his good and bad deeds , may be soon or late, so just leave everything to time. Try to forget.....and come out of this pain. May God help you.
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@Sheribabe (446)
• United States
20 Sep 07
I do believe words hurt.. ask anyone who had something horrible or hurtful said to them in childhood. Most people do recall these things. If they didn't hurt so much, chances are you'd never remember those things said to you.
@ash6666 (819)
• India
20 Sep 07
world is beautiful - world is beautiful look for that
aticks and stones may break bones but they may be cured in the time by.But words hit the heart which hurts much more.Once broken heart never returns back to normal.Forever in the life.So be carefull may involve in the breakage of bones but dont get into the breakage of heart.What happens if some one calls our name wrong leave them their way.try to correct it once or twice,then also if they dont listen leave them to hell.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
20 Sep 07
Oh yes I can!! WEll firstly I won't remember it that long cause I have weak memeory so I try to remember only "important things"!! Why to fill up your mind with all those valueless craps?? YOu just can't let every other person to come and affect you!! DOn't make the house of glass you cannot prevent others from throwing stones..!! YOu have to strong and protected otherwise this world will never let you live freely!! I love my life and freedom that is why I never let any one take my freedom away..!! I can't let everyone come and hurt me!! Some times I remember some critiques so that I can correct my self for right cause..!! Sometimes I just forget it!! :) YOu just needs to be strong!!